Due to the opening of the "two-child policy", more and more families now choose to have a second child, but after having a second child, their concern for the big baby will be reduced a lot. So what should we do to achieve "one bowl of water"?
After Xiaobao was born, he should pay more attention to Dabao.
1. Pay more attention to the treasure. In fact, most families with second-child families often care about the second-child after giving birth to the second-child and inadvertently ignore the big baby. Over time, the big baby will become sensitive, withdrawn, and unconfident, and various problems will arise. Therefore, parents must pay more attention to Dabao after giving birth to the second baby, give Dabao more love and care, so that Dabao feels that his love has not been taken away, but has become more, so that Dabao can grow in the bath of love. At the same time, by loving Dabao, Dabao has a strong sense of self-happiness, and will naturally love the second treasure, and will care more about and like the second treasure, so that the family will be more harmonious and loving.
2. Let the two children communicate more and play more to establish a good and harmonious relationship. Children must like to play with their peers. Even if it makes a small awkward relationship, it is a matter of promoting feelings, so parents cannot scold their children at this time. Let them play to the fullest and cultivate their feelings.
3. Never accuse or belittle one of the treasures in an inertia. Children, like adults, have innate self-esteem, and self-esteem needs to be well maintained, and is by no means arbitrary trampling. Between two children, if parents always blame, belittle and criticize another child too much in the face of one child, it is actually unknowingly hurting the child's self-esteem, and various problems will arise over time. We parents should avoid another child and talk to the child who made mistakes or performed poorly, tell him why he did something wrong, what improvements needed, etc. instead of just hurting his self-esteem. Let two babies care and take care of each other. In fact, the biggest advantage of a second-child family is to have a long-term, free playmate, who can fight, fight, fight, grab, love, hate, and release each other's happiness and pain. This is an innate environment, allowing them to achieve each other in such symbiosis and competition, and they will naturally learn to care for each other and take care of each other.
If there is no "a bowl of water to serve evenly", there will definitely be many harms, so what are the harms?
1. It will definitely affect the parent-child relationship
Since before Xiaobao arrived, there was only Dabao, the parents' attention was also on Dabao. However, Xiaobao's arrival would make parents focus on Xiaobao, thus ignoring Dabao's feelings.
At this time, Dabao will complain to his parents because he is ignored by his parents. If parents still focus all their attention on Xiaobao and ignore Dabao, it will also affect the parent-child relationship between the parents and Dabao, making Dabao alienate his parents.

2. It triggers a "war" between children
Before Xiaobao arrived, Dabao enjoyed the care of his parents at home. Because he enjoyed his parents' care for many years, he has become accustomed to his parents to focus all their attention on him. However, due to Xiaobao's arrival and because Xiaobao is young and needs the care of his parents, his parents will pay more attention to Xiaobao.
At this time, Dabao will also be jealous and resentful towards Xiaobao because of his lack of attention from his parents. Therefore, when Xiaobao was young, he would bully Xiaobao; when Xiaobao grew up, he would quarrel or even fight with Xiaobao. Therefore, the injustice of parents of second-child families will also trigger a "war" between the two children and affect the brotherly and family ties between the children.
