Hello everyone, I am Wenwen’s dad!
Every parent hopes that their children can inherit their excellent genes and be smart, cute and beautiful.
There is such a girl among Wenwen's dad's classmates. She is very beautiful and is a well-known beauty in the community: big eyes, long eyelashes, three-dimensional facial features, and fair skin, which almost satisfies everyone's sense of aesthetics.
No matter who sees it, they can’t help but praise: is so beautiful! But judging from her current situation, her beauty may be her least worth mentioning advantage, and it is even a troublesome thing.
remembers that starting in the fourth grade of elementary school, boys in her class would write love letters to her. When she was in junior high school, she started dating boys and receiving various gifts from them. As time passed, her mind was no longer on studying, and her grades plummeted.
The parents were very anxious, knowing that their children might fall in love prematurely, but they did not have the right guidance. When they found a love letter written by a boy in their schoolbag, the irritable father beat his daughter indiscriminately.
It was this beating that created a gap between father and daughter. The girl began to stay up at night, and even skipped school to go out with the boys. In the third year of junior high school, the girl and her boyfriend secretly tasted the forbidden fruit, which resulted in early pregnancy and was expelled from the school.
And her parents were also very troubled by their rebellious daughter! After being expelled from school, the girl's father still wanted to find another school to attend. Helpless, the girl insisted not to study, but insisted on marrying the boy and giving birth to a child.
In this way, she became the first person in the class to get married. In order to raise children, both of them went out to work, leaving the children with their parents. Girls have become what everyone calls "bad girls".
And her parents, when talking about her, beat their chests and cursed, disobedient and ruined her life! And remind parents who have daughters: Girls should not be too beautiful. If you don’t worry about it, your parents will suffer too!
Since then, Wenwen's father's parents often reminded his sister: Being born beautiful is the least worth mentioning advantage of a girl!
Some time ago, Wenwen’s father saw an article published by a middle school teacher on the Internet, "Advice from a middle school teacher, don’t dress your daughter too beautifully."
As soon as the article was published, it was reposted by many platforms, triggering heated discussions among netizens. Wenwen’s dad intercepted part of it:
After reading the entire article, the central idea of this middle school teacher is: Girls, don’t dress yourself up. Too beautiful, easy to fall in love early!
Wenwen’s father combined the experience of the girl in his hometown with the ideas of the middle school teacher, and suggested that parents with beautiful daughters should provide these educations to their children to prevent them from going astray and regretting for life!
01. It’s not a girl’s fault to be beautiful
Wenwen’s father once took his daughter out to play. When his friend’s son saw his daughter, he hugged and kissed his daughter’s face and said: I like Wenwen so much, Wenwen is so good. cute!
I told my friend’s son that before kissing a girl, he must first obtain permission from the girl, otherwise he is not allowed to kiss;
I also told my daughter that she should not let boys kiss her casually and that she must know how to refuse loudly.
Later, when I told my friend about this, she said nonchalantly: Anyway, I gave birth to a son, so I won’t suffer any loss! Wenwen’s father immediately became furious and shouted: It is precisely because of parents like you that we have created so many scumbags!
Looking around at the parents who have given birth to sons, almost all of them think this way. They feel that they have given birth to a son and will not suffer, so they just let it go; if something goes wrong, they will blame the girl.
Do you still remember the girl named Zhou Yan? Because she did not agree to the advances of a male classmate, lighter fluid was poured on her head and set on fire. She was severely burned and even one of her ears was burned off.
Some people on the Internet blamed girls, saying that girls are beautiful and do not know how to behave. After seeing this, Wenwen’s father was really angry: Does the fact that girls are beautiful become a reason for boys to make mistakes? It's so ridiculous.
02. In the face of puppy love, do a good job in bottom-line education
For adolescent children, puppy love is an inevitable topic. In fact, according to Wenwen's father, there is nothing wrong with having early love. It mainly depends on how parents and teachers guide them.
Every child is an independent individual with an independent soul. It is normal to like someone. When actor Huang Lei talked about parenting, he said bluntly: Educating children is not to prohibit them from doing wrong things, but to guide them to do right things.
As writer Luo Song said: The best protection for your daughter is to provide bottom-line education as early as possible!
① The bottom line of the body
Sa Beining In the program "Don't Go After School", he discussed the topic of premature love with some post-00s:
In Chinese education, sex has always been a mysterious topic. Adolescent children will have instinctive impulses, but if they do not grasp the limits, it will lead to big mistakes.
This is precisely the main reason why most parents oppose their children’s puppy love: Weak awareness of the body’s bottom line! Just like the girl from Wenwen's father's hometown, when her parents discovered her puppy love, the education they gave her was a beating. As a result, the parent-child relationship was alienated, and the child was completely pushed against them.
However, if parents discover that their children are in puppy love, they can actively guide them and tell them how to get along with others correctly, what they can and cannot do during puppy love, and educate their children about their physical bottom line. Maybe the girl's life situation will be very different!
②Life Education
Every year, adolescent girls take risks due to emotional distress and lose their lives. Whenever this kind of news breaks out, Wenwen's father almost feels heartbroken every time he sees it. He always reflects on the education of children, which should teach them to love and cherish life.
Among these children who choose to end their lives, most have not yet established a correct understanding of the concept of "death" and have embarked on an irreversible road.
For adolescent children, anything big or small in the eyes of adults will become the last straw for them. But if children receive life education from an early age, have a correct understanding of death, and know the bottom line of life, they may know how to treat life.
My parents told Wenwen's father since he was a child: Fate is greater than reason, greater than love, greater than everything else.
In short, as a girl, no matter whether she is beautiful or not, parents should educate her about the bottom line of body and life. Wenwen's father sincerely hopes that every girl can be at the same age as Hua and have the same memories as Hua, and not let the tragedy continue.
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