people are in the world, we will meet all kinds of people and also encounter extremely magical things.
No matter how we struggle or how we complain, they appear in our lives, and then we can only accept reality and cannot stay out of it.
Some of the people and things that appear around us will bring us opportunities, and some will make us very upset. is like some villains. We hate them extremely, but they are still around us.
Modern people, when they meet these people who "can't stand it", they will only sulk, blame themselves, and even feel that life is not worth it. Is this really meaningful? It's meaningless.
All sulking behaviors are just to practice your own body, with all kinds of harm but no benefits. To put it bluntly, the more angry you are, the happier others will be. In the end, the angry one is just yourself. There are three lines in
" Don't be angry ": "If you lose your temper for trivial matters, why bother to think about it? If others are angry, I will not be angry, and there is no one to take care of you when you get sick; if I get angry, who will be happy, and it will be hurt and laborious."
is not worth it to be angry. Being angry for someone you don’t like is worthless. The most clever way to deal with people is to grasp these three points.
1. In a few years, you can see him.
Hanshan asked Shide, "Someone in the world slanders me, bullies me, insults me, laughs at me, despise me, despise me, despise me, hate me, and lies with me. How to deal with it?"
Shide said, "Just tolerate him, let him, let him, avoid him, be patient, respect him, ignore him, and ignore him. If you stay for a few more years, look at him."
Others insult me and make me angry, what should I do? Just ignore him and ignore him. In a few years, when you think about this, you will get the correct answer.
The reason why the parties are angry about the bullying and contempt of others is because people are emotional. Once this emotion erupts, it is not something that ordinary people can control.
Since this is the case, We should regard this "emotion" as an opportunity to practice, so that we can "not be alarmed when encountering things, and not be impatient when encountering people." smile at all the grievances and hatreds in the world, so that you can become the viewer, not the parties involved in the conflict.
What's more, thirty years Hedong, thirty years Hexi . Maybe the people you hate will be in trouble in a few years. Then why do you have to piss yourself to death and encourage others’ arrogance at that time?
2. Make money silently and live better than him.
When I first left the society, I heard an old man say this: "No matter what happens or who you meet, you must make money. When you have money, these people and things will not be your eyes."
Ordinary people are unhappy and can't stand others. The root cause is that they have no money and lack confidence in their hearts. Just imagine, if one day you have money and live a better life than others, how could you get angry casually?
There is a boss who was looked down upon by his neighbors and relatives in his hometown before starting his business. Others insulted him in every way, but he still tolerated him.
Whenever he thinks of these things, he will sulk. However, he found that sulking could not solve the problem. Therefore, he turned grief and anger into motivation and tried his best to make money. After more than ten or twenty years, he had a net worth of tens of millions and had a successful career.
Now, as soon as he returned to his hometown, he flattened the old ancestral hall, built a new ancestral hall, and wrote a couplet in front of the ancestral hall and carved it on it. When relatives saw him, they praised him for his ability.
In fact, the biggest revenge of is not to complain about oneself, but to make money well and live better than others., so who can see that you won’t obey? This is the confidence in being a human being.
3. Let go of secular distractions and let go of gains and losses.
One thought will let go of thousands of miles. A thought of persistence will change.
In "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", why did Zhou Yu be very angry when he saw Zhuge Liang , and even was "rebel against the general" by Zhuge Liang. Unfortunately, the golden sore burst and died young?
Because Zhou Yu "can't let go" his jealousy and resentment towards Zhuge Liang, before he died, he sighed, "When Yu is born, why is Liang?" Many of the worst results of are actually caused by themselves.
learned from Zhou Yu's lesson. When Sima Yi versus Zhuge Liang, he was very cautious. Facing the woman's dress Zhuge Liang gave him, Sima Yi even put it on, even laughing loudly, without feeling any shame.
is this "soft-skinned" attitude towards being a human being, which made Sima Yi laugh to the end. It is actually very difficult for ordinary people to put down
. The reason is that we can’t let go of the so-called face and cannot accept our true selves. So, we can only suffer the consequences. All the letting go of
is related to "see through". You see through it and have a strong face and don’t care about anything. Then you are like a tumbler, in an invincible place. Maybe you are shameless and will piss others off to death.
The so-called "return to the other person with the way" is the reason. Controlling temper, internalizing emotions, and being invincible in the face is the king.
text/Shushan Youlu
