Loneliness is the normal state of life and the only way for everyone to grow up. Therefore, learning to be alone should be an indispensable ability for everyone to grow up.
It is not difficult to find in life that there are two different situations when facing solitude. Some people often lose themselves when they are alone, trapped in the fog of loneliness and unable to extricate themselves. However, some people can enjoy solitude in solitude and achieve a better version of themselves. Why this happens depends on whether your thoughts are independent. People with poor thinking often regard loneliness as the embodiment of loneliness, and regard "lonely people" as boring people. Thinking people are just the opposite. They regard loneliness as a self-contained spiritual world, and being alone will become an interesting pastime for them. When they are alone, their self-power begins to awaken, their thoughts become more and more active, their hearts become more and more powerful, and their minds become more and more abundant, constantly bursting out fresh blood and life nutrients like a source. , only then can you understand your true thoughts, listen to your inner confession, and have a dialogue with your thoughts.
Loneliness means a kind of freedom, no need to follow the crowd, and you can be yourself.
A friend of mine told me that after he had dinner, he would often go for a walk in the fields alone. When there was no one around, he would sing loudly and sing whatever songs he wanted, singing as he walked. Purpose... He said that although he is tone-deaf, the feeling of completely releasing his emotions in singing is really interesting. I don’t know why, when I listened to him, I couldn’t help but smile at the corner of my mouth, imagining that his figure in the fields, stretched longer and longer by the sunset, was singing to nature to his heart’s content. That feeling is interesting to think about. and romance.
Another friend of the same age told me that every once in a while, he would let himself have a "isolated" time, choose a weekend, put aside all work, shut himself in his room, and turn off his mobile phone. , so that no one can find you, you are not allowed to contact the outside world for a day, and you completely rely on yourself to "float for half a day." He said that you can do many interesting things during this day, such as making a cup of tea and quietly watching the tea leaves floating in the cup; or opening a book and reading to let your mind wander; you can also find a pen and write Write about your mood, or sit in front of the window and watch the clouds roll and the sky fly...
As we age, we face more and more pressure in life, and there is less and less time to waste, but in his words , I seemed to see an interesting soul treating his life comfortably. He made me feel that all the time you are willing to waste cannot be regarded as a waste. Finally, he said something very funny to me. He told me: The first time I turned off my phone for a day, when I turned it on the next day, I thought there would be a lot of missed calls and WeChat messages, but in the end, only a text message reminder of insufficient phone balance appeared. .
Life is sometimes much simpler than we imagine. We don’t have that many viewers, so why do we have to make ourselves so tired?
Our life is said to be long, but it is also short, it is said to be rich, it is rich, and it is said to be poor, it is also very poor. Some people face various unknown challenges every day, some people repeat the same things throughout their lives, some people live as if they live ten times, and some people live as if they live only one day. No matter whether life is rich or poor, it is always limited. In our limited life, how much time do you spend living for yourself? We often live in the happiness in the eyes of others and forget our own inner feelings. We need to calm down and think slowly about what we really want.
Go and think alone, it can make the chaotic heart clear. Only those with a clear heart can see the troubled world clearly so that they can follow their own path. There is no need to let others know your stupidity, your innocence, your kindness, your luck, your misfortune, and your pain. All emotions need to be savored by yourself, because many times, the emotions that can be expressed are lost. Its essence has become an illusion. Learn to use silence to cover up your emotions, making yourself wiser, more knowledgeable and more meaningful.
In the material world, enjoying solitude is the last noble thing and the last freedom.
A person who likes to be alone must have his own independent thoughts. In his ideological system, he has clear right and wrong, and priorities. Therefore, he will not care about other people's opinions and will not be affected by secular life rules. value judgments and ways of doing things. When they are alone, they will not feel lonely. This is also the biggest characteristic of an independent-thinking person when they are alone - they are very good at playing with themselves. Unlike loneliness, which is a state, loneliness is a negative emotion. People who are poor in thinking often feel lonely and intolerable when they are alone, and have no interest in anything they do, while people who are rich in thinking can get along well with themselves when alone and can always find things that make them interesting.
