Although parents’ concepts of child care have improved, the development of parent-child relationship is not as good as expected.
Today's parents have undergone earth-shaking changes. They are no longer like the parents in the past who only recognized stick education, shook their fists with their children at every turn, and threatened and cursed their children.
They also know the importance of scientific parenting. How much effort they put into their children will be rewarded. This may be their personal experience. They can't do it themselves, but they hope that their children can make changes!
The relationship between young people and their parents does not seem to be very good.
Parents: break the original thinking and will no longer sacrifice everything for their children.
According to the traditional parenting method, since children are born, parents have to live for their children. Make money to support them, and give all the good food and drinks to your children to enjoy. I will be ecstatic when my children succeed, but I will be extremely nervous when my children are shocked.
The end point of this kind of whole-hearted dedication is not that children go to college, that is, they become adults in a narrow sense. You can take responsibility for all your actions and have the ability to make money to support yourself. Instead, it became the end of his life.
Because even after their children graduate from college and start a family, parents still care about their children and have to come to take care of them to reduce the burden on their children. Even if you are suffering from illness, you can endure it as long as you can, until the moment you can't bear it anymore.
But today’s parents have changed a lot. Not to mention they are dedicated to raising their children until they graduate from college. Even when their children are growing up crazily before the age of 6, parents are always absent and do not allow their children to affect their enjoyment of life. Children become a burden and an add-on in their eyes.
Young people: As they pursue independence more and more, they will become more withdrawn.
Young people who are only children account for the majority of the new generation. From childhood to adulthood, they enjoy all the resources around them: their parents’ love and toys. . Even if they have learned to share, they also know the fun and truth of sharing, but after all, this is a kind of social interaction, not something they want to express from the heart.
Slowly, they become very withdrawn and lazy, too lazy to go out and make friends, too lazy to express their emotions to their parents, or even too lazy to ask others for help. This will also make them unwilling to help others, and both effective and ineffective social interactions will be terminated.
When facing their parents, they will not make any difference, and will even regard their parents as the strangers they are most familiar with. There will no longer be the cuddling up to my mother as a child, nor the affection shown.
Why do more and more young people begin to hate their parents? These two reasons are very realistic.
During childhood, parents always ignore their children's feelings.
Many parents will say that their children will not hold grudges against themselves at all. Even if the parents teach their children a very severe lesson and the children cry loudly, they will still ignore them. Reluctantly reaching out for a hug. After their parents calmed down their emotions, they treated their parents as usual without any barriers.
In fact, it is parents who do not understand their children who say such things. It shows that the child does not hold any grudge against the parent, but the child's heart may have already become riddled with holes. Every time his parents yell at him, some of their stored sense of security will be overdrawn, and they will become more fearful and disappointed with their parents.
In particular, parents extend their children's passive waiting time indefinitely. Children turn to their parents for help when they need them, but parents always discourage their children because of one thing or another. Gradually, children will realize that their parents cannot count on them, and they will give up on their parents.
Parents always don’t understand their children
In the process of children growing up, they are constantly improving themselves. Every skill is learned from scratch. Sometimes, although they do not yet have the ability to be independent, they already consciously want to Help parents. The end result is that it does a disservice.
Faced with such a misunderstanding, parents can only see the result: the child is in trouble again. They do not consider that the child's inner starting point is positive and friendly. Over time, the child will also know that it feels uncomfortable to be misunderstood, which may lead to extreme consequences. Emotional expression.
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