Time flies, and it is only a blink of an eye to come to middle age. I was once young and ignorant, and after experiencing some things, I felt the warmth and coldness of human feelings and the coldness of the world, and finally got a deeper understanding and understanding of the e

Time flies, it is only a blink of an eye to come to middle age.

I was once young and ignorant, and after experiencing some things, I felt the warmth and coldness of human feelings and the coldness of the world, and finally got a deeper understanding and understanding of the essence of life.

When we were young, we had the courage to fight and dream, and the courage to hit the wall and never look back. But later on, the responsibilities on our bodies and the burdens on our shoulders, such as heavy burdens, could not make us act rashly regardless of the consequences.

When people reach middle age, they lack the courage when they are young and the comfort when they are old. They face the difficult situation of having old age and having young children. Any risk and accident will make life turbulent and let existing happiness slip away from their hands.

Writer Liang Wendao once said:

"The advantage of young people is that every young person believes that he can fly. When middle-aged people flap their wings, there are heavy weights that cannot be shaken off on both sides of their wings."

Life after middle age is already difficult, and we should know how to give up, don't let your burden be too heavy, and don't cause more trouble to your life.

people reach middle age, smart way to live: stop loss.

01: Stop loss is to avoid new losses

When things have happened, no matter you or I cannot change the past. We can only base ourselves on the present and strive to plan the current situation so as to change the future trend.

Similarly, stop loss cannot allow us to change things in the past, just to prevent new losses.

There is a noun in economics called sunk cost .

sunk costs are the costs that have occurred due to our past decisions and cannot be changed by any decisions now or in the future.

The reason why many people in life cannot let go of the past is because they are too obsessed with sunk costs. They are reluctant to give up their past efforts and are reluctant to give up their past efforts, which causes greater waste and more losses.

People who are middle-aged are mostly involuntary, so they should be more straightforward when dealing with things. Don’t always lose a big loan just because they cannot give up small profits.

knows how to stop losses in time and avoid paying heavier prices in the future. This is a kind of vision.

02: Stop loss can make people better distinguish right from wrong

" Strange Talk " has an issue of the debate topic: What should relatives do if they don't treat themselves as outsiders?

contestant Chen Ming tells the experience of his father:

His father came to the city from the countryside. He had never read any books and was a martial arts master. He later became a policeman. After working for more than ten years and having a certain status, many relatives came to him for help.

helps arrange work, helps to register, introduce partners, and asks for various help from relatives. My father always tries to help as much as possible, and helps if he can.

One year during the Chinese New Year, relatives came to their house for dinner, but as they ate, they started to complain about the things that their father had not helped. At that time, my father drank some wine and said all the words he had held in his stomach in the past, preferably saying that he would not have to interact with him in the future.

Faced with some unworthy people, we always soften our hearts, comfort ourselves again and again, and still give our sincere hearts to get sincere rewards. But in fact, the warmth and coldness of human feelings are far more cruel than we imagined.

In fact, stop loss can make people better distinguish right from wrong.

If you face unworthy people and things, you should break if you should break, and you don’t have to always bother with an impossible result.

03: When people reach middle age, the smart way to live is to stop loss

Life is not satisfactory. It must be that your choice was wrong at a certain stage, which triggered a series of butterfly effects , and finally revenge in your own life.

can be seen that when people reach middle age, they should know how to be cautious in their words and actions.

When it comes to marriage, you must know loyalty. Even if the love you used to have long been integrated into the trivial life, maintaining a marriage is not only because of love, but also family affection, responsibility, obligation, etc.

If you encounter bad peach blossoms, you must break them in time, don’t have any delusions, and don’t destroy the happiness you finally get because of temporary temptation.

When it comes to friendship, you must know how to choose. Not all friends can be called friends. Those who only know how to use themselves and those who only know how to betray themselves, then don’t miss them anymore.

Don’t let go of your sincerity, don’t cherish the falsehood.

People reach middle age, be cautious in everything.

When facing unknown risks, you need to learn to avoid them instead of head-on.

I am Aya, the writer of warm emotions. How lucky I can meet you in this life! Click to follow and let’s learn together!

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