"If your mother-in-law is always rushing to take care of the children with you, what kind of experience will you have, will you collapse?"
Hello, I am the family education instructor Matt, who advocates experiential family Education, advocating scientific and rational parenting.
Today I will talk to you about the topic: Why does the mother-in-law want to grab the child with me? There is a high probability that you can see your own shadow.
This is a case with her mother-in-law. A young mother thinks that her mother-in-law is robbing her of a child. Doesn’t it sound incredible? The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are robbing the child. What is the situation? Look.
One day, the child suddenly coughed a few times. The mother-in-law didn't tell her daughter-in-law, she quietly took her grandson to the small clinic to buy medicine, and this was not the first time.
In early education, the parents-in-law forced their three-and-a-half-year-old grandson to recite the nursery rhymes.
These are all okay, the most unacceptable thing for my mother is that I seem to be a transparent person in this family.
The parents-in-law rushed to pick up the children and put them in the kindergarten. It was all right, but when the children asked their mother where they had gone, they replied that your mother was gone. But the child's mother is clearly at home.
The most ridiculous thing is that I don’t know why I like to compare, for example, grandma is good-looking or grandma is good-looking? Is grandma's house or grandma's house better? It's nothing more than saying that grandma's house is good. I'm afraid to talk about grandma's house. If you do, grandma will definitely say, then don't talk to grandma in the future. The child didn't know what to say. This mother is even more speechless.
Do you have such a mother-in-law? Don’t you think, why is this mother-in-law always stealing children from me?Is this actually robbing?
The psychology of in-laws turned out to be like this.
I think that such a mother-in-law just doesn't approve of her daughter-in-law from the bottom of her heart, and it can even be said that she doesn't take her daughter-in-law seriously.
Such in-laws should be relatively strong, domineering, and quite patriarchal at home. In their ideology, it is not the daughter-in-law, but the parents, whether it is everyone or the son's small family, that the family is in charge. Anyway, if I am the only one, you have to listen to me.
In addition, the parents-in-law are also very selfish people. This kind of selfishness is different to others. The family members are good, especially the outsiders. The daughter-in-law is not a family member, it is an outsider, only sons and grandsons are. family.
Therefore, if you have something to do, you won’t ask for the opinions of your daughter-in-law, and you are all in your own right. What's the matter, in the end, the daughter-in-law is tired and still not welcome.
At this point, I believe that many mothers will feel the same. My mother-in-law doesn’t take herself seriously, and my husband doesn’t care. I’m not a person at home and I can’t control it. I don't even know what it is for when my little family is interfered by others.
This phenomenon is actually very common. It exists in first- and second-tier cities as well as third- and fourth-tier cities, but the degree is different. So, what worries the mothers is how to solve this matter.
Some people say, staying away from in-laws, this is indeed a way to live independently, but in real life, some families cannot go out alone for many reasons, or they cannot take care of their children full-time, so this This method is difficult to achieve.
So what should I do?
The three-pronged approach may only change.
The first thing to do is to properly discipline children. No matter how others teach, as a mother, you should know what is the correct way of discipline.If you don't care, then others will naturally take the lead. If you don't manage it properly, others will have a reason, and then you will be very passive. Therefore, we must learn the correct methods of education.
The second trick is to combine soft and hard with in-laws. No one wants to intensify conflicts, but to solve problems. It is useless to get in touch with such in-laws, because they don’t know how to listen, but perhaps they will listen to what the experts say, and consciously take them to some lectures to amplify some small problems. , They were worried about it, so naturally they were somewhat restrained. In addition, stick to principles when you should be tough, because children are more important than them.
The third trick is to unite the front for your husband. Most husbands must be on the side of their wives, but they can’t do anything to their parents. At this time, you need to push them, not to let your husband make trouble with the family, but to take some words from you. Her husband said it to grasp a mentality, in-laws are most afraid of something wrong with the child. This is a weakness and must be grasped. They don't believe what you say, but they will believe what your son says.
Family problems cannot be solved in a short time. Mothers need to keep patience and a clear head. Remember that solving problems should not be justified, but we must grasp the weaknesses. What is the weakness of the elderly must be grasped. .
Even if it is the same problem, different people and different family environments must use different methods. After mastering the principles, try again. In terms of family education, parents are the key. This right must not be let go. The child must be hurt. Do you get it?
I am teacher Matt, thank you for your attention, and welcome to leave comments.
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