Text: Dujuan
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In life, we see some parents who are particularly strict with their children, making them look like mice seeing cats. Some parents spoil their children to the sky. If the stars in the sky can be picked off, they will definitely be desperate and eventually let their children fall into the abyss of desire, unable to satisfy them and even more difficult to be happy.
My husband has a friend named Brother Feng. He has a square face, tall and powerful, speaks loudly, and has a very irritating temper. His emotions are the kind that burns when it is burned, and it can also be said to depend entirely on his mood.
Her wife is afraid of her, and her daughter Lingling is even more so. I only remember one time when I went to his house to play. Lingling was only three years old. Lingling felt it was hot when she was having dinner, so her wife said she would wait until she finished eating before feeding her.
As a result, Lingling accidentally dropped the bowl of rice on the floor while jumping around on the sofa. That day, I thought Mr. Liao must have been angry with others outside, and also drank some cat urine.
"Damn it, you're hot to ask you to eat, and tell your girl to behave properly, but you don't stop every day. Don't you like to jump? Get out and jump.
After saying that, he threw Lingling out like a chicken, just like a chicken.
His wife felt distressed when she saw Guang, but she didn't dare to stop her, and she didn't dare to take Lingling back.
I said that Brother Liao Lingling is still young, can't you speak well? It's natural for children to be so lively and active. It's hard to be so young, just like a puppet toy. After saying Brother Liao with a smile, then she brought Lingling back.
is to give my husband face and also face. Although Lingling is still scolding her, But I brought it back and said I still don't know.
. The number of times we met was limited. Later, Lingling went to the city to study in elementary school and junior high school. Some time ago, I went to Liao Ge's house and went to Lingling. She grew up to be a big girl. However, I always felt that Lingling had no youthful vitality and her eyes were dull.
Needless to say, I know what Lingling experienced during her growth.
In the end, Lingling was obedient, but she lived as a puppet without vitality, no thoughts and no soul. It was really heartbreaking and helpless.
. There was a friend Xiao Yan's family. Her family was in good condition and had been spoiled for her daughter since she was a child.
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. 0Slowly, this daughter treats herself as the queen and turns Xiaoyan into her little slave. When she was a child, she thought it was fun, but as her daughter grew up and her height and body size exceeded her, Xiaoyan found that she began to be afraid of her daughter.
is afraid that something would not be subordinate to her, so the child would die. If she said a few more words, her daughter would start a war with her, and she would not come back and go out to mess with other boys.
In short, she is afraid that her daughter would be afraid of her to die, and finally she becomes what her daughter wants to do, and she will follow her whatever she wants to buy, as long as she doesn't die.
Gradually, Xiaoyan's daughter becomes more and more lawless.
can be seen. If the child is afraid of her parents, the child will become useless. Any opinion and weakness, and parents are afraid of their children, will become indifferent, selfish and domineering.
can be seen that being too strict or pampered will lead the child to the extreme. The most comfortable relationship is back to the The doctrine of the mean mentioned by Confucius , that is, love must have a degree.
When it should be strict, when it should be relaxed, relax. There is also true love to let each other grow, not enter the war mode.
between parent-child relationships, there is no winning or losing in war.
Finally, I think that the most comfortable relationship between parents and children feels comfortable and warm when seeing each other, so I want to get close to each other, rather than looking at each other and wanting to escape, and if I can't escape, I will fight each other.
