September is the golden autumn, and it is the beginning of the new semester once a year. Many cute babies are separated from their parents for the first time and enter the kindergarten. The Moments of Friends have also staged a variety of "Farewell Tears" dramas in the past few days. On the first day of school, there was a "wow" sound in the kindergarten.
The beginning of kindergarten can be described as some people are happy and some are worried, but the parents are happy, and they can finally transfer the beast to the teacher and regain their freedom. Of course, it is the cute babies who have to be separated from their parents who get along day and night, and learn and live in an unfamiliar environment. Can't see mom and dad all day.
Recently, a little boy who did not want to go to kindergarten became popular on the Internet. In the video, a little boy was crying heartbreakingly in the passenger seat of the car. Then the little boy seemed to feel that crying was not enough to express his sadness. He added physical movements and jumped up sadly in the car.
This jump does not matter, the boy’s head directly hit the windshield of the car, and the child cried even more sadly.
According to the child’s mother, that day, he and the child’s father were preparing to send the child to kindergarten. The child kept crying, so the father let the child sit in the co-pilot to comfort the child, and he took the video in the back seat and sent it to the child’s grandparents. . After the child was hit, there was only a slight redness and swelling on his forehead, but the child's windshield was broken.
After reading this precious mother’s sharing, many netizens left messages: “I see that the child is determined not to go to school”, “I really don’t want to go to school”, and many netizens ridiculed “Should not go to school, but should go to Shaolin Temple ".
Seeing this, I can't help but think of the scene of my girlfriend's son going to a baby before. In order to prove that he didn't want to go to kindergarten, my girlfriend's son cried for a full semester. As long as the school days, the first thing I wake up every day is to cry and say that I don't want to go to kindergarten.
Many parents will find it hard to understand when faced with the crying of their children. What are the scourges in the kindergarten that make children so unwilling to go to school, even after a semester, they still can’t adapt.
In fact, all we are talking about are separation anxiety,So why do children have separation anxiety?
Separation anxiety refers to the unpleasant emotions that a child has due to separation from his parents, including crying, anxiety, and restlessness.
On the one hand, separation anxiety is related to changes in the environment. Children transition from familiar family environments and familiar family members to a completely unfamiliar collective environment in kindergarten. They also need to be separated from their parents for a short time. The activities, diet, etc. in the kindergarten are also different from those at home, and children need time to adapt.
On the other hand, it is related to the child's personality. For example, when entering kindergarten at the same time, extroverted children will be able to adapt to kindergarten better and faster than inner children, while introverted children will be more cautious and anxious.
The environment and psychology make children extremely insecure and uneasy, so they have to cry and refuse to separate from their parents. Different children have different time to adapt.
What can parents do for separation anxiety?
1. Cultivate children's independent ability
Parents can begin to consciously cultivate their children's independent ability before the child enters the kindergarten, such as independent eating, regular nap, independent toileting, etc., and gradually cultivate the child's independence consciousness. After children have mastered these self-care skills, they can adapt more quickly after entering the kindergarten and enhance their self-confidence.
2. Expand social circle
In addition to teachers, there are more strange children in kindergarten. If children can learn how to make and meet new friends, they will not feel lonely if they have good friends in kindergarten. NS.
Parents can usually take their children out, let the children play with friends of the same age around the community, expand the social circle, learn how to make new friends, and adapt in advance to get along with friends of the same age.
3. Parents adjust their mentality
The new semester starts,This is often seen at the entrance of kindergartens. Parents cry with their children, and they will not leave after parting. Children have separation anxiety, and parents also have separation anxiety, worrying excessively about the child’s situation in the kindergarten.
Everyone knows that parents' anxiety can be transmitted to their children. Parents should adjust their mentality, treat their children as the first step in the society, and treat them correctly.
4. Visit the kindergarten in advance to learn about the environment
If conditions permit, parents can take their children to experience and visit some kindergartens that are about to enter school in advance, and get familiar with the environment and teachers in the kindergarten. Let the children have a preliminary concept and understanding of the kindergarten, and establish expectations.
5. Talk to your children more about school
After the children return home from kindergarten every day, parents can talk to their children about the situation in the kindergarten, such as "today Have a new good friend", "What fun has happened" etc., let the children remember the happy things in the kindergarten and look forward to entering the kindergarten the next day.
In fact, children’s adaptability is much stronger than mom and dad imagined. Moms and dads don’t have to be too anxious. They just need to believe that their children can cope easily and be prepared.
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