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It stands to reason that everyone now knows that boys should not be patriarchal, but in the hearts of many older generations, although they know this truth, the original complex still exists.
For example, whether the first birth is a daughter or a son, the intensity of the second birth in the family is different;
For example, if there are two husbands and wives, the mother-in-law will prefer the daughter-in-law who gave birth to the son;
For example, if you have two daughters, your family will always regret and want to have three children.
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In such an environment, young parents are inevitably affected.
I saw a video two days ago. A mother who had just given birth to a delivery room was weak and sorrowful. After seeing her husband, she said to her husband: "I'm a son, right? My mission is over. Come on, go up, I’m so uncomfortable."
"Give your mother a happy time, so happy, let’s laugh, I’ve been crying for a while, I can be rewarded... …"
"Span", "Task completed", "Mother is happy", these words should be very touching for mothers who have a baby.
Having two children, both children, this is the satisfaction in the eyes of the elders. It is indeed the task of young mothers. If you want a son, you may try a few times and finally get hit, but the child is born. Later, when a mother feels not the joy of welcoming a new life,It's a relief from stress.
So below this video, a lot of Baoma left a message and said that she was very sad after watching it. This is because she was very wronged in her husband's house.
A classmate in my hometown gave birth to a daughter at the first birth. Later he planned to have a second child and tried every means to have a son.
Because her mother-in-law is too patriarchal, she usually doesn't pay much attention to her daughter. She has a lot of anger in her heart and loves her daughter very much.
Later, she slowly began to have an obsession with having a son. In the middle, she had lost two children. They both went to find someone to get their pulses when they were 3 months old, and tried to do a B-ultrasound check for men and women. She was basically a girl, so she knocked the child out.
The two children are a pity, she also suffered a lot, and because she was pregnant with three daughters, she really began to feel that she "has no son."
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TV series "Dear Myself", Zhang Zhizhi, played by Kan Qingzi, encountered exactly this situation.
Her daughter Yuwei, her mother-in-law didn’t like it. She gave Yuwei something out of date and refunded her tuition for early education classes. She said something patriarchal in front of Yuwei. In her eyes, raising a daughter does not need to spend so much money, which makes Zhang Zhizhi particularly angry, but helpless.
The mother-in-law has been urging them to have a second child,However, considering that life pressure is too great, Kan Qingzi and her husband do not want to have a second child, so Zhang Zhizhi has to face the extreme pressure of her mother-in-law to give birth to her. She is forced to drink Chinese medicine by her mother-in-law, and finally even uses the reason that she can't have another child. Prevent the birth of the mother-in-law.
If it wasn't because of too much pressure, who would use this excuse when the mother-in-law didn't like herself.
At that time, when I watched this drama, when it came to this story, I was suffocated for Zhang Zhizhi.
Of course, there are few extreme mothers-in-law like in TV dramas. In real life, many mothers-in-laws say that boys and girls are the same, but they still feel that girls are good, but sons are not. few.
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Although it is distressing to be given birth to a son, , but giving birth due to stress is not necessarily a good decision.
is like the mother in the opening video. After the delivery room, the first reaction was not happiness, but a kind of "submissive" resistance. Now you are all satisfied...
with self It may be joyful to resist by sacrifice and self-giving up, but there is no substantial harm in such retaliation. After the child is born, it is still his own, and the consequences of his own decisions must be borne by himself.
No matter what, childbirth is one's own business. The factor in deciding whether or not to have a child should be whether you are looking forward to the arrival of this little life, not because of pressure or exaggeration. Psychology.
Otherwise, if Bao’s mother doesn’t like the child in her heart, or the conditions at home are not suitable for having a child at this time, the arrival of the child does not mean the end of the troubles, but the coming of more troubles. Without a love, how to support it?
Moreover, is this also a bit sour for a newborn child?
There may be a lot of pressure at home and around relatives and friends, which makes it difficult for Mom to resist. I also know how difficult it is to be in this situation, just like the situation Zhang Zhizhi faced in the TV series "Dear Myself".
However, I hope that mothers should take their lives in their own hands and not compromise due to external factors.
children can have two or three children, but as long as they are their own children, they like them and look forward to the arrival of each child. Before melon ripeness falls, do not care about the sex of the child, do not consider whether others like the child, just need to be sure, I will love him wholeheartedly.
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