You should take care of your children as early as possible
"The children are still young and don't understand anything, so it's useless to take care of them."
Have you ever had such an idea?
I have heard too many words like this: The child is too young, even if you care about him, he won't understand, so why bother? Let's wait until the children are older.
In fact, when managing children, you need to grasp the time well. When the children grow up and understand everything, the children will have their own ideas and their personalities will be finalized. If you want to control the children, you will not be allowed to control them.
You should take care of your children as early as possible. After 2, guide them appropriately. After 3 years old, set rules for your children. . 3 to 6 years old is a critical period for the formation of a child's character. Seize this stage and establish rules when they are needed. Point out the child's mistakes when it's time to point them out.
My baby has a very bad temper. He cried to death before. My mother said it was natural, but I don’t believe it. Before she was 2 years old, when she cried, I would hold her, comfort her, and try to give her as much comfort as possible. sense of security. From the age of 2 to 3, after crying, I would point out what she did wrong and hope she could correct it. Changes to
children are visible to the naked eye.
Now she is 3 years old. Every time she cries unreasonably, I will look at her coldly and wait until she realizes her mistake and apologizes for it. Then I will pick her up and wait for her to stop. If you cry, you will also review . After
did this, she found that she was making progress every day.
is good at using the "diverting attention" method.
This trick is a way to deal with babies under 3 years old. When children are under 3 years old, they often burst into tears because of trivial matters, which causes parents a headache.
Babies at this time like to use a method called "diversion of attention".
For example, a 2-year-old baby was crying because his mother wouldn't let him watch TV. When he was crying hard, his mother pointed out the window and said: Yeah, a big cat ran over!
The child may suddenly stop crying, search for the shadow of the cat with tears on his face, and then forget about what happened before.
Give children enough space to grow
In the process of children growing up, we need to give them enough space to grow and let them be more free.
When issues of principle are not involved, parents should not interfere with their children or restrict their children everywhere.
For example, when a child is about 2 years old, he begins to have a strong interest in the surrounding environment and begins to rummage through boxes and cabinets. Parents are afraid that the home will be messy, so they begin to restrict the child, wishing that the child would become a person who sits on top of a table. A child who won't budge in any place.
Children are growing and changing every day, especially for young children. Every restriction from parents will have a certain negative impact on the child's growth.
Strengthening Law
We live in this society and must abide by some established laws. Only by being able to abide by these laws can we survive well. If you really love your children, you must let your children truly abide by the rules and abide by the rules. , abide by the law.
Children will not naturally know how to abide by these established rules. They need to be guided by their parents and under the influence of the general environment. They must constantly hit the wall and then correct themselves, and then they can be like a fish in water.
I have to mention this "reinforcement law" here. whales are put together with food. Initially, a glass wall is placed in the middle. The whales will always hit the glass wall. Later, after the whales get used to it, they will take off the glass wall. , whales will not cross the line.
This is the law of reinforcement, and this law also applies to disciplining children.
People have grown up under such discipline and influence.
After children make mistakes, they should be treated with tolerance and patiently guide them.
After children make mistakes, the attitude of parents affects the child's character.
allows children to make mistakes and gives them the opportunity to make mistakes. Only if children continue to make small mistakes in the early stage and parents continue to correct them will children not make big mistakes in the future.
If a child makes a small mistake, he or she will be reprimanded by the parents, leaving a psychological shadow on the child. It is not that they will not make the same mistake again, but they will easily collapse when faced with difficulties. Unable to face difficulties and mistakes.
Give your children a positive evaluation
Parents should not be stingy in praising their children. Parents' affirmation and praise are the motivation for their children to make progress.
A common mistake that parents make is that they hope to use irony to motivate their children and stimulate their motivation to learn. In fact, what kind of evaluation parents give their children will ultimately determine what kind of person the child becomes.
Giving children more positive affirmations will be of great help to their positivity.
Respect children
Although children are dependent on their parents for survival, children exist independently. Children are independent individuals and they have their own independent personality.
A child who is respected by his parents from an early age will become a person with an independent personality, have his own ideas, adapt to society more easily, and develop better.
Don’t let your children lead you by the nose.
The last thing I want to say is, don’t let your children lead you by the nose.
Children are very keen, and they can grasp the weaknesses of their parents. If once, they achieve their goal by crying or threatening their parents, then there will definitely be a next time, and it will become the norm.
As a parent, from the time your child is 3 years old, you cannot be led by your child's emotions. You must be measured and principled. When your child behaves unreasonably, parents should just watch with cold eyes and don't let your child succeed. After the child's emotions have calmed down, give the child appropriate comfort, and then start reviewing the situation to make the child realize the inappropriateness of his behavior.
