Chinese Youth Research Center survey data shows that more than half of primary and secondary school students said that they do not want adults to always nag them.
As children grow up, they make new friends and begin to have their own social circles, and also long for more freedom.
So their relationship with their parents will also change. They no longer like to stick to their mothers. They start to like the sweet and intimate relationship with their mothers before, but instead yearn for a new type of parent-child relationship.
rebuild the parent-child relationship and become the "growth partner" of the child
I remember that during the time after my son went to elementary school, I sent him to school. When I arrived at the school gate, I said sweetly, "Baby, goodbye" as if I were sending him to kindergarten!
He immediately turned around and told me: "Mom, you can't call me baby anymore. I'm all elementary school students and will be laughed at by my classmates."
Suddenly I realized that when the child grew up, he was no longer the little bean bun that liked to stick to his mother and could not live without her.
"Growth Partner" The word "I use reading to educate children" . It means that parents and children discuss and set academic goals together, let their children learn independently, and parents provide various support, including resources, time and technical support.
When a child grows up, he will begin to have his own ideas. He also hopes that his parents will no longer regard themselves as babies, and will order and handle everything, but hope to be "partners" with him, be equal and independent, discuss and fight together.
Become a child's "growth partner". Take care of 3 things and let go of 3 things
Let's talk about it first, what 3 things should be managed?
First of all, read. This is the key to children’s understanding of the world and touching life. It is also a good habit that can benefit children for life, but it needs to be developed from an early age. Then parents need to hand over the key to their children step by step and teach them how to use it to lay a solid foundation for future learning.
followed by motion. exercise has many benefits, especially for children in the growth stage, running in the sun and sweating outdoors, which are beneficial to the healthy development of children's physical and mental health. Playing with classmates and friends can also help enhance cooperation and team awareness.
Therefore, in addition to supervising children's learning, we should also arrange some outdoor exercises for children.
The third is to make friends. Friends are also a wealth for children. In the process of their children's growth, friends even play a greater role than their parents.
But "those who are close to red are red and those who are close to ink are black." In addition to helping children establish a correct view of friendship from an early age, parents should also pay attention to observation and identification during their children's growth, and remind their children at critical moments.
raising children is very knowledgeable. When I was a child, I focused on raising them. As the children grew up, they focused more on raising them and helped them exercise their various abilities of life and learning. In the process of
, parents need to gradually let go of some things, such as if they want to become a partner of their children, they must learn to let go of these three things.
The first is the details of life.
My son is only in the second grade now, and he often makes decisions about his own life. The little girl is developing fast, and she may already have this awareness in kindergarten. So we might as well let go gradually, let him make decisions by himself, and intentionally cultivate children's independent living ability.
The second is to accompany the homework.
Does it accompany your children to do their homework? This question has just been discussed with a friend.
Personally I think that in the stage when children develop habits, you can focus on writing appropriately to correct some bad habits.
But if the habit has been formed, the child can complete the homework independently, or the child asks him to do his homework, then he must learn to let go, because the child also needs to be trusted, respected, and understood.
The third is interests and hobbies.
Every child has different preferences, but as long as it is reasonable and healthy, children should be given freedom.
For example, if you especially want your child to learn piano, but your child only wants to learn drum , then there is no need to impose his or her wishes on the child. You must respect the child’s ideas and hobbies. You can first sign up for a trial class to let him or her experience it.
As parents, we often cross the line in the name of "for your good", and rarely think about whether such "for your good" is really for your good.
What are the obvious changes in your child after going to school? Welcome to share your experience!
