Since the 1980s, we are in the age of only child. There are few opportunities to pay attention to the differences in the personality of the boss, the second child, and even the third child.
With the country's second and third births. Parents, need to understand that the ranking in the home may affect the character of the child.
modern self-psychology father, Alfred Adler pointed out that the parenting style of the child, or the attention given to it, will vary according to the order in which the child was born.
The boss is smart and needs achievements, but he is afraid of competition.
The second child likes competition, has a rebellious character in his personality, and does not agree with authority.
The youngest is ambitious, but it is difficult to achieve his ambitions when he is lazy.
The boss turned out to be the only child in the family and enjoys the high attention of adults.
The birth of the second child is a life tragedy for the boss. Research has shown that some bosses, because of fear of competing with the second child, are desperate and start to decline.
caused the disappointment of his parents, and his evaluation was getting lower and lower.
The second child is different. Once you are born, you will have siblings and will be in competition for the rest of your life.
so he likes competition,Not afraid of competition. "The weak is king", he surpassed the eldest by taking advantage of the baby, the completely weak.
The old Trinity was born. There are already two siblings in front of him. Parents may not pay so much attention.
and the boss’s age are also much different, and the ability is not comparable. Therefore, the youngest will give up competition and seek protection from the boss. Therefore, the youngest will be lazy and reluctant to compete.
Now that this is the case, in real life, what should parents do to achieve a better balance and make each child grow healthier?
boss needs attention. Satisfy him when he asks for the same treatment as his younger siblings.
For example, if the boss sees his mother holding his second child, he wants to be hugged, so he can put down his second child and hug him.
Avoid rejecting him on the grounds of "you have grown up."
The third child needs encouragement. children may play regularly,Running, eating, and so on, when my mother announced the results, it can be said that the two-year-old champion, the four-year-old champion, and the six-year-old champion. Every child is a champion.
Let the youngest know that he can also win.
The difference between him and his siblings is only his age. Encourage him to compete, and every time he can win the championship, of course the champion of his age.
Family is the world of children. The love of parents and the attention of parents are resources that children compete for.
Dads and mothers, we must give full play to a high degree of empathy, as if you are the child, put yourself on the ground, feel the child’s situation, feel the child’s inner world, and help each child build self-confidence.
There is a theory in psychology. In the process of growing up, if a child can feel, have a pair of eyes, and is always paying attention to himself, then he can be himself with peace of mind.
If he didn't have these eyes, he would spend his whole life searching for such eyes.
This is the principle that a happy childhood heals a lifetime.
So, love and pay attention to every child. Whether it's the boss or the second child,As the third child, he can have a childhood healed for a lifetime! Grow up physically and mentally!
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