Less than a week after she was discharged from the hospital, Xiao Xiao’s 5-year-old daughter was hospitalized again. When I heard this news, I was a little shocked, but my colleague Xiao Li on the side disagreed: "It's hard for her child to not get sick."
Xiao Yang also echoed: "That's right, what I know is raising children, and what I don't know is raising orchid ."
Sister Ma also said: "The physical condition of a child raised like her is really not much better. Thank you for your hard work, and the children are pitiful. Haven't you seen her child get sick every few days?"
So, what kind of habit is it that makes everyone not optimistic about Xiao Xiao's way of raising children?
Over-pursuing clean
Modern society, living conditions have improved, and keeping the family environment clean and tidy has become the norm. Even if the children at home are naughty, they cannot guarantee tidyness. But it's certainly OK to keep it clean.
However, Xiao Xiao’s understanding of “cleanness” is different from that of ordinary people. What she thinks is “cleanness” is not just that the floor is as smooth as new, nor is it just that the kitchen utensils are shiny. What she thinks is “cleanness” is more inclined to whether is sterilized in place, and whether the sterilization liquid and disinfectant water are sufficient .
According to Xiao Xiao herself, after the child is born, especially after the child will crawl, in order to reduce the invasion of germs and prevent the child from getting sick, she every day, she sterilization solution carefully apply the floor and other things that the child may come into contact with, even the smallest corner will not fall.
As for the child's toys and clothes, there is no need to mention them. She doesn't have to worry about boiling water and soaking it thoroughly with sufficient sterilization liquid. Otherwise, she will feel uncomfortable and always feel that the child will get sick. She said that if the child's bottle and bowl and spoon were not allowed to use disinfectant, she would have done it long ago.
This is true for the environment. For those who come into contact with children, Xiao Xiao is even more careful: repeatedly telling the child that he cannot shake hands with others, and that he cannot get too close. If he meets a colleague and friend who sees the child cute and wants to hug her, she will be even more like a big enemy.
Xiao Xiao’s pursuit of “cleanness” was too much. Gradually, everyone was not interested in it. Most of the children went out and were alone, and no one was willing to play with her, and they were isolated by intentional or unintentional.
Lack of physical exercise
It is said that children are energetic and like to run and play the most. Even the quiet and well-behaved children also need to go out and play. Moreover, if the child is not allowed to vent too much energy, he will not be too peaceful whether he eats or sleeps.
But Xiao Xiao doesn't think so. She stubbornly believes that the child is in poor health, and if he goes to run, he will be more likely to get sick and uncomfortable.
With this understanding, Xiao Xiao took care of the child a little nervous and easily disagreed with the child going out. He finally let go of his mouth and added clothes wildly while telling the child repeatedly, "Your health is very poor, you will catch a cold and cough if you accidentally, and you can't move too much." At the same time, she will strictly monitor her child's actions, run two more steps and jump a few more times, and she will hurry to stop it.
If the child really develops symptoms of a cold and cough after returning home, Xiao Xiao will blame himself anxiously and angrily + blame the child. "Everyone said that you have poor physical condition and can't move too much, but you don't listen. You're sick now."
Most children of the same age can run, jump, eat and sleep, and their skin color is also the normal wheat or dark wheat color exposed in the sun. Only the children of Xiao Xiao’s family are surprisingly white, and even the blood vessels under the skin are clearly visible.
At the same time, the little guy also has thin arms and legs. Not only does he not have the baby fat of children of the same age, but he does not even have a round apple face. Instead, he has a pale little face and no more flesh on his cheeks.
Occasionally, I met Xiao Xiao and his daughter playing in the square. Most of the little guys in her family stood silently beside their mothers, watching other children running freely and smiling happily.
Privately reduces the dosage
If you say that you are too pursuing "clean" and treat your child too tightly because you love your child too much, then it is really impossible to understand that you can cut the dosage privately.
In the past, I often heard Xiao Xiao criticize the pediatrician for being unreliable. I was always worried about taking medicine when seeing a doctor. We all thought she was just a simple complaint, but I didn’t expect that she would develop into not following the doctor’s advice and privately cutting the dosage, which made the child suffer a lot of sin in vain.
The first time was when Xiao Xiao’s daughter was inflamed when she was over 1 year old. The doctor prescribed relief medicine and Merrill Lynn, and told Xiao Xiao to do the medicine on time and in accordance with the dosage. As a result, Xiao Xiao was afraid that the dosage given by the doctor would be large, so he used less Merrillin, which would have poor fever reduction effect, and the child continued to have a fever all night. After
, as the child grows up, pharyngitis becomes a common disease. If he gets angry, he will become inflamed and will become red and swollen when he catches a cold. No matter what the doctor explains, Xiao Xiao always needs to reduce the dosage and also gives you science from time to time: Doctors are just exaggerating and don’t need such a large dose at all. The result is that the child has a big tonsil, which is a circle older than the average child under normal circumstances.
This time, the child was even more speechless after being discharged from the hospital less than a week.
This is the thing. Xiao Xiao’s daughter was hospitalized last time because of pneumonia . The child had a high fever and cough . She was hospitalized for 5 days before she recovered. Before she was discharged from the hospital, the doctor prescribed some medicine and told Xiao Xiao to let the child finish the medicine. At the same time, it was told that you must take a follow-up examination about one week after discharge to avoid recurrence.
Xiao Xiao was cured. He didn't listen to the doctor's words at all. He turned around and threw the medicine in a corner, let alone let the child take it. When the child developed symptoms of continuous high fever and cough again, he remembered the re-examination. After entering the hospital for examination, he was admitted again.
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Some people say that Xiao Xiao loves his children too much and is the first time he is a mother. He is inevitably too careful and afraid that the child will be bumped into him every day. This is why these manifestations that others cannot understand.
However, some people say that it is true that mothers love their children, and the starting point is indeed good. But what era is this? Can’t you read and learn more about various parenting books and parenting knowledge by yourself? Always be whimsical and self-righteous, this is really unsatisfactory.
In my opinion, raising children is like taking an snail to travel. Although snails are ignorant and slow, snails also have their own growth rules. As people holding snails, they should probably look at problems more from the perspective of snails.
After all, we are all mothers, and as rational and mature parents, we should be more forward-looking. Because we all want to let our children step on our shoulders and see the world, rather than confining them to ourselves.
Keep it clean and tidy, and teach the child to organize his belongings instead of delusions to eliminate all bacteria; take the child to exercise in the sun instead of locking him in an empty home; listen to the opinions of professionals if he doesn't understand, rather than be self-righteous or take it for granted.
First do yourself well, then affect your child and make him better. Perhaps this is the happiest thing for parents.
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