After seeing this news, we have to reflect on the issue of educating children. Children have strong learning abilities. Parents' bad behavior will have a very bad impact on their children's growth. This cannot be ignored.
In the process of children's growth, parents' education methods play an extremely important role. If parents cannot give their children the correct education, bad educational habits will appear, which will easily affect the children's growth and inner feelings. Serious harm may occur, and may even lead to serious negative consequences.
What harm will parents’ bad education habits bring to their children?
Psychological trauma
Parents’ bad education habits will directly bring serious trauma to children’s psychology. Since children’s psychological endurance is not fully developed, many times parents’ unintentional words and behaviors will leave a psychological mark on their children. Cause great harm.
causes children to be unable to face the things around them rationally and objectively, nor to communicate with their parents with intimate emotions.
Affects parent-child relationship
Parents' bad education habits will directly lead to alienation of parent-child relationship. Children will doubt their parents' love because of these improper behaviors of their parents, and feel that their parents do not really love them. Therefore,
will have some rebellious emotions towards their parents in their hearts. They feel that only by going against their parents can they get their attention. This rebellious emotion will also make the parents feel that the children are ignorant, and the parents and children will be in an antagonistic relationship. The parent-child relationship will also become increasingly worse.
Loss of self-motivation
Parents' bad education habits will directly cause children to lose interest in learning and growth. Due to parents' inappropriate behavior, children will become repulsive to their parents' educational awareness. The more frequently parents discipline their children, the more likely their children will be. The more I lose my ambition.
The early childhood stage is the basic period for children to continuously accumulate abilities and become excellent. If the child loses his ambition at this critical stage, it will directly affect the child's future growth.
What habits of parents will ruin their children's lives?
yelling
Some parents always like to yell when facing their children. Whenever their children do something wrong or show signs of procrastination, the parents will be unable to control their emotions and unconsciously Turn up the volume in the hope that by yelling, the child will be frightened and frightened, so they will be obedient.
Forced arranging
Some parents are particularly concerned about their children, so they have the bad habit of forcing arranging when educating their children. These parents often do not respect their children's personal preferences and force all their children's affairs to be arranged.
requires children to obey their own discipline. Once children show confrontational behavior, parents will reprimand them in a more forceful way.
Commenting on their children in front of relatives and friends
There are also some parents who always like to comment on their children in front of relatives and friends. Whenever relatives and friends get together, maybe due to the lack of topics or to liven up the atmosphere, parents will always talk about their children who are closest to them. Tell me what ridiculous things you did.
In the eyes of parents, these things are cute and interesting, but for children, if their daily life is laughed at by others, it will seriously damage the child's self-esteem and cause great psychological trauma to the child. .
Belittle your own children
There are also some parents who have very traditional educational concepts. Whenever others praise their children, they will always be subconsciously modest and belittle their own children.
For example, if someone praises a child for being lively and cute, they will say that the child is actually very timid and often shy. This kind of humble way of belittling the child can actually easily lead to deviations in the child's self-perception and will affect the parent's This kind of humility takes it for granted and feels that one is really not good enough, thus becoming low self-esteem.
What other issues should parents pay attention to?
Respect is the prerequisite for communication
In the parent-child relationship, good communication is the basis of intimacy. If you want to maintain smooth communication with your children, parents should learn to respect their children.
We must not only respect the child as an independent individual and allow the child to have his or her own unique ideas, but also learn to respect the child's preferences, do not impose one's own opinions on the child, and learn to listen to the child's inner thoughts.
Letting go properly is love.
Parents need to learn to let go appropriately when getting along with their children. Don't be too forceful and demand that children must be obedient. There is no need to take care of children in every detail.
Allowing children to be independent appropriately and giving them space to grow is the true love parents have for their children. It also allows children to feel the joy of growing up independently and grow into truly outstanding talents.
Don’t destroy your children’s sense of security.
Parents need to pay attention not to destroy their children’s inner sense of security in the process of getting along with their children. A sufficient sense of security is an important guarantee for children to be able to express love bravely and become positive and optimistic.
Parents should reduce the impact of negative emotions on their children, express more love and praise to their children in life, so that children can feel that their parents care about them, so they will naturally establish a sufficient sense of security and will not have low self-esteem and timidity. situation.
Every child's growth is inseparable from the efforts and help of his parents. Similarly, a child's growth will inevitably be accompanied by some inappropriate behaviors. What parents need to do is to guide their children correctly and do their best to help their children grow into Better people should not let their bad education habits ruin their children's lives, otherwise it will be too late.
