When encountering the above problems, Mr. Miaogu will answer: "It's too late", "Parents didn't do their homework well", why? because they missed the best time for children’s psychological education.
So, at the beginning of this week, Mr. Miaogu prepared a few questions. I am also a good friend of Mr. Miaogu and a mother who consults me before pregnancy. Several questions I will ask:
☞01. Do you have enough? Time to accompany your children to grow?
If you are in urgent need of making money, if your career is too important, and if you do not have time to nurture yourself, then it is definitely not suitable for you to have children for the time being. Otherwise, it is very likely that the children will have become strangers by the time your career grows...
☞02. You Do you have enough patience to spend time with your children?
If you only need others to care about you and are unwilling to care about others; if you have no patience for the trivial matters in life and are extremely reluctant to do such things, you should consider whether you want to be a father or mother in the short term.
☞03. Do you know the basic stages of a child’s psychological development, and what do you need to do at each stage to complete his “psychological upbringing”?
In modern society, if you don’t educate, TV and the Internet will educate him or her. When you find various "problems" in your child, it is too late for you to act - there is a critical period for psychological development.
So, the following three points,
is different from all Internet articles,
I hope Mr. Miaogu’s sincere suggestions,
can make parents feel~
Within one year of age, whenever a child is familiar with face appears, and is greeted by familiar faces again The irritable baby can be calmed down immediately by the caregiver's hugs and caresses; when this attachment and sense of security are often satisfied, the baby will feel happy and relaxed. On the contrary, the baby will be irritable and restless.
Psychological research has found that if people do not get the satisfaction of this attachment for a long time in early life, they will easily develop a sense of dissatisfaction, which will lead to personality disorders such as irritability, sensitivity, and neuroticism.
Therefore, experts suggest that for infants and young children under 3 years old (especially under 1 year old), they should ensure 1-2 fixed caregivers, and should not always change caregivers.
A child who can "eat well" must be a "child who can live a good life". This requires careful cultivation by parents, rather than thinking that children will learn to eat by themselves when it is time to eat. We have shared many issues of Eat Well.
Although the career of new women is very important, if you choose to become a mother, then your first priority is to be a mother and complete the construction of "mom taste". Although not every A mother who is "good in the living room" is "good in the kitchen", but becoming a mother, a mother who can cook, is the homework we choose to complete.
It's very simple, make friends with Mr. Miaogu,
Let's catch the child's stomach together,
catch the child's heart.
If you wait for his adolescence after he is 12-14 years old, when you start to "say no" to him (her) again, he will no longer cry, choke, or roll around.
He (she) will run away from home, he (she) will commit suicide by taking poison, and he (she) will threaten his parents by jumping off a building, because at that time he (she) already has various abilities and options to deal with you.
