Uncontrollably satisfying children is pushing their children farther and farther
Every child is the jewel in the eyes of parents and cannot disappoint them. It seems that only by giving him everything can he be satisfied.
Many parents often ignore a big question: whether children need these overloaded love, and what impact will uncontrolled satisfaction bring to their children.
Many parents cannot tell what spoiled is, and they don’t understand whether their practices are spoiled.
Even if you know that spoiling is wrong, you can’t help but give uncontrollably for your child . This is not love, it is a kind of harm. is a kind of killing the child’s growth.
14-year-old daughter was spoiled as a princess and threw food on her father's face
variety show Transformation Note video has attracted widespread attention. While the family was sitting at the dinner table and eating, the 14-year-old daughter suddenly hit the food on her father's face.
But my father didn't say a word. It was obvious that this was not the first time. My father seemed to have become accustomed to his daughter's behavior.
My parents have loved her as a little princess since childhood, but she took pampering for granted. has grown up to be a serious rebellious child like this, which really makes her parents feel disappointed.
"Yan Family Instructions" says: There are some people in the world who do not discipline their children, but dote on them...
and even when their children grow up, they have formed bad habits. When they discipline them at that time, they will not be afraid even if they beat them to death. when in Northern Qi said this is worth pondering.
Some parents are affected by their own growth experience and do not want their children to experience such a difficult childhood, so they tie all their hopes to their children.
They treat their children as the pearl in their eyes, and feel that they must not let their children suffer any pain or grievances, and to meet all the requirements they put forward without restraint.
spoiling for children can be said to be a common problem for many parents, because parents’ love for their children is selfless and always hope to give all the beauty to their children.
However, excessive love will turn into spoiling, and the child will be spoiled by his temperament, which will lead to the child's various bad habits.
So Use rational and scientific love to protect children's healthy growth is a compulsory course for every parent.
Did you get spoiled?
Many parents know that spoiling is harmful, but what exactly is spoiling? Take a look at these performances.
Special treatment, prayer and urge . For example, you often leave good food for your children to eat and use good things tightly. Such special care will make your children feel that their status at home is superior.
If the child wants to chase after him before he is willing to eat, he must read the story before he can sleep. The more parents beg for the child, the more they become more powerful, and the parents' prestige is lost.
is easy to satisfy and live a lazy life . Some parents give whatever their children want, and they should give it immediately when they cry, which will make the children not cherish the goods and be indifferent to others' character.
does not stipulate the child’s regular routine, and there is no concept of time when playing and studying. This will make the child lack enterprising spirit when he grows up, and live a mediocre life and be distracted.
takes over and deprives independent . Some parents allow their children to open their mouths and get clothes. Their parents' behavior of taking care of themselves will hinder their children from becoming independent people.
fuss, fear of crying . It is said that "a newborn calf is not afraid of a tiger." Many times, parents are too sensitive and nervous. The result of spoiling is that you cannot grasp the "sanity". The more your parents care about you, the more rebellious your children will be.
protects in person. Sometimes when parents teach their children, grandma will stand up to protect them. When the children feel that they have "umbrellas" and "sanctuary" at all times, they will become more unscrupulous.
Children who are spoiled should be wary of these defects
The so-called "old" at the age of three and old" at the age of seven. A person's children and youth are the key stages in the formation of their habits and personality.
. Children who grow up in spoiling may experience these defects, parents should be vigilant!
is self-centered . Because of indulgent love, these children have been accustomed to others surrounding themselves since childhood. Their world is centered on themselves and it is difficult to understand the feelings of others.
is generally manifested in disrespect for parents, despising others, lack of sincerity in treating others, and problems in establishing harmonious interpersonal relationships.
Poor frustration tolerance. The spoiled children will be used to being satisfied immediately when they wish, and they will feel that everything is easy to get. A little bit of fun in life will make them lose confidence and fighting spirit.
At the same time, they lack the thinking of relying on their own efforts to realize their wishes and are easily bewitched by opportunists in society.
lacks independence. Excessive spoiling by parents will make their children lose their right to independence and the ability to think independently, so that they cannot solve problems on their own.
After entering school, some children cannot do whatever they want and do as they want as they are at home. If they do not guide and adjust correctly in time, their psychological gap will gradually widen, which is harmful to the formation of their personality.
The proper love is the best protection for children
You cannot let your children "eat alone", this will give them a special sense of superiority and you cannot let them develop a sense of self-centership at a very young age.
should let children know how to respect the elderly and love the young, share with others, and get along with equality.
When a child makes unreasonable expectations, should cultivate his ability to delay gratification . It can guide children to exchange their own efforts for what they want, so that they can learn to work hard for their wishes.
Children have the expectations and needs to do things independently when they are young, so parents must take advantage of this opportunity to cultivate their children's self-care ability and independence.
Many families also have the trouble of the next generation of . Sometimes grandparents will always protect their children unconditionally when their parents educate their children.
At this time, parents must communicate well with the elderly. They cannot protect their children when they make mistakes. They need to let their children know the need to improve, so that they will face setbacks bravely in the future.
Candy Mom has something to say:
Parents should consider how to love them in the face of their children's growth. It is not about taking care of you who cannot leave your sight at all times, it is about taking care of everything with a soft heart, nor is it about giving it without restrictions...
Many parents use the best things and do their best to build a perfect and absolutely safe environment for their children to grow up.
But things always go against your wishes. Many parents will eventually embark on the extremely difficult parenting path of "spoiling", and their children will also go further and further along the path.
So stop this unfair and unequal love output , and understand the real needs of children and not let it become a burden or harm.
[Today's Interaction]
Do you spoil your children sometimes? What do you think is the standard for spoiling?
