Hello everyone, I am a senior family education instructor tomato mother!
Is it difficult to educate children? Disaster! Educating children is like a traditional Chinese medicine consultation. Not only does it require confirmation of the symptoms, but it also requires the right medicine. However, many parents only know the symptoms but don’t know where to start. Just like their children are very smart, they just don’t study. It’s useless to urge and manage their parents, which makes the whole family very anxious. In fact, the final analysis is still concentration .
The famous Italian educator Montessori once said: "Concentration is the basis of all learning." Children's concentration is not enough, and no matter how much parents urge them, it is useless.
Tongtong's son is in the third grade. The little guy is lively and smart, but his academic performance is not good. The teacher often reported to Tongtong that the child is very smart, that is, is not focused . During class, doesn’t look at the blackboard . As soon as the classmate talks, he looks around and , and always whispers to his deskmate.
Tongtong was also worried about this, it was not that she had discovered this problem with her son. When she was doing her homework, she found that the little guy was very smart, but if she didn't supervise her child, she wouldn't do her homework . As soon as she walked away, the little guy started drawing on the table or hitting the wall on her own, and didn't listen to any urging her. Sometimes even yelling until your voice is hoarse, which doesn't work.
Tongtong is very anxious about this. She has also tried many methods, such as giving her child time to complete her homework within the specified time. I would play attention training games with him when I had time, but the results were not good, and the child's grades still did not improve. Isn’t this kid a learning material? Why don’t you just study?
Li Meijin once said: "What determines children's grades is not intelligence, but attention."
Children's grades are not focused, and their grades will also be affected. Then why can’t children put their attention into learning? This has something to do with parents.
Children cannot devote themselves to learning. It is related to these behaviors of parents. They should quickly change
keep urging them to make children learn only for task-based
"Have you finished your homework? Hurry up, I will check it later", "Have you finished your homework? Watch TV here", I often hear such voices in life. Parents hope that their children will complete their homework as soon as possible and keep urging them, which will make their children depend on them.
"Children always drag and drag, what should mothers do?" says, "The urging of parents will make the child stop using his brain."
So, while you urge your child, you will make the child unwilling to take , and will only follow your instructions, and eventually become task-based learning .
It’s like a child has his own learning tasks and learning plans, but under the constant urging of parents, their plans are disrupted, they are thinking about playing and having to write homework in their hands. Will this effect be higher?
believes that it will only make children lose their initiative in learning, and eventually turn learning into a task-based approach. The mother urges her to pretend to do her homework. As soon as the mother leaves, her mind flies away.
Play with mobile phones to create voices, divert children's attention
"Mom, can you not play with mobile phones next to you?" The child is studying, but you are playing with mobile phones next to you. Will the child still have the intention to learn? I believe I have been seduced by the interesting voices on my mother's phone. Therefore, when children are studying, parents should not play with their mobile phones or make voices to divert their children's attention.
roaring tutoring homework causes children to be nervous and distract from them
Most parents have had this experience. When tutoring their children to do their homework, they either have to go crazy or their blood pressure soars. Many parents can't control their temper when tutoring their children to do their homework and yell at their children. Such behaviors not only easily cause children to feel nervous, but also distract them.
Just as a child is thinking about a question, parents can’t stand it, and a shout will directly interrupt the child’s thinking and learning rhythm. When the child’s learning rhythm is frequently broken, he will lose his concentration, and he will not even be able to concentrate on studying and doing homework.
Children are not focused, and it is useless to urge children to teach them. So instead of constantly urging your children, parents should cultivate their children's attention.
Children are not focused, and it is useless to urge them. It is better to do this than do more effectively
① Develop good habits and cultivate children's self-discipline
Cultivate good habits from an early age, which will help cultivate children's concentration. Parents can tell their children that if today's homework is completed within two hours, they can go out to play with toys for half an hour. If they are not completed, the time to play with toys will be reduced.
② Give children a quiet learning space
Children's psychology experts have found that children aged 3-7 have poor attention to stability and are easily distracted by external stimulation. Creating a quiet and comfortable environment for children is a necessary condition for children to concentrate.
Therefore, if you want your child to concentrate on doing things, parents should reduce the interference of the surrounding environment on their children, eliminate various factors that distract children from their attention, and give their children a quiet learning space.
③ Tutoring homework, patiently educate not to yell
When parents tutoring homework, try to control their emotions and tempers, and do not yell at the child just by coming up, as this can easily interrupt the child's thinking and attention.
It is better to give children a space to let them think actively. When your children really can’t think of it, parents will guide them in time and give them a direction, but don’t tell them the answer directly.
Try to give children as much space as possible so that they can think and learn by themselves. In this way, children gradually learn to concentrate, think actively and learn actively.
Whether the child is excellent depends on whether the parents will teach it.
Interactive topic: Is your child procrastinating in doing things?
