Wen|Wen'er heard a friend say yesterday, "Not only does my son look like the same mold as my husband, he even has a very similar temper. It doesn't seem like he has any big flaws, but looking at the same temper as his father, it's really Quite helpless.

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Yesterday I heard a friend say, "My son not only looks like the same mold as my husband, he even has a very similar temper. It doesn't seem like he has any big flaws, but looking at the same temper as his father, It's really helpless.

For example, I don't care about cleanliness. I like to throw stinky socks everywhere. No matter how many times I try, it still doesn't work. When you wash clothes, you have to look for socks for several days and sometimes you can't find them. Where is it? Under the chair, under the clothes rack, under the crib, under the computer table. It's really broken.

My husband is like this, and so is my son. In the future, my son's wife will also dislike him. "Mom, why didn't it affect him?"

After listening to my friend's words, I suddenly thought of what my husband said to me two days ago: "Look at your son now, he can't listen to anything he says, and he talks too much. Let’s talk about him.”

After thinking about this, I suddenly felt shocked. It turns out that children will inevitably imitate their parents' temperaments, whether they are good or bad. Sometimes a certain trait that you hate most in your partner will probably be found in your children as well. As people often say, choosing a partner for yourself is choosing parents for your children. Unfortunately, many people know it too late.

A child's character is actually shaped by his parents.

As the saying goes, a dragon begets a dragon, a phoenix begets a phoenix, and a mouse's son can dig holes. A child is a shadow, reflecting the shadow of his parents.

Parents are their children's first teachers, and they are also the people who have the deepest and most profound influence on their children. They are also the earliest images that children imitate the most. And bad habits are often easier to imitate and pass on than good habits.

If there is something in the partner you choose that you can't stand, it may be something in your child in the future. Sometimes we have to admire the power of genes. When you choose this person as your partner, you accept that your children will be like him in the future. After all, children's personalities are actually shaped by their parents.

You must choose your partner carefully. A good partner can reduce half of the pain in life and give your children a better growing environment.

When talking about marriage, Buffett once said: The most important decision in a person's life is to choose. What kind of person to marry. Only when it comes to choosing your future partner, if you really make the wrong choice, you will lose a lot, and this loss is not just monetary. It is a happy family and the future of children. The latter is the biggest loss.

Regardless of man or woman, once you choose the wrong partner. Then most of the married life is a mess. If you don't have children and choose to stop the loss in time, the loss may only be emotional harm and loss of confidence in the ability of marriage and love. But if you have children, a wrong partner will not only make your marriage a mess, but also cause the children to live in an unhealthy and unharmonious native family since childhood, and the children will suffer severe psychological trauma.

A partner who also has character flaws and bad habits. It will also subtly shape and influence the child's personality and outlook. If a child learns obvious character flaws and bad habits from either parent, the impact on the child will be lifelong.

If the marriage between two people is really unsustainable, they choose to divorce. Then the child is forced to become a single-parent family, which is a lifelong shadow and imprint. Really, choosing the wrong partner is very likely to give your child a wrong life.

Therefore, the most complicated thing to do for yourself and your future children is to carefully choose your lifelong partner so that you can have a good marriage and your children can have a good family of origin.

[Topic discussion: Do you agree with this point of view? 】

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