After the child goes to kindergarten, parents need to face a very realistic problem, that is, how to communicate with the teacher.
The way and content of parents and teachers communicate directly affects parents' judgment of their children's situation in kindergarten, and parents cannot give their children the correct guidance, so that their children can live happier in kindergarten.
01 Do parents really know the skills of home-school communication?
How should children communicate with their teachers after they go to kindergarten? Tiantian’s mother didn’t pay attention to her skills.
Just after entering the kindergarten, Tiantian always cried, and Tiantian's mother was naturally a little worried whether Tiantian was unhappy in kindergarten. So every day when she picks up her children after school, she would ask the teacher: "How is Tiantian doing?"
Teacher's answers are similar every time: "It's okay, pretty good."
Sometimes Tiantian's mother would ask unwillingly: "Then why do you cry every day when you go to school?"
Teacher also just said: "Children have such a process. Some children are long and some are short."
Then the teacher continued to call another parent, and Tiantian's mother didn't ask much, so she hurriedly followed the child home. Tiantian's mother is also puzzled, why can't she ask anything? I seemed to ask about the child’s situation every day, but it seemed that he didn’t ask anything.
When chatting with other mothers, they even know how their children go to the toilet in a day, how much they eat, etc., but why doesn’t the teacher tell her anything? Is
a problem with the teacher, or is it really okay for the child?
In fact, Tiantian’s mother asked the wrong question.
After school time, Tiantian’s mother asked a very “general” question when the teacher is busiest, the parents are the most, and the children are the most chaotic, how can she get a very detailed answer that she wants to know.
02 List of communication skills, parents please accept
broad asked by parents, such as: Teacher, how does the baby perform in school? Are our children happy?
Then the answer of will be relatively broad : It’s pretty good, baby should keep working!
The teacher will say it specifically unless the child has a particularly obvious problem or performance, otherwise the parents will not get the answer they want.
communication skills, parents can take a look at the following content.
Communication content list
If the child goes home, he will find various . Can the mother ask the teacher: Do the child eat more lunch? Have you eaten all the vegetables and meat?
If the child goes home early, he will be sleepy early , the mother can ask the teacher: Have you had a good sleep at noon?
If the child still cries when he goes to school , the mother can ask the teacher: How long did the child cry after he arrives at school? Are you feeling dull or excited during the day?
If the child comes back, there are scratches and other external injuries , the mother can ask the teacher: How do the child get along with the children? Which child's little claws are so sharp?
In terms of content, if parents are worried about, they will ask which one they are the most targeted. Teachers can generally quickly give parents accurate answers.
Communication time skills
If there are not many questions and it is very simple, then it is OK to ask a question after school. But the scene is quite chaotic at this time, and the answers are often not accurate and detailed enough. The most suitable thing for
is to ask at night. Although it will disturb the teacher's rest time, in order to make it easier for the teacher to improve some small problems as soon as possible, so that the teacher will cooperate with parents.
Usually, after the child is out of school and after the teacher gets off work, parents can send messages to the teacher and will reply when the teacher is free. If the problem is serious, you can make an appointment with the teacher to call, or make an appointment with the kindergarten to chat in detail.
03 If you want to achieve real and effective communication, parents must do these 3 things
In general, if parents want to communicate effectively and make their children live happier in kindergarten, they must do these 3 things.
First point: Try to be specific to the problem
From the perspective of dialectical methodology, specific problems need to be analyzed in detail.
So when parents ask teachers questions, they also need to ask as specific as possible, so that the teacher can quickly switch to the specific question screen in the picture of the day and then give parents the answers.
Second point: Less complaining and more solutions
Effective communication is not only for parents to get the correct answer, but also for mutual communication to become meaningful and fruitful.
For example, if the child does not have a good lunch at school, some parents will blame the school for not having a good lunch, the teacher does not feed the child, etc. When the teacher hears these complaints, he is naturally unhappy, and this kind of emotion will inevitably be brought to the child.
Since you know that your child is not good at eating, the most important thing parents should do is to cooperate with the teacher. For example, let the teacher serve less and make the child feel that eating is not that difficult. And parents should not feed food or snacks when they go back, so that their children can realize the importance of eating three meals correctly.
complain less and communicate more with teachers to solve the problem so that the child’s problems can be solved and the teacher is willing to cooperate with parents.
Third point: Let children learn to communicate by themselves
It is better to teach people how to fish than to teach people how to fish.
Before, we always wanted to understand the child through the teacher. Until one time, the child said that a classmate always liked to hit him, and then we asked the teacher. The teacher said he didn't know, and we realized that we were ignoring a very important question, that is, "the child's own communication ability."
Kindergarten is a long and lasting three years. It is impossible for parents to ask about teachers and children's situation every day, nor can they do anything for children. Therefore, cultivating children's communication skills and emotional intelligence is the most important thing.
Cultivate children's communication skills
If children have strong communication skills, parents can know what happens in school, and their needs can be solved in school, and they will not be wronged.
Cultivate children's high emotional intelligence
Child children have high emotional intelligence, so children will get along with teachers and classmates more harmoniously, and kindergarten life will be more fulfilling, so why should parents worry?
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