I don’t know if mothers have discovered such a “strange” phenomenon in the process of raising their babies: no matter where you sleep at night, the baby seems to have a “positioner”:
[When you move, he will follow you immediately];
[If you move, he will follow you unconsciously];
[If you move, he will follow you unconsciously];
[Even if you change the place to sleep, he can sit up and find your place in the middle of the night, crawl over and sleep beside you];
[If you can’t find you, start crying loudly]...
This feeling is really helpless and happy. Sometimes I feel so panicked when I get up to go to the bathroom or turn over to play with my phone, for fear of waking up the baby, so I have to start a new round of sleep coaxing mode. It can be said that since I had a child, everything I did at home was like "stealing".
Why do babies have this innate "tracking" ability?
says "mother and son are in love". Could it be that the baby can still feel that his mother is leaving after falling asleep? So, unconsciously, you also need to look for your mother's trace in your sleep? In fact, this is not the case. The reason why babies have this innate "mom card tracking" ability is mainly due to the following reasons:
First: The impact of sleep mechanism
Babies have a sleep cycle of 45 minutes, and light sleep and deep sleep each account for half. every cycle change period, and the baby is very likely to wake up . At this time, if the mother just turns over or moves her body, the baby can sense it. Therefore, it is easy for the mother to move and the baby to move with the mother.
Second: Lack of a sense of security
1 years old, even babies before the age of 3 will lack a sense of security, especially before the age of 1. Babies with insecure feel more likely to show more problems in sleep . One of the problems is that you will also look for your mother when you fall asleep. In addition, babies who lack a sense of security will have three more symptoms:
- When the mother sleeps with herself, the baby wakes up and cries when she moves, and needs to go back to the previous sleeping position before falling asleep again;
- requires the mother to hold her to sleep and play all day long, wake up as soon as she lets her go, and cry when she leaves;
- is prone to wake up and not sleeping soundly when she sleeps, and often needs her mother to accompany her to fall asleep, which may last until she is about 3 years old.
Third: Strong temperature environment perception ability
When the baby is relatively young, mothers will take the same bed with the baby and fall asleep. The temperature of the mother, the smell of the mother, and the feeling of the mother being close to her are the most familiar sources of security for the baby.
When the mother is asleep and suddenly turns over or goes to the toilet, the temperature, temperature and feeling will suddenly change . For babies who are already sleeping and have not yet developed a brain, they are prone to "passive" false awakening. Although they will not cry suddenly, they will continue to move their bodies to find the familiar feeling of sleeping beside their mothers, and enter deep sleep again.
In addition to sleeping, have you experienced these two moments that your baby strongly needs?
Mothers who have personally brought their children to their children have all enjoyed the feeling of being strongly needed by their children, and are happy and sad. They need you very much, and if you ignore him, he will feel that the whole world will collapse instantly. Their love is a sweet burden, and it will also make you feel accomplished and feel that this is the most proud thing in your life. In addition to sleep, there are two moments that your baby needs strongly. Have you ever experienced?
When you are sick, only by smelling your mother’s scent can you relieve the pain
I wonder if your mother has noticed that when your baby is uncomfortable, it is particularly sticking to you. Usually, my father and grandma can coax it. When I am sick, no one will let me hug you. I will cry when I hug you, so my mother can only hug you. It seems that smelling my mother is the "pain analgesic". Why? Because is held by my mother, I can get a psychological sense of security . Although I am not feeling well, I am very mentally comfortable.
acts very well in front of others, and is particularly "mocking" in front of mothers
I wonder if you have ever heard mother-in-law say such words: "When you are not here, the child is quite well-behaved. Once you come back, it will be difficult for him to take care of him!" Is this true? In fact, this is all because of the child's dependence and trust in the mother :
- Knows that mothers love themselves unconditionally, but others don't know, so when they have emotions and tempers, they will try to endure and not vent;
- The mother is not around, the child lacks a sense of security, dares not explore casually, and instinctively shows a "pleasant personality";
- The child is not obedient, not making trouble, but wants to attract the mother's attention, hug and comfort himself.
If the baby sleeps soundly and adults sleep well, you can try this
Although this feeling of being strongly needed by the baby is very happy, it is too difficult to have a good sleep. Even if I turn over, I am afraid of waking up the baby, and if I don’t turn over, I feel uncomfortable all over. The most important thing is that I am afraid that I will turn over and wake up the baby and all my previous efforts will be wasted. If you want your baby to sleep soundly and your adults to sleep well, you might as well try this.
1: Try to separate the sleep mode
Starting from the birth of the baby, parents do not need to cover the same quilt with the baby. Although this will keep warm, it can also be very dangerous, such as accidentally pressing the baby on the baby, removing the quilt during the turnover process and getting the baby cold.
You can have the same bed with your baby, but it is best not to have the same bed; or to have the same bed with your baby, but not to have the same bed. Arrange an exclusive baby cot for your baby next to the large bed, which is safe and comfortable.
2: Little babies and big babies can use sleeping bags
The sleeping bags that babies can use include anti-shock sleeping bags, envelope-style sleeping bags, etc. The function of the sleeping bag is not only to prevent the baby from catching a cold, but also to promote sleep. For example, anti-shock sleeping bags can effectively increase sleep time for babies in the newborn stage and reduce the mother's childcare burden; older babies can use leg split sleeping bags, so that they can move as they want at night; they will not feel the temperature disappears because of their mother's departure and will easily wake up. My second baby has been using a sleeping bag since he was born. Compared with the Yu Dabao's sleep, let me summarize the advantages: it is not easy to wake up, he sleeps soundly, and I sleep well.
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