Introduction
I don’t know when, the number of widowed families in our country is increasing., There are many children, and they are more eager for their father’s company. But there is also a rather puzzling pattern in the family, which is that the father's status is getting lower and lower.
But no matter what, we cannot ignore the importance of the father's role in the growth of children. No matter how powerful mothers are, the education they bring to their children is lacking, because only the companionship of father and mother can make children grow up healthily.
1. The importance of fathers becomes more and more obvious as children grow.
1. When children are young, their father is a superman. Treat the other person as your guardian angel.
At this time, if the father neglects his children because he is busy with work, it is likely that the parent-child relationship will continue to become alienated. As the children grow up, they communicate less and less with their fathers, and their inner changes determine that they cannot move in the direction of a healthy child.
When young children get help from their father, they get the greatest sense of accomplishment, because for these children, their father represents strength, which indirectly makes them feel stronger.
2. As children grow up, they need more rational thinking from their fathers.
Most families have loving mothers and strict fathers, but no matter what type of family they are, the education that the father brings to his children is more rational. Therefore, if you want your children to become a person who can distinguish right from wrong, they must not lack father's love.
Especially when boys are in bed, if there is no adult male to set an example for them, then the behavior of these children may tend to be more feminine, This is also the most important factor in the origin of mama's boys.
3, Children who are accompanied by their fathers are more resistant to frustration
Although fathers will be more severe in their criticisms of their children when they make mistakes in daily life, some education methods will make children more resilient. strong. Especially when these children reach adolescence, if they still do not show any rebellious psychology under the reproach of their father, then this child must be very vulnerable. But more importantly, these children's ability to resist setbacks has been improved as a result of their father's tough education.
No matter which aspect you analyze, when these children are growing up, they cannot lack father's love or mother's love.. But in comparison, if you want to cultivate better children, correct education from the father is the most important.
2. What destroys a child’s character is not beatings, scolding and divorce, but the parents’ “actions” when they return home
1. Don’t be the reason for mothers to punish their children
I don’t know when, after these children made mistakes, the grandparents Or your mother will say that if you are naughty again, your father will go home and deal with you. After these fathers return home, in order to cooperate with their family's education, they will also scold their children.
This kind of father who starts to educate his children strictly without any indifference will cause great harm to the child, because in their view, the father's behavior is that of an outsider. The only one who will punish them after making mistakes is dad.
2. Don’t be a red face and a white face.
Some parents have very backward educational concepts and still adopt the method of giving a candy a piece of board. Naturally, of course, it was the father with a more imposing image who took on the role of blackface. Over time, these children's favorable impression of their father will plummet..
Because in the eyes of these children, they have no idea what kind of educational philosophy is for their own good. Therefore, even if the child is in pain due to tooth decay and cannot sleep, as long as they are given candy, they will still be good people in their hearts.
3. Not communicating with their children
Many fathers are very careless in educating their children, because in their view, their wives educate their children in the same way. This is why all children find their father in the end to find their mother.
As the children grow up, if the father continues to ignore the needs of his children, or does not take the initiative to express his emotions to his children at all, then the role of the father will gradually fade in their lives.
So I don’t want to become strangers living under the same roof with my children. Regardless of whether the children have reached adolescence or are rebellious, fathers must communicate more with their children.
Everyone compares a father's love to a mountain. For these fathers who can give their children a correct outlook on education, only when children climb this mountain of life can they understand how deep their father's love is.
The author has something to say: Judging from the current situation, the new generation of parents is also deficient in educating their children, so before becoming parents, you must have a heart to accompany your children to grow. Especially as a father, educating children well is the most important task that a father should complete. also hopes that our country’s educational philosophy can be more advanced and cultivate more qualified parents.
