Are you about to retire? You are excited, happy, liberated, and anxious and sad. You feel that you will have a lot more time and can fulfill your dreams that you cannot complete when you work, but at the same time you suddenly don’t need to work, and you are at a loss when you are idle; or you are already retired, but you are wrapped up by a large number of life trivial matters in your family, making people unable to get angry, thinking that retirement is more tiring than going to work; maybe you were a leader before retirement, and you were used to the feeling of support from your subordinates. When you suddenly retire and go home, the gap in your heart is too big, which leads to depression and depression?
"From Living to Live: 100 Rules for a Better Life" This book gives us 10 rules, telling us how to live a better life after retirement. Whether people who are about to retire or who have retired should look at these rules. Those who are not retired can prepare for the future, those who are about to retire or who have already retired. These rules can make you enjoy your retirement more.
The author of the book Richard Taple is a British bestselling writer who is known as the "personal growth mentor". Because of his rich and colorful life experience, he has worked in a lot of different jobs and has several of his own companies. Based on his life experience and practical experience, he embarked on his journey of spreading wisdom. His wisdom has also been loved by millions of readers. This book is one of the "Tepler's Laws of Life" series he wrote. Once it has been spread, it is very popular with readers. Let's take a look at how Taple recommends how retirees can live a good retirement life.
1. Make plans and response plans in advance to adapt to retirement
Maybe you are about to retire, this is also a major change in life: you are about to leave the workplace, there are not so many important things to deal with, there are not so many meetings to hold, life will slow down soon, playing mahjong, and looking at your phone may be the most important thing in your life in the future. In order to better plan your life after retirement, we need to make plans in advance to adapt to the upcoming retirement life.
When the retirement age is, children may have left their homes. From the past to the present, maybe children and work are the biggest constraints in your life, but now all these constraints are gone. If you fall into the sense of mission brought by missing your children and work every day, it will always make people feel depressed. Therefore, making response plans in advance can help people enjoy their retirement life better.
For example, you can make a travel plan, arrange a tourist destination a year, write a tourist destination every year according to the place you want to go the most, and then make a good guide. Whether it is traveling in a group or going alone, it will start a new unknown journey, which is beneficial to the dual health of the body and the psychological health.
Or you can raise flowers and vegetables, raise a puppy as your companion, start a new pastoral lifestyle, or learn some pleasant personal hobbies, such as living in a quiet country house for a week, meeting with friends who have not met for a long time, learning to drink tea and chat, learning to draw, musical instruments, etc., so that you can get busy and enjoy the pleasure of being alone.
2. Clearly formulate family boundaries and express them
Of course, maybe your child is married after retirement and needs help to take care of his grandchildren, and his partner is still working. You also need to take good care of his life. Perhaps there are old parents who need to take good care of him. At this time, you feel that retirement is more tiring than working, and your life is simply messy, so we need to develop clear family boundaries to manage the family well.
I have a friend who has been looking forward to retirement before because there are too many things at home. Her mother is paralyzed in bed and no one is taking care of her. She also needs someone to take care of her grandson. Her husband has not retired yet, so she is waiting for her to retire and go home to handle the housework at home. After retirement, my friend ran away several times, taking care of her mother who was sick in bed, and she had to go to her son's house to take care of her grandson. Her husband at home was also waiting for her to go home to cook... She told me that retirement brought her not all the relief but much more tired than when she was working, and she couldn't feel the happiness after retirement.
Seeing her so unhappy, I suggested that she needs to set a family boundary according to the rules in the book, that is, to tell her family what I can help with and what are my boundaries, which I don’t need to bear. So how do you formulate this boundary? It depends entirely on myself. For example, how much time I am willing to spend every day taking care of my mother, grandson, and cooking time, assigning housework, and choosing to allocate the time to others. If the time exceeds the time, you don’t need to feel guilty.
After setting the boundaries, you must express them boldly and ask your family to cooperate with them, because if you do not have clear boundaries, you will bear the risk of being "exploited" and exploitation.
3. Keep a young mind and grow old gracefully
Modern people are well maintained. Even when they retire, no one thinks you are an elderly person, and no one thinks you are wise or respect you more because you retire. Moreover, the times are developing too fast. If we still stay in the old thinking concepts in the past, it is really a frustrating thing.
How can you keep pace with the times and not be abandoned by the younger generation or the times? The key is to stay young by yourself. Staying young does not depend on how many skills you have learned, but on having a young mindset.
You can date people who are 20 years old, 30 years old, or even 40 years younger than you, or you can hang out and chat with the younger generations at home, maintain a learning attitude and absorb all new things in the world. You can not master any new skills. You just need to chat with young people, don’t always talk about "our time, our era" or judge them, but just find out the reasons for the changes and understand the logic. Listening to the voices of young people appropriately is the best way to maintain a young mind.
After retirement, you may have enough time to arrange your life, but you don’t know where to start; maybe you are busy in a mess and feel that it’s better not to retire. All kinds of dissatisfaction surround you, it doesn’t matter, go and read this book "From Living to Live: 100 Rules of a Better Life". There are more other rules about how to balance life and how to live better. After reading it, you will control your life and enjoy every day happily.
