Ms. Wu and her husband are both in their 60s this year. They were both teachers before retirement. After retirement, they received a high pension and their children have already started working. Logically speaking, two people should enjoy their old age.

　　Ms. Wu and her husband are both in their 60s this year. They were both teachers before retirement. After retirement, they received a high pension and their children have already started working. Logically speaking, two people should enjoy their old age. However, they were very unsatisfactory.

　　Ms. Wu gave birth to two sons, and the couple has been teaching the child carefully. Both children are also quite successful, their academic performance has always been excellent, and they have successfully been admitted to university.

　After graduating from undergraduate, my eldest son went to Canada to study, successfully obtained a master's degree, and found a high-paying job locally. Because I really like the environment and the pace of life there, my eldest son decided to settle in Canada, then get married and have children, and live his own little life safely.

　　Although the youngest son was admitted to university, he did not pursue progress like his elder brother. He barely managed to graduate and found an ordinary job. The salary for this job is average, but the younger son is a very particular person. He is full of famous brands and likes to have dinner with friends. He always lives inadequately and often needs help from his parents.

　　Ms. Wu and her husband couldn't bear to have their children suffer, so they had no regrets when they helped them. The younger son knew that his elder brother was doing well in Canada, so in order to seek better development, he also applied for a visa and went there. With the help of his elder brother, the younger son quickly found a pretty good job, but he was still generous in spending money and could barely support his own life.

After the two sons went abroad, Ms. Wu and her husband lived in China. Although they had no worries about food and clothing, their days seemed deserted every day. Once, Ms. Wu's husband suddenly became ill and his two sons were not around. Thanks to his kind neighbor who sent them to the hospital in time, nothing major happened.

　　When my husband was hospitalized, Ms. Wu was busy all the time, working day and night, and was exhausted. It was my nephew who got the news and went to the hospital to take over Ms. Wu for a few days, otherwise Ms. Wu might not have been able to persevere. Fortunately, Ms. Wu’s husband recovered well due to timely assistance.

Since then, Ms. Wu has the idea of ​​living with her son. Since both sons wanted to stay in Canada to work and were unwilling to return to China, Ms. Wu chose to go to Canada, which just happened to be able to help her eldest son take care of the child. After a lot of trouble, Ms. Wu and her husband finally came to a foreign land.

　　 However, Ms. Wu and her eldest daughter-in-law often have unhappiness due to their big differences in parenting concepts. At first, his eldest son would help with adjustments, but later he became impatient and tactfully advised his parents not to live with him.

So Ms. Wu and her husband moved to their youngest son's residence. My youngest son's life is still lazy, and he always thinks about eating, drinking and having fun after get off work. Ms. Wu couldn't stand her younger son's appearance of not seeking progress, and she couldn't help but scold him. After a long time, the youngest son is unwilling to live with his parents and directly expresses his thoughts.

　　Ms. Wu and her husband returned to China in anger and lived a deserted life again. Seeing that the two children she had worked hard to raise were thousands of miles apart from her and could not count on either, she felt very sad and didn't know what it was for raising children.

　　Ms. Wu’s experience is not an isolated case. In today’s society, there are many families who have worked hard to raise their children. I hope they can rely on them when they are old. However, when children grow up, they cannot stay by their parents for various reasons.

　　So, many people now say that the concept of "raising children to prevent old age" is outdated. If parents choose to have children in order to make their own old age, they may be disappointed in the future.

　　 Perhaps, we should change our mindset. Have a child because he likes the child, because he likes the process of raising children, not wanting to be rewarded. If we can hold this mentality, we can be less anxious in raising children and less disappointed in the future.

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