Introduction : In daily life, people often hear parents worry about their children's education . Parents cannot understand "Why is it so difficult for children to manage now?" " can't be said, and you can't be beaten. Parents have to look at their children's face ."
In 's traditional educational concept , parents naturally have the right to speak , but looking at the moment, children obviously no longer agrees with the set of that "the parents' orders cannot be violated".
In fact, children are indeed as parents think, " is different from their childhood ", but this is not the pretentious and willful under the pampering. Most of the time, parents cannot keep up with their children's growth .
movie " Dog Thirteen " tells a very ordinary family story , but this resonates with many netizens , which also makes many parents begin to face the reality of "children are different from when we were young". Li Wan grew up in an divorced family . Her grandparents usually take care of her more, but her father is also good to her. At least in the eyes of adults, this is indeed the case.
Once, in order to comfort Li Wan, she went to the English interest class that she didn't like, and her father bought a puppy to please her . With the company of a puppy, Li, who was originally lonely, has had a lot of fun in . But not long after, Grandpa accidentally lost the dog because of a moment of negligence.
While looking for the dog, grandpa fell down , and grandma almost got lost because of . However, Li Wan still missed the dog, insisted on continuing to look for . The father was furious when he saw this. He didn't understand how a dog had family importance, so he was so excited that he beat Li and played with him.
Later, Li Wan had his stepmother and half-brother . stepmother sent a puppy to Li Wan, and told her that " This is the dog you threw ". Li Wan knows it is not , but her does not refute . Perhaps it was her father's beating that made her afraid of . The younger brother is naughty , but no one in the family has blamed him . Until one day, when his younger brother was bullying Li Wan's dog, was bitten by a dog. The stepmother cried, and the father was angry and insisted on killing the dog , even though Li Wan stopped desperately.
Later, during a dinner, the adults "forced" Li Wan to eat dog meat . She gave up on resisting and endured her disgust and obediently opened her mouth . Once, Li Wan saw the lost dog on the street, but she pretended not to know her because the 13-year-old really didn't want to lose anything more .
What are the differences between children and parents today when they were young?
In the rapid development of information age, children now have the opportunity to contact the world of earlier. They want to mature method and think precociously . The world in their eyes seems to have changed its appearance .
Parents often find that the "little adult" in front of them will occasionally appear some that does not match the age of . The diverse information allows children's to have a deeper understanding of the world , and also makes them pay more attention to in the struggle for the right to speak.
Nowadays children are under the expectations of from their parents. They enjoy superior material living conditions, and also has to face more intense competitive pressure . When the education intra-volume becomes more intense, the "gains and losses" and "frustrations" that children suffer are more than those of their parents' generation. The more parents are willing to invest in , the higher their expectations for their children's return , and the greater the pressure the children will bear in .
Contemporary parents invest more emotions in their children, which also makes children bear more emotional burdens for .Children with precocious minds are worried about their parents' happiness , are worried about the stability and harmony of the family, and , who should have been carefree, have become the one with the most family responsibility among family members. Children are the center of the family, and they are also the active maintainer of family emotional relationships .
In the process of educating children, parents will easily find that today's children care more about personality development , and they are eager to show more different . When their ideas are different from their parents , many children will take the initiative to fight for for themselves, and more children will express their dissatisfaction with in a blunt way. Therefore, "disobedient" has become the tag that is common in in this generation of children.
Children hope to get the understanding of their parents
In the eyes of parents, children now have a more free growth environment for . After all, more enlightened parents creates a better growth environment for them. But in fact, it is undeniable that in many families, the children's situation is very lonely . Parents are not their listeners. Even though they desire to express , is always unable to communicate efficiently with their parents .
When parents complain that their children are pretentious and willful, this is actually the same. They cannot truly understand a manifestation of their children . Parents cannot empathize with , experience the confusion of children, and cannot point the direction for children in an appropriate manner.
Tips: Turn a blind eye to children's growth needs, which makes the already isolated and helpless children even more helpless. In fact, when parents are troubled by their children's education problems, children also need their parents' understanding and recognition the most.
Face the real growth needs of children. Parents should grow up simultaneously with their children
. Try to see the world from the perspective of children
When adults are obsessed with their worldview, the world they see is a complete weighing of the pros and cons of the adult world.
However, when they are willing to squat down and and try to to look at the problem from a child's simple perspective, they will find that "The world of children is not easy" . What children are obsessed with is not all unreasonable. Looking at the world from the eyes of children, parents will get more inspiration for education and guidance.
. Give children the understanding and respect they deserve
Every child has a demand to express themselves, and they desire to be understood and respected by parents. The right to speak in family relationships allows children to better express themselves , and at the same time, they can also allow them to have more experience of 's presence and value.
Tips: When children are viewed as individuals who are equal to their parents, their healthy physical and mental development will be more secure.
. Put away the parents' own desire to control
Parents try to establish an authoritative method to implement their own desire to control , but for children, this control may limit their personality development. Parents’ education of children should not turn their children into their own copy , so that children can have their own life development trajectory, which requires parents to know how to let go .
When parents find that they cannot use the same educational methods to deal with their children's educational problems, this is actually a time when parents seize the opportunity to take the initiative in educating their children.
So, don’t blame your children for being willful and pretentious. Try to change their own educational methods and face the changes of the times with your children. This is the courage and patience that parents should have.
Conclusion:
Today's children are different from their parents' generation, and their thoughts are more open and diverse. The unchanging educational method cannot meet the growth needs of children. What parents should not do is to let their children compromise blindly and actively cater to their children's growth rhythm so that they will not go against the original intention of education.
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