Not long ago, my uncle and aunt came to visit home to reminisce about the past. They could feel their old life in their chat, and the focus was on the daily management of the two grandchildren.
Two grandsons were in the third grade and the younger one was in the first grade, and they were in the same school. Children's parents are typical "workaholics". On weekdays, pick up and drop off at school and tutoring homework after school are all the things that grandfather does. Grandma is in charge of purchasing and cooking three meals a day.
During the epidemic prevention and control period, the two children took online classes at home all day. Grandpa, who is in his seventies, is more busy than anyone else. He has to supervise and supervise two rooms, two different grades, different subjects, and even different periods. Grandpa is so tired that he can only ask for help from the child's mother. The child's mother is the grandfather's daughter. He has less understanding and helplessness when speaking. Yes, what can she do if a young man wants to work and pursue a career? So, my grandfather turned to my grandmother, who took care of all the housework and had three meals a day, not to mention that she was in her seventies, so naturally, the house was a little messy.
As I was talking, my aunt began to sob in a grievance. The uncle asked, "Why are you crying? No one wronged you?" The aunt wiped her tears with a wet wipe and said, "I'm not afraid of being tired. I'm used to serving the family all my life, but I can't stand it. Why don't the two little kids like me?"
It turns out that except for tutoring children's homework, my uncle takes the children to play basketball, swim and ride bikes all the time. At night, the old man takes care of two children. After a long time, this "collar work hard" made my aunt neglect. Her grievance lies in "I work hard, but the child doesn't like to stick to her."
Aunt said that what made her most uncomfortable was that when the two children were playing, she wanted to go over and touch the child's head and kiss the child. The child avoided and refused to be intimate with her, and kept shouting "left away" in her mouth.
Uncle's analysis calmed down.
Uncle said: "In this family, you are the biggest contributor, because we all have to eat, and eating is the first need. As for the two children you mentioned that they are not close to you, I think you are thinking too much. Of course, there are also problems with our education of children."
paused for a while, and the uncle continued: "The reaction of children usually comes from instinct. Do you think, I face them every day, telling homework and stories face to face. My expression and the child's expression can interact at any time, not to mention that you can even feel your breathing when you go to bed every night. You are busy with housework, washing, cooking and cleaning every day. Most of the time, you are facing your back to your child. The front and back formed by this make the children naturally like to choose the front. Do you think this is the reason? "
Aunt burst into tears and smiled: "It is you who is good at being a good person, and I am a tiring person."
It is said that, if you think about it carefully, many children in the family seem to have such behavior. They will not analyze the different division of labor among their families and will not understand the hard work of the "back". Isn't this a lack of education?