I have a friend who often sits alone in the car. He said: At that time, I seemed to have nothing, no one to accompany me, no one to care, no one to know, but I could have everything, even the wind. Possession, air, freedom, thoughts, and the true self and inner world. I always feel that it is better to be alone and quiet than to laugh against your will. Low-quality social interaction is never as good as high-quality alone time. Therefore, when you are alone, it is not just chatting. For some people, being alone is not scary at all. On the contrary, it will It’s very interesting. It is an effective way for self-thinking and self-improvement. What I am afraid of is being in a crowd that does not belong to me. Although there are many friends, I actually feel more lonely. After hypocritical socializing, I will get nothing and I will only be exhausted. .
It’s not that lonely people can’t find playmates. On the contrary, only lonely people have real friends. What are friends? It is not that we can call each other friends after getting to know each other, it is not a network of relationships built driven by interests, nor it is boring people who have to get together because of loneliness, but only after the collision and fusion of hearts. As a friend, if you can't get into the other person's heart, then you can only be an acquaintance, not a true friend. Loneliness allows us to know ourselves. Only after you know yourself can you correctly know others, and thus identify who are the same type of people as you and who are people with different paths. When you learn to choose, you can find your true self. friend. Therefore, being alone is the basis for getting along. Only when you have the ability to be alone can you truly get along well with other people.
This is true for friends, and it is also true for lovers. If you can't waste your life on the person you like, it would be better to waste it on yourself. Falling in love with yourself is better than selling your soul cheaply. In the world of love, it is always better to immerse yourself in a person's beautiful loneliness and freely dispose of your soul than to reply to words without feeling or touch without any intention. A body that has had its heartbeat is a waste of time that has no future.
Love is an amplified freedom, not a compromise to deal with those who make you feel restricted.
In this case, what kind of emotion is the best emotion? From ancient times to the present, people have always claimed that love lasts a lifetime, and the best relationship is to hold hands and grow old together. But in today's urban love, the best relationship is not to hold your child's hand and grow old together, but in the process of holding your child's hand and growing old together, you have never lost your soul, but you can still understand each other. Treat each other's personalities with respect, comfort and harmony, and always love each other with gratitude. This kind of holding hands and growing old together is the best relationship.
Holding a child's hand is just the beginning of a relationship, and growing old together is just the result of the relationship. In this process, one's own feelings are the most important, because people quickly go from "sparks" to "looking at each other and hating each other." "It's too easy. It's just that there are too many couples now. It's obvious that they no longer have feelings, but as long as the trouble doesn't get to the point of darkness, they will think: Let's just live there. Because they finally realize in despair that it is easy to create sparks but too difficult to achieve a lasting fit. Therefore, even if such a marriage finally reaches the end of growing old together, it is not the best relationship.
Whether it is love or life, each of us should maintain the independence of our own personality. Not only must we have the courage to fight the world alone, but we must also have the mood to feel the world alone. Based on this premise, the feelings left behind can be Longer. There is a passage on the Internet that says very well: If you laugh, the whole world will laugh with you. If you give the world a ray of sunshine, the world will give you a spring. Many times, we walk and think in loneliness. Don’t expect others to interpret your soul and agree with your thoughts. You must know that you are just walking on the road of the world, but the world gives you the whole sky. .
Only when you learn how to be alone can you meet a better self. Maybe you will unexpectedly find that loneliness is the closest you get to your dreams, because everyone who works hard for their dreams is lonely. Their lives are never empty and lonely. They are so busy that they have no time to suffer and groan, only to be idle. Only those who have it will have random thoughts and a sad look on their face. On the road to chasing our dreams, we can only get to where we want to go by putting aside worldly distractions and focusing entirely on the path at our feet. Dreams make us lonely, and loneliness makes us closer and closer to our dreams. Loneliness and success are complementary to each other. No great career can be pursued without loneliness.
There is a mysterious power hidden in loneliness, which can make us reborn. Therefore, learning to be alone is an indispensable ability for everyone to grow. Only when we are alone can we know ourselves, see life clearly, and learn to grow. Loneliness is so magical. If you don't understand it, it won't understand you. Learn to get along with it, and it will teach you many principles of life.
In life, only when you walk with loneliness can you meet a better self.
