In our lives, people often complain about their lives, are relatively financially struggling, complain about their husbands being not gentle, complain about their children being disobedient, and complain about not marrying a good husband.
All of this comes from us. We have too many expectations for others and too high expectations for our husbands. But reality slapped you, hoping that your child will be obedient and sensible, while the child is naughty. You hope that your husband will be gentle and considerate, but he will come home from work for a day and will not help take care of the child.
If we lower the standards for people around us, after all, it is all the first time we are mothers, fathers, and children. We are tolerant of what we do wrong, have lower expectations for our husbands, lower requirements for our children, and lower requirements for ourselves, and have a slower pace of acceptance of life. We also have bad things for our wife and parents for the first time.
We also love ourselves well and see if we are doing something wrong in that place. For example, life is relatively difficult. How can we improve the quality of life? Don’t complain that your husband earns less money, and work with your husband to find a way to solve the problem. This can improve your emotional communication with your husband, let you understand each other better, have lower requirements for your children, make three rules for your children, and punish them if they violate the rules, and you don’t have to be upset because your children are naughty. You can also cultivate your child to take responsibility for the mistakes he makes and he will pay attention next time.
Have a lower requirement for yourself, love yourself well, and don’t blame your husband for not loving yourself enough. When we start to love ourselves, people around us will also love you.
The most important thing in our lives is to love ourselves well. No matter where or when, ask yourself whether you are happy? In psychology, pleasing yourself can improve your emotional intelligence, IQ, improve your happiness index, and let yourself live in a loving environment.
When we are in love, I often complain that the partner does not love ourselves enough, does not care about ourselves enough, and does not care about ourselves enough. Just imagine how we love ourselves? It’s like when we do two things every day to please ourselves, do we forget the sad things, and do we make ourselves happy.
What makes us happy in our lives is to do things that we especially like. Some people like to watch movies they like, some people like to plant flowers and plants, and some people like to draw. Doing things they like can improve our concentration. After the end, there will be a sense of accomplishment. I will wonder why I am so powerful? Now that it's done. I am so happy. Since I have done it, I still have no time to do it halfway through it. I will comfort myself, "If you have time, you will definitely do it well." Maybe you haven't done it well, and you feel a little disappointed, but when you do what you like, you are very excited and happy. In this process, you enjoy it.
When we came out of our mother's belly, it was also the first time we were a child and an adult. We were also a unique individual and the first time we came to this huge world. I hope we learn to love ourselves. When we were in school, we took our parents with us, and we looked forward to going to school, and some even took our dreams to study. We were not good at the exam, worried that we could not accept it, worried that we would be condemned by our family, and we were depressed.
And we forgot that it was the first time I encountered such a problem. We would also make mistakes. No one was perfect. In a book, " Napoleon , one-third of the important battles ended in failure, but this did not affect his being a great strategist." So forgive yourself for your carelessness, forgive yourself for your mistakes, pay for your mistakes, find out the reasons, face them bravely, and solve them. Love yourself well and accept your imperfect self.
When we start learning to love ourselves, it is never too late, and what is too late is that we dare not take measures.
Love yourself well, enjoy life, enjoy loneliness, reconcile with yourself, accept the imperfect self, and rush towards the future self.
If you live a very bad day today, you don’t do your job well today, and your children don’t have good tutoring, tell yourself sincerely that you haven’t lived well today, you can live well tomorrow, learn from today’s lessons, and make corrections tomorrow. Every day is a brand new day. No matter how bad you were yesterday, the sun is still sunny and the moon is still so beautiful, and you are still yourself, the best yourself, the unique yourself, and the irreplaceable yourself.
Love yourself well. We can choose to leave the people and things we don’t like, or even ignore them. Pleasing ourselves is the most important thing, and it cannot be measured by money.
Be brave enough to be yourself, love yourself well, enjoy the happiness of the present, experience the lifestyle of different periods, and enjoy life. Sometimes when shopping alone, you see it as the fireworks on earth, and people full of positive and optimistic life. When watching a movie, it is to see a person experience the sense of freedom, and to enjoy the movie, bringing us a different emotional experience. Eating hot pot alone is to enjoy a person's food experience. You can eat whatever you want and taste it slowly. The happiness given to us by the food.
Love yourself well, accept your imperfect self, appreciate yourself, please yourself, and do what you like bravely. Do you have to be brave to do what you like for the first time?
promised me that I must love myself well.
