Mr. Lu Xun has always been "spoken with cold eyes and pointed at thousands of people". Can you imagine the scene of him singing his own children's song to coax his son to sleep?
"Little red, small elephant, small red elephant; small elephant, small red, small elephant red; small elephant, small red, small red elephant, small red elephant, small red elephant, small red red red".
Such a cute children's song was sang from the mouth of Lu Xun's tough guy with an iconic thick beard, which is really unbelievable!
What is even more unexpected is that Lu Xun was once a firm DINK . He felt that the country's current situation was turbulent and his work was unstable, so there was no need to have a baby;
Originally studying medicine, he actively adopted various contraceptive measures after living with Xu Guangping , but he still did not stop his son from coming.
Our Mr. Lu Xun is a person who cares about people. If you come, you will be at ease. God wants to give a son, so be a good father!
1 Accompanying
is different from many fathers who "widowed parenting". Lu Xun's care for his son began from birth and he personally experienced and took almost everything.
Son Haiying When he was a child, he was weak and sickly, and had Asthma . He often coughed so much that his parents were restless.
Xu Guangping once said that the child coughed in the middle of the night, even if he was not in the same room, Lu Xun always heard it first.
His ears are very sensitive to the child's voice, and as soon as he hears it, he gets up to take care of him.
has no experience in taking care of children, so he bought a lot of books to refer to. Like many new parents now, he is "raising according to books".
The child has asthma. He specially designed ways to relieve asthma and formulated special feeding guidelines for the child.
If the child wants to see a doctor, he will do his best to accompany him; if he really has something to do, he will buy two gifts, one for the child and the other for the doctor.
Such a careful father is really enviable! In the letters he wrote to his friends, he often saw various information about his children:
"I have to listen to stories every night, telling how bears live, how radish grow up..."
"He has a tanned face and a strong body than last year. He seems to be more obedient recently and is unreasonable..."
"He wants to imitate me in everything, but only clothes are unwilling to learn from my casualness. He loves beauty and has to wear foreign clothes..."
It can be seen that he has never been absent from his children's company. He served the child to eat and sleep, told stories to the child, and was good at everything from literature and martial arts to directly named himself the "Twenty-Five Filial Piety" father.
Such careful companionship leaves warm memories for the young Haiying and becomes the warm background for Haiying to grow up healthily.
2 Understanding
In the old days, fathers seemed to have a natural authority and a high status towards their son, and sons were often respectful and afraid of their father.
But Lu Xun broke this tradition. He was very willing to squat down, listen to his son's ideas, and try to look at the problem from his son's perspective.
In his book "The Secret of Getting With Family", he said that he should take every word of his children seriously and not ridicule or ignore them because of their naive speech. Children also have their own reasons.
Writer Xiao Hong once said that once I went to Lu Xun's house for dinner, and there was a fish ball soup called from the restaurant on the table.
Haiying took a bite of the meatball and vomited it out, saying that the meatballs were not fresh. The others felt that it was fine after tasting it, and they didn't feel relieved about what Hai Ying said.
But Haiying repeatedly insisted on her opinion and was unwilling to eat it again. Xu Guangping felt that his son was using his little character and scolded him in public.
Lu Xun picked up the meatball that his son had bitten and tasted it. It felt really not fresh.
He hurriedly told everyone, "Maybe the chef mixed the leftover meatballs sold yesterday in the dish while cooking, and it happened to be eaten by Haiying. Everyone blamed Haiying for mistakes!"
"He said it was not new and there must be his reason. It is wrong to erase it without checking it."
Although Haiying was only 5 years old at this time, his father's behavior of being willing to maintain and understand his ideas must leave a heavy warmth in his little heart.
3 Respect
In "How We Be Fathers", Lu Xun wrote:
"In the past, Chinese people always thought that children were reduced versions of adults, but in fact they were not. Children have a world of children, and children have their rules and principles."
Respect children's rules and principles and respect children's nature is Lu Xun's consistent persistence towards Haiying.
He truly regards the child as an independent and thoughtful individual, not his own vassal.
Friends a set of building blocks for Haiying from the Soviet Union, which are composed of many metal pieces. They can be disassembled indefinitely and then assembled into various interesting items.
Haiying couldn't put it down, and she became addicted to dismantling it and removed all the clocks, phonographs and phonographs at home. Some of the items that were removed from
can be barely installed and used, while others can never be installed again.
In an era of material scarcity, ordinary children had been beaten a few times in this way, but Haiying had never been scolded for this.
Because Lu Xun felt that " games are the most legitimate behavior of children, and toys are children's angels."
Not only that, he saw that Haiying likes to disassemble and assemble things so much, so he went to a toy store to buy a set of children's woodworking toys for the child.
Haiying was so happy now that she knocked and slapped at home like a carpenter all day long.
Because of Lu Xun's natural protection and support for children, Haiying has always been very interested in science when she grew up. She relied on her own abilities to study physics at Peking University and became a radio expert.
You may not know that the next sentence of "I am cold in my eyes and fingers against thousands of people" "I am willing to be a ox for a child" is the original meaning of expressing the deep love between father and son.
Mr. Lu Xun really loves this old man from the bottom of his heart.
But his love is not arrogance and pampering without principles, but a child-oriented approach that allows children to grow up healthily into independent and free people.
He never thought about how his child would become successful, nor did he force his child to inherit his legacy and become a writer;
only hopes that his child can do what he likes, be a person who contributes to society, and live a healthy life.
As Lu Xun wished, although Haiying did not become a master of the literary world like him when she grew up, she also became famous and married in the field she loved, and lived a light, happy and satisfied life.
Poet Liu Yazi once said that I was the first to praise Mr. Lu Xun for the greatest figure in children's education in modern times.
Indeed, even today, Mr.’s educational concept is still worthy of reference by young parents.
