It is human nature to like to hear complimentary words, and vanity is the weakness of human nature.
People who can say complimentary words are definitely more popular, and it is logical that things go smoothly.
In this society, people who can say compliments are definitely more popular, and it is natural that things go smoothly.
When a person hears praise from others, he is always very happy in his heart, with a smile on his face, and he keeps saying: "No, I'm not that good, you are really good at talking!"
Even if you think about it afterwards, you clearly know that the other person What he said may have been a compliment, but it still couldn't erase the joy in his heart.
Because it is human nature to like to hear complimentary words, and vanity is the weakness of human nature.
When you hear the other person's flattery and praise, you will have a great sense of superiority and satisfaction in your heart, and you will naturally listen to the other person's suggestions happily.
Someone went to a private stall to buy clothes. While trying on the clothes, the seller exclaimed:
"Ah! It's so beautiful! It fits very well, simple, generous and elegant.
A few years younger than before."
That The man was very happy after hearing this. He didn't want to buy that dress at first, but he bought it back.
People always like to be flattered by others.
Sometimes, even if you know that the other person is speaking flattery, you still feel complacent in your heart.
A person will never feel disgusted when he is praised by others, unless what the other person says is too unrealistic.
In May 11671, a shocking theft occurred in London. A group of thieves sneaked into Martin Tower on the outskirts of London, trying to steal Britain's "national treasure" - the King's Crown.
Because the information was leaked, the thief was caught without a fight.
King of England Charles II was shocked when he learned about this incident and decided to interrogate these daring and arrogant people in person.
As a result, Bulet, the chief criminal who committed the most heinous crime, was brought before the king.
Charles II looked at this humble man in front of him and thought to himself: I want to see what this man is capable of, how dare he steal the national treasure!
Thinking of this, he asked: "I heard that you still have the title of baron?"
"Yes, Your Majesty." Bulet answered honestly. "I also heard that you got this title by trapping and killing a man named Ames."
"Your Majesty, I just want to see if he is worthy of the high position you gave him. If he can easily If he is dismissed by me, Your Majesty can choose a more suitable person to replace him."
Charles II thought for a while and felt that Bullet was not only bold but also articulate.
Then he asked sternly: "Are you getting more and more courageous, and you dare to steal my crown?"
"I know that my move is too arrogant, but, Your Majesty, I just want to remind you to care about me. This helpless veteran.”
“Oh, what? You are not my subordinate!””
“Your Majesty, I have never fought against you. Now the world is peaceful. Aren’t all my subjects? Of course they are also your subordinates."
At this point, Charles II felt that Bullet was more like a scoundrel, "Tell me, what should I do with you?"
"From a legal perspective, we should be executed. However, each of the five of us will have at least two relatives crying for this.
From your majesty’s point of view, it is much better to have ten more people praising you than ten more people crying.”
Charles II did not expect that. He would answer like this, and then ask: "According to legend, you are a hero who robbed the rich and gave to the poor. Do you think you are a warrior or a coward?"
"Your Majesty, I have no place to stay. People are arresting me everywhere. Last year I did something in my hometown I held a fake funeral in the hope that people would think I was dead and stop chasing me. This was not the behavior of a brave man.
Therefore, although I am a brave man in front of others, I am a coward in front of His Majesty's authority. "
This unreasonable defense made Charles II so happy that he finally pardoned Bullet.
Complimenting others is like using a torch to warm people's hearts. It not only compliments the other person, but also creates good feelings between each other.
When he was young, Han Xin, after being "humiliated under the crotch", followed Han Gaozu Liu Bang and repeatedly performed extraordinary feats. So some people asserted: "If Han Gaozu had not had Han Xin, he would not have been able to unify the world. of dominance. "
Because of this, Emperor Gaozu of the Han Dynasty later became afraid of Han Xin's growing power, so he deliberately found an excuse to arrest and kill Han Xin on the charge of conspiracy.
At this time, Han Xin did not defend himself, but just said ：
"It is as expected:
'When the cunning rabbit dies, the running dogs are cooked; when the birds are gone, the good bows are hidden; when the enemy's country is destroyed, the advisers perish. '
I, Han Xin, can only be cooked and killed! "
After Liu Bang heard this, he also felt that Han Xin was the first hero of the founding of the country and could not be killed immediately, so he demoted him to the rank of prince and put it aside for the time being to see the consequences.
After Han Xin suffered this blow, he felt worried and angry, and spent the whole day
At this moment, Liu Bang and Han Xin, who had not seen each other for a long time, finally had an opportunity to meet and talk.
Han Xin was good at compliments, so he seized this opportunity and complimented Liu Bang in a timely and appropriate manner. It produced a very good effect.
The two people started talking about the soldiers, but they had different opinions.
Liu Bang asked Han Xin: "Do you think I have the ability to command an army of tens of thousands?" "
Han Xin replied: "Your Majesty can only command an army of about 100,000 at most! "
Liu Bang asked again: "So, what about you? "
Han Xin smiled: "Of course, the more, the merrier! "
Liu Bang also smiled and asked: "Then why are you used by me? "
At this time, Han Xin began to compliment cleverly:
"Although your Majesty does not have the talent of a 'general', he has the talent of a 'general'. This is why
is used by His Majesty.
Moreover, His Majesty’s instinct is innate and cannot be possessed by ordinary people. "
Han Xin's ingenuity in using such compliments can be called a masterpiece.
Liu Bang was overwhelmed by the compliments at that time. As for how he responded, there is no record in the history books, but it can be imagined from Han Xin's later comeback.
Praise Praise should be sincere from the heart. It is to "show off" the other person's strengths and sincerely appreciate them. The content of the praise is indeed factual and not false.
The tone of praise is usually friendly and natural, and the expression is sincere, making people feel. Be sincere and sincere.
If you have a cold face or a sarcastic tone when you praise others, then the other person is likely to think that you are playing tricks on him, that you are being hypocritical, and that your compliments have ulterior motives. The taste has changed, but it is no different from satire.
Author: Silent Man
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