Introduction
If you ask your child what is his sense of security?
may get a lot of different answers. For example, a sense of security is to give children enough companionship, so that they can see the support of their parents behind their backs when they are in difficulties and confusion; for example, a sense of security is to give children enough material conditions, so that they can do things according to their hearts in many cases; for example, a sense of security is to give children a promise, so that they know that no matter when they open their mouths, their parents will help them, etc.
's sense of security is indeed these, but it's not just these.
In fact, for children, the sense of security they want is very simple, without too many conditions, and do not need too much material. In many cases, they even only need a "reaction" from their parents.
If you are still a little confused, you might as well take a look at the following 2 stories.
Sense of security is that I did something wrong and dared to tell my parents
I have seen a story shared by netizens before:
When I was a child, my father brought back a set of cups from abroad, 6, each with transparent cup bodies and exquisite patterns. It was really beautiful in that era.
As a result, just as I was playing with the cup, one hand slipped and all 6 cups broke, and it was completely broken. At that time, the adults were all outside, and I was the only one in the kitchen.
thought for a while and I ran out. I mustered up the courage to tell my mother that he accidentally broke the cup. He spoke in a low voice, but the parents stopped chatting immediately after hearing it. The atmosphere was terrible.
I was so scared that I didn't dare to let out a breath, and I couldn't even think about how I would be "purged". Just when I couldn't help crying, my father said, "Didn't the fragments hit your hand?"
I quickly said no, and my mother asked, "Which cup did you break?" I said in a lower voice, "Everything broke."
It was obvious that both parents were stunned for a moment, but my father still reacted quickly, "It's okay, it'll break if it breaks. Aren't it just a few cups? If you have the chance, you will buy another set of them, but you can't break them anymore."
I nodded quickly, and nodded while asking my father, "Dad, aren't you angry? I broke the cup." I still remember my father's answer, "Why are you angry? You came out and admitted your mistakes as soon as possible, and didn't lie or lie. This is a good child."
Yes, this is actually a sense of security.
If there is any problem with the child, he will tell his parents as soon as possible. Parents can calmly judge the child's behavior and give solutions, rather than ignoring the matter without regard for the first time. It seems like a very simple reaction, but for children, it is the most powerful sense of security in their lives.
The sense of security is to believe that
is also a story shared by a netizen.
When I was 15 years old, my neighbor had a very beautiful little girl and we had a very good relationship.
The little girl likes to surround me, as a child, she likes to chatter about school affairs, and likes to say things she doesn’t understand like an adult.
Until one day, she said I want to tell you something, but I don’t know if you will believe me. There was a crying voice in her voice, but her face was firmly mature. What happened next was shocking me.
When she was 8 years old, her brother often molested her. Her brother is 3 years older than her, and in the eyes of many people, she is a quiet and introverted child, so she has told her mother more than once, but she is always beaten up and even warned her not to make up some lies to slander her brother. After a long time, she was discouraged and never wanted to tell others again, until today. What can I do? I believe her so much, so one day I found her brother and told him in a very cold voice that I knew everything he did to her. If I heard it again, I would not let you go.
Later, his brother didn't do this anymore for some reason.And the little girl was finally able to put down her burden and grow up happily.
Of course, the parents in this story did not give the little girl a sense of security, but on the contrary, it was given by a big brother. The sense of security at this time is to believe.
believes in what the child says, believes in his own judgment, and believes that the child is a kind child. Only children who grow up believe in and believe in the world will trust their parents and have the most sufficient sense of security.
What is the security of
I believe you can see it here.
In fact, the sense of security that children want is very simple, that is, the calm love and belief of parents.
Love can make them feel warm, learn to treat the world, treat others with the same love, and make them treat others with the same love;
believes that it can make children's hearts stronger, make their confidence sufficient, and make their will tenacious, and even if they encounter temporary suffering, they can laugh out loud.
If a child can find these two feelings from his parents, even if he does not have enough time to accompany him, even if he does not have too many material conditions, his spiritual life will be rich and his inner sense of security is sufficient, because they know that no matter what problems they encounter, his parents are their strongest backing.
last
For children, the sense of security is really not that illusory. It is hidden in the words and deeds of parents, hidden in the attitudes of parents towards their children, and hidden in the attitudes of parents.
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