is to always compare other people's children with their own children. You look at others who are more obedient, you look at others who have good grades, you look at people who play piano so well... Have you ever said similar hurtful language to your children?
First: Comparison will reduce children’s happiness
Primary school to elementary school student ratio, middle school to middle school student ratio, college to university student ratio, job and colleague ratio ~ Endless comparisons will accompany the child’s life, every day In the midst of anxiety, even if our child succeeds, then her spirit is tense every day.
Second: It will lower the child’s self-confidence.
Listen to the parents over and over again every day, which classmate, which friend is good and that is good, the subtext is that I am not good, I am not as good as anyone, I am the worst, then I'll break the jar, and I can't do anything anyway. Every day the child only pays attention to what he cannot do, ignores what he does, and does not fight for what he encounters, because he always remembers the words of his mother that you are inferior to so and so.
Third: There are better ways to motivate and change your language
When you can’t help but want to compare each time, please think about the names of these people, Jack Ma, Ma Huateng , Yang Lan, Dong Mingzhu... Think about it, if your mother compares you with them, what would you think?
Fourth: Discover the advantages of children
Don’t compare the advantages of other people’s children with the shortcomings of our children. Every child is a unique individual with his own shining points. Choose what she is good at Do. Whenever you have to do something that you can’t do well, you should praise your child’s progress. For example, my child is not good at math, but his English is super good. Let you learn so fast, can you use mathematics?
Use active language,Help our children build self-confidence, find their own shining points, do what they do best, expand their sense of accomplishment, and enhance their sense of happiness. Happiness is always greater than excellence!
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