After becoming a parent, many people have this experience: many of the children's clothes are young before they are worn. In order to avoid waste, mothers will give these clothes to their babies at relatives and friends' homes.
Generally speaking, the other party will accept and express gratitude happily, but not all parents have the same attitude towards giving their children's clothes. Not long ago, a mother in Jinhua, Zhejiang experienced a "sad thing", which also sparked discussions among netizens on the Internet.
It is understood that the mother bought a lot of clothes for her daughter. When she saw that the neighbor who also had a daughter had a difficult home, she felt compassion and packed some of the new clothes that her daughter had not worn before and gave them to her neighbor.
Mom said that in the face of her gift, the neighbor happily accepted it and expressed his gratitude to herself.
Originally, this matter was over here, but what Bao Mom never expected was that when she passed by a garbage station downstairs the next day, she found that the clothes she gave to her neighbor yesterday appeared at the trash can incredibly conspicuously.
Seeing that the clothes and shoes that my daughter had never worn were thrown into the trash can by her neighbors, the mother was both angry and sad. After the incident of
was shared by mothers on the Internet, the neighbor's behavior was also criticized by many netizens.
Someone said that if you dislike it, don’t accept other people’s things. There is no need to throw the trash can after it is collected. Neighbors recommend not getting along with each other and not being friendly to others.
Some people also try to analyze the mentality of neighbors, believing that accepting gifts from others is due to the difficult feelings and throwing the trash can is caused by too strong self-esteem. This type of people are often emotionally sensitive and inferior, thinking that other people's kindness is mocking their incompetence.
Netizens hotly discussed:
" This kind of neighbor is not careful, he is ruined with kindness, don't refuse, and throw it into the trash can after asking for it. Isn't this set in front of me and the back, or the glass heart is too sensitive. "
" If it is underwear, I can understand this behavior, but if it is a new clothes that others have not worn or 80% of the new second-hand outfits, I think throwing the trash can is too much. This is not only a harm to others' kindness, but also a great waste!"
" Kind intentions are like donkeys. Such a neighbor's mentality must be a problem. As a colleague of mine, he is also not good at family conditions. She still dislikes me. He told other colleagues behind my back that I look down on her. Such a person is extremely inferior and I will not be a good person anymore in the future. "
" My son is now five months old. He has a small bed, clothes, and carts given by others. I don't think there is anything wrong with it."
In life, giving children's clothes to others is a very common operation in the circle of parents. In this matter, although we cannot speculate on the psychology of the neighbors, throwing other people's kindness into the trash can undoubtedly hurt the mother's kindness, which is also an important reason why netizens complain about the neighbors.
As parents, we should also understand a few points from this matter:
1. Before giving clothes to other people, it is best to ask whether the other party needs it.
Like the mothers in the article, many people will pack their children's clothes because of sympathy for some relatives and friends with poor conditions. Although this approach is out of kindness, if the other party is a person with stronger self-esteem, or "will rather endure hardship yourself than be wronged", then this kindness will not only not be exchanged for gratitude, but will make the other party feel a little embarrassed.
Therefore, before giving clothes to other people’s children, it is best to ask whether the other party needs it. If the other party is not willing, there is no need to show sympathy.
2. Try not to give your child’s underwear and shoes to others.
It is certainly okay for children to wear second-hand clothes, but underwear is the children's close-fitting clothes and is not suitable for giving to others. As for shoes, each child's foot shape is different. The shoes will be modified after wearing them for a period of time, and some children will have athlete's foot, which will cause the bacteria on the shoes to exceed the standard.
Therefore, no matter how new the underwear and shoes look, it is not suitable for others to give it to you. Many people will also mind receiving second-hand underwear and shoes.
3. For dissatisfied second-hand clothing, you can choose a more appropriate treatment method
Many people are not very satisfied with the second-hand clothing given by others and are embarrassed to refuse. At this time, throwing it directly into the trash can is not a proper way of handling it. Not only is it wasted materials, it may also cause dissatisfaction among others.
For this reason, these second-hand clothes can be transferred again, or stuffed into the clothing donation box in the community to serve those in need.
In short, whether you are satisfied or not, properly handling second-hand clothing is a kind of respect for the donor.
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