picked up the second girl, Zhenbao, after school. We went to the convenience store in the community to buy things. Zhenbao picked two lollipops, one for her and the other for her sister.
After paying the bill, Zhen Bao immediately opened the lollipop and started eating it. There was a little girl next to
, about three or four years old. She stared at Zhen Bao without blinking. It was obvious that she also wanted to eat.
I was a little hesitant to give her another lollipop, but I was not sure about her family's attitude and was a little afraid to give it.
Just as I was hesitating, the little girl’s grandmother (who was about sixty years old, so she should be her grandmother) came over, and she quickly understood what was going on.
She began to persuade the girl in a low voice. She said, do you want to eat sweets again? Did you forget that eating candy will cause your teeth to fall out? Eating sweets is not a good boy.
How come eating sweets makes you not a good boy? I was speechless, but I didn't want to argue with her, so I took Zhen Bao and left quickly.
Should you give your children candy?
Having been a mother for many years, I know that most children like to eat sweets, but when it comes to their children eating sweets, parents have very complicated attitudes.
Generally speaking, parents have the following three attitudes towards their children's eating of sweets:
First, strictly limit their children's eating of sweets.
Second, children are not restricted from eating sweets, but they are not encouraged either.
The third type, it doesn’t matter.
Our family belongs to the second type.
We don’t restrict children from eating sweets, but we also don’t buy a lot for them at once so that they can eat as much as they can.
In fact, I believe that most parents will not encourage their children to eat more sugar or eat sugar as food. As the saying goes, too much is never enough.
I believe that most parents are like us, just let their children eat a little, taste it, and know that the sugar is sweet and delicious.
But I also know that there are some parents who strictly limit their children’s consumption of sweets. When a child eats a little candy, they become worried or nagging. Not only do they not buy candies for their children, they also don’t let their relatives and friends give candies to their children.
In their opinion, eating sugar has no benefits. For example, it will cause children's teeth to decay, make children gain weight, and prevent children from eating well.
Does sugar have such magic power? Make parents love and fear at the same time.
What are parents worried about when their children eat sweets?
Actually, eating sugar is not the root cause of tooth decay . The fundamental reason for children’s tooth decay is that we fail to help children clean their mouths. After all, when children are young, most of the cleaning work depends on their parents.
Moreover, this is also related to the child's physique.
I remember that when Zhenbao was about one year old, two of her teeth suddenly started to turn yellow. At that time, I rarely let her eat sweets. Later, I took her to see a dentist, who said that maybe my child's tooth development was affected because I didn't get enough calcium during pregnancy.
I went to experience it a few years later, and the doctor also recommended that I take calcium supplements. It was then that I remembered that Zhen Bao’s teeth were not good, and it was really my influence. I felt sorry for the child.
And I have a friend. Her daughter has loved eating sweets since she was a child. She eats a small bag of Skittles , or gummy candies, bubble gum, etc. almost every day. The child doesn’t brush her teeth very much. Now the child is six years old and has good teeth. I have tooth decay and have never had my teeth filled.
is like a child, no matter how long he plays with his mobile phone, his eyes are not short-sighted. It is really annoying to compare people to others.
There is a big difference between not allowing children to eat sweets and not being restricted from eating sweets when they grow up.
Raising children is a long and tedious process. Sometimes, parents’ seemingly inconspicuous decisions have a profound impact on their children. .
Take eating sugar as an example. What is the difference between children who are not allowed to eat sugar since childhood and children who are not restricted from eating sugar when they grow up? In fact, the gap is huge, so parents shouldn’t care.
First, lose precious freedom.
Parents who do not allow their children to eat sweets are generally controlling parents who like to interfere in their children's lives and studies.
When they feel that eating sweets is not beneficial, they do not allow their children to eat sweets; when they feel that playing games damages their eyesight and is a waste of time, they do not allow their children to play games.
and there is no room for negotiation.
In this way, children will become passive and lose their freedom.
A child who is not free will have his parents make decisions about everything. He will feel suffocated and will not be able to grow into a conscious person.
Second, the compensation mentality is strong.
There is a girl in Lingbao's class. She has been strictly required by her parents since she was a child. She is not allowed to eat snacks (especially sweets) and play with mobile phones. In short, there are a lot of requirements.
In the lower grades, this child was still very obedient. When other children of the same age were eating sweets and discussing mobile games, she would stay away. However, Lingbao reported that she actually wanted to eat sweets and play with them. game.
Later, when the child grew older and reached adolescence, he often saved some pocket money and used it to buy candy. He ate it all at once and was unwilling to stop eating until he felt uncomfortable.
Whether it is said that she is rebellious or has a compensatory mentality, it is actually deep down in her heart that she is making up for the regret of not eating sweets when she was a child.
Sometimes, the less parents want their children to do something, the more curious the children are and want to try.
It is better to let go and let the child try it. When he knows that sugar is very sweet but uncomfortable if he eats too much, he may not care about it anymore.
Third, inferiority complex.
When children see other children eating sweets, they will be envious and have questions. Why can other children eat sweets, but their own parents tell them a lot of truth?
Children cannot understand so many truths, and they will not think about deep things. They will simply think that they must be not good enough and their parents don't love them anymore, so they don't let them eat sweets.
Over time, children will develop an inferiority complex.
Whether to restrict children from eating sweets or to allow children to eat sweets may be a matter of a parent’s mind, but the impact on the children is huge.
Of course we do not encourage children to eat a lot of sweets. In fact, no parent would do this. But if you give your child candy once or several times, the child will not become addicted to sugar and will not eat anything but sugar.
Sometimes, the more forbidden it is, the more children want it. It's better to let go and give your children some freedom. The existence of
is reasonable. The existence of sugar allows children to taste the sweetness on the tip of their tongues, the richness of food and the beauty of life.
It would be a pity if children were simply restricted and their lives would be deprived of an experience.
