The child reaches the rebellious period, which is the most troublesome period for parents.
Because at this time, children are energetic, have a strong desire for knowledge, have their own thoughts, and have their own ability to think independently.
This makes parents very troubled.
They don’t know how to communicate with their children, nor do they know how to guide their children so that they can become obedient and excellent?
Next, let’s talk about how parents should do it when their children reach the rebellious period.
Adolescence is a watershed in children's life. If you do not do a good job of communicating with your children, it is easy to cause tension in the parent-child relationship.
But when you find it is becoming more and more difficult to communicate with your child, you may have to reflect on whether you don’t pay enough attention to him.
If parents want to improve their parent-child relationship, they need to do the following: care more and communicate more ; and when you do this, your children will become better and better.
So don't have any headaches for those problems anymore.
1. Follow more and communicate more
Follow more and communicate more is the first thing parents should do in adolescence.
If parents do not pay enough attention to and pay attention to their children at this stage, then the children will gradually get used to it.
Once he starts to focus on some external things, he may find that he is not very interested in learning or other aspects.
At this time, you will feel bored and then you will easily have rebellious behavior.
When you notice this situation, you need to communicate more with your child.
If parents do not pay enough attention and care for their children, then at this time the children will also regard themselves as an "outsider" and a "bystander".
When you look at him like this, you will definitely not follow him.
So parents should pay more attention to their emotional situation and chat with themselves more so that their children can feel their parents' attention to him.
If you want to improve the parent-child relationship, then you need to communicate more.
2. Less criticism and encouragement more
Children cannot become excellent all at once. If parents always treat their children in a critical way, then the children will only become more and more rebellious.
I am an example myself: once I criticized him because of a small matter.
Then I discovered his changes the next day.
When I wanted to criticize the child, the child said calmly: "Mom, although you are a little harsh today, I am not angry."
Because I want him to understand: Mom loves him too.
Then he told him about this, and he also felt that his mother loved him.
If you do this, you will think of your mother first whenever you have anything in the future, which will make the parent-child relationship more harmonious.
In fact, in order to establish a good parent-child relationship with our children, we still need to do the following: More praise and encouragement; less nagging; more listening; less criticism and more communication.
Only when you do these things can you gain more and more attention and recognition from your children, and gradually you will establish a very good emotional link with you.
3. Learn to think from the perspective of others
Many parents will use command to educate their children when educating them.
However, although doing so will make the child very disgusted, it is not a good thing.
After you learn to think from the perspective of others, you can understand why your child is unwilling to listen to you.
Because if parents always communicate with their children in a commanding tone, then the children will feel that they are not respected.
So parents who learn to think from the perspective of others can better communicate with their children.
This can also make children feel that their parents are giving them more attention, thereby improving their trust in their parents and parent-child relationship.
or above is about how to improve communication skills with children.
What are some good suggestions do parents and friends?
4. Don’t overprotect your children
There are many parents now, and they all hope that their children can have a good development in life, interpersonal communication, etc.
But in these aspects, it will over-protect children.
For example, let them not eat spicy food, can’t touch alcohol , so let them live under the protection of their parents.
But this excessive protection will make children become timid, afraid of things, and lazy.
Because you have been protected, your child will not have any ideas.
So only by letting them experience something can they truly grow up.
You must believe that only by experiencing some things can you become stronger.
5. Help children establish a good view of the three views, set an example for them, and set an example for them
Children's views are formed under the influence of family environment, parents' words and deeds, etc., so if you want your children to maintain a good view of the three views in their growth, parents should set an example.
Communicate more with your children, understand his ideas and grow up with him.
More communication with children and play with them more.
Don’t always ask for it according to adult standards or ask for children.
Parents should use the correct three views to influence them, so that they can establish their three views well.
When you establish your own views, they will also learn to do something.
Don’t always look at this world from the perspective of your adults, and give your children a bigger world.
Let them read more books, watch movies, listen to music, participate in various activities, etc.
6. Learn to accept children's emotions
Parents should learn to accept children's emotions. Many times, parents should learn to be friends with their children and not blame them for their faults.
In fact, the child’s rebellion during adolescence is because he has higher requirements for himself and the outside world.
This is the same for parents. If children have their own ideas and opinions, they will become more and more rebellious.
So parents must understand and tolerate their children at this time and do not criticize what they do.
Let him feel your understanding and support for him, and then tell him how you did it.
so that children can become better and more confident.
You will find that the rebellious period is actually not as terrible as you imagined.
Parents don’t have to worry too much about whether they will be angry with their children?
Just pay more attention to children, listen more to their voices, respect their ideas, and guide them to become better and better.
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text: Ogawa
