"How could it be my fault? It's all his fault, he provoke me first." Some children always point the finger at others, love to talk about others, and never review themselves. Thousands of mistakes are the fault of others. Have we ever wondered what happened to our children's ideas? How can we avoid all mistakes being attributed to others and seek truth from facts? Only two methods are used.
1. Stay away from complaining and start with your parents
Please pay attention to whether the people around you are always easy to complain and complain. Complaints and complaints make it easy for children to focus their eyes and attention on negative things. When children are always surrounded by such negative information, they often unknowingly make them fall into such a disadvantaged situation without knowing it, or even immersed in such a negative atmosphere, making them look at things blindly. The upper layer is covered with dusty lenses.
sometimes half-jokingly mentioned with friends around me, when I find that my friends are posting this uncomfortable, that is not right, who can’t stand him, and who is not satisfied with the text, I look at this full Full of complaints, you will feel like you are looking at his medical records. At the same time, I wonder what kind of energy this kind of stimulation can bring to him.
Complaining is okay, or even necessary, but it needs to be moderate, otherwise too many complaints can easily make people feel resentful and form obstacles to the cultivation of positive thinking.
So, please stay away from complaining and start with our parents!
2. Praise notes
Children need to be responded to, especially specific and positive responses. When was the last time you praised the child? And when was the last time you praised yourself? We may not be able to expect others to say good things to ourselves, but regarding self-affirmation and praise, please don't be stingy with yourself.
Then try to give yourself a compliment notebook! The more specific the compliment, the better. For example: "This time I really did a carpet inspection, carefully checking and calculating one question by one. I really admire my own concentration and continuity,Sure enough, a small error was found, and after correction, he got full marks.
Another example: "I found that my endurance and willpower are really super strong. Although I need to strengthen my running explosiveness, this time on the 3000-meter long-distance running test, I finally finished the whole course for the first time."
.Praise the children for their efforts, not the results of their efforts. This is very important.
Only praise the result, it will make the child pay too much attention to the result, and if it fails, it will be brooding.
Praising hard work will make children pay more attention to the process and strive for perfection in the process. The result is naturally success. Even if it fails, the child will not be discouraged, but will continue to work hard.
