Today I went to do nucleic acid. Because there were too many people, I lined up three long queues. Everyone who just came will say: Alas! So many people. There is no way, there are too many people to queue up.
Just as most people were bored to swipe their phones, a boy of four or five years old in the team started crying, which immediately attracted everyone's attention.
I saw the boy standing in front of my mother, holding her legs, crying constantly, and then I heard my mother say to him angrily: Let's see if you still have to beat me. While talking, he also hit the child in the hand. As the team moved, the mother wanted to move forward, so she had to drag the child hard. The child kept patting the mother with her little hands, and the mother pulled his hand over and beat him, and the child cried even harder. Then the mother said to the child: If you want to keep crying, you should stand by the wall and cry. I will take you home after I finish the nucleic acid. The child didn't listen to her, and still hugged her legs. After a while, he seemed to be tired of crying, so he stopped crying and stopped beating his mother.
This mother is small and although she wears a mask, it can be seen that she is a very young mother. She probably didn't realize at the beginning that the child had been waiting for too long, so she was a little impatient and wanted her mother to take him home soon, without expressing too much, so she beat her mother. Later, my mother reacted and told him that she could only take him home after finishing the nucleic acid, and he obviously felt a little emotionally relieved.
When the mother doesn’t understand the child, the child will hit her, and she will hit the child in turn. As a result, the child’s emotions will become more excited, the relationship between the mother and the son will become more tense, and things will be harder to solve.
I have seen a mother driving a car before. She threw her child down and drove slowly in the car. She also shouted to the child: If you are disobedient, you will throw you here. This leads to the child running in the fast lane and following the car.
How big a child can be? You have to use this method to punish him. If something happens, it will be too late to regret it.
There must be a reason for a child to cry and lose his temper. As parents, only by figuring out the real reason can the problem be solved.
For example, the first child is obviously queuing for too long before he loses his temper. Because adults complain when they see such a long team, let alone a child.
Adults are not as hysterical as children because their thoughts and behaviors are mature and they can control their emotions. Children do not have this ability. In addition, they are not understood by their mothers, so they will naturally cry. When his mother said she could cry and she could only go home after she finished doing it, she understood that not everything could be done by her temperament.
It is understandable that the mother was angry and beat the child. After all, it is really a shameful thing for the child to be disobedient in so many occasions. However, the fight did have a counterproductive effect. For example, if you have a conflict with others in , do you think it is a fight to solve the problem or a mutual understanding, and can peaceful negotiations solve the problem? Of course it is the latter. But you and your children need to understand and solve it by yourself, the adult side. After all, children do not have that great ability, and these abilities are taught by parents.
To educate children, you must have enough patience. Just like we have been young, from infants to adults, we are all raised by our parents every grain of rice, and we are taught to be a human being by our teachers one by one!
