5 On May 25, a video of a mother with two children fiercely slapping herself in the face sparked heated discussions among netizens.
Adults collapse in an instant. Many people have endured the suffering of life on the surface, but in fact they hide all the suffering in their hearts.
Some netizens said: looked so distressed. She did not beat the child, but vented to herself. What should she reflect on? It was so painful to watch.
Anyone who has raised a child knows that there will always be a moment that makes us collapse, and many men simply do not shoulder the responsibility of being a father. Because the mother has to shoulder everything alone, she was willing to suffer for the sake of her children at first. But over time, when raising children, there are too many trivial things, and it is easy for people to feel despair.
Widowed marriage and widowed parenting have made many women who entered marriage become less and less feminine. They only care about the family, but they do not realize that their life is like a lifeless planet, bleak.
If one day you become a full-time mother, please do these three things well and never become a slave to life.
Be yourself and pay more attention to your inner world. If others don’t understand you, you have to feel sorry for yourself and know how much you have suffered.
After marriage, a woman can easily regard raising her husband and raising children as her goal for the rest of her life. So when their children have married, it is still difficult for them to accept the fact that their children have grown up, causing a lot of trouble and distress to their children.
Are they wrong?
From the perspective of parents, there is nothing wrong. But as children, when they move forward with dreams and hopes, they naturally do not want their parents to become a fetter for them.
So, women must not be immersed in marriage, thinking that doing housework and taking care of the children is life. These things are not only trivial, they will drain all your enthusiasm for life.
By the time you can't help but blame yourself for not being perfect, and regret getting married at the same time, marriage has become tasteless and it is a pity to abandon it.
Becoming a full-time mother is a choice you make about your marriage. There is nothing wrong with it, and it is even a responsibility for your children. But you should first pay attention to the depths of your heart, look in the mirror often, and see if you are what you like now? If not, please feel sorry for yourself, rest when you need to, and don't let yourself struggle on the edge of exhaustion and anger.
There are many trivial matters, so list them clearly one by one, and don’t let time slip away in vain. No matter what your marriage is like, you must understand the principle of loving others first and loving yourself first, so as not to be knocked down by the pain and suffering of life.
Brush short videos for less than ten minutes to read aloud, news, books at hand, or articles you read
A person's bad emotions may not show up at the time, but it does not mean that it is gone. On the contrary, This kind of bad emotion is like a devil hiding in your heart, swallowing your bad emotions through the shadow, waiting for opportunities to act. Once it breaks out, others will be surprised, how could this person do this?
A good marriage is when two people support each other and move forward. However, due to the pressure of life, many women like me have to go through widowed marriages. The role of men is really to make money to support the family. They can't help at all with other things, and they are not willing to share some trivial matters.
When the responsibility of taking care of a family falls entirely on a woman, she is really lonely and crazy. Because most men don’t want to hear their wives talking about family affairs, women often have to say things that they can’t say out loud and keep them in their hearts. Over time, she becomes an irritable, yellow-faced woman.
Fortunately, today is the Internet age, and women have found a place to relieve their emotions and watch short videos. I watched it for an hour or two, and even let go after my phone hit my face. Videos brought her short-term happiness and made her even more inseparable from her mobile phone.
It is very simple to destroy a person, just let her watch short videos every day. Those vulgar and non-vulgar contents gradually covered up the original appearance of life, and also made her unable to see her true self.
When the short-term happiness disappears, loneliness and unwillingness follow. It can be seen that watching videos is not a good thing. In fact, there are many ways to release emotions. The simplest is to take 10 minutes to read aloud, newspapers, articles that you find interesting, and any book at hand. This will not only improve your expression ability, but also let those beautiful things come to your mind. Words infiltrate your soul and can also reduce the stress of life.
What makes a woman become elegant is not the growth of age, but whether you can have an interesting soul during this time. Life is complicated, but apart from the fireworks of the world, you can also let words cleanse your soul.
Learn to break away from separation
For some time, I always read articles about separation from separation on the Internet. I felt itchy, so I bought a copy of "Duan Sheli" and put it on the table. In the end, I could only understand the superficial knowledge and thought that To give up means to throw away everything in the house that is dusty or worn out.
After throwing away, I felt very good, but after a while, the room was filled with new things. From now on, I don’t have to worry about it anymore. Let’s just let it go.
Until I saw a passage in "Love of Beauty is also Productivity":
Good separation is not anti-matter , but allows us to deal with the relationship between ourselves and things. Sometimes, it is a healthier mentality to properly satisfy yourself and establish a positive interaction with items.
The real separation is not to throw away all my things, but to be friends with myself and find a life that suits me. Start with the items at home, slowly clear out those things that are not commonly used, and then clean up your inner world, the painful past, the people who have hurt you, and the innocent feelings.
A person's heart is only the size of a palm. There are too many things crammed into it, which will make you waver and not know what choice to make. Similarly, you should not put too many things in one room. If you are not able to move around smoothly, you will not be happy when you see those things, but worry about where to put them.
Conclusion:
What is the meaning of marriage?
Some people say that marriage is not about dragging each other down, but about encouraging each other in life and being able to discuss things personally. Comfort and encourage each other when life is tiring. When I get home from get off work, I can have someone to eat with. If I have been wronged outside, I will have a warm hug when I get home.
sounds great, but there are very few people who can actually do it. Sometimes, the grievances you suffer come from the other party, which makes people disappointed in the marriage again and again. But no matter how difficult life is, you have to work hard to be yourself. After all, marriage is not the meaning of life. Loving yourself and living a wonderful life is.
