Behind that square meter podium, the energetic and energetic diplomats were talking endlessly. But in real life, three two people talk freely and laugh freely;

In recent years, the word " Chinese diplomat " has become a symbol.

Behind that square meter podium, the energetic and energetic diplomat was talking endlessly.

Have you ever imagined in your heart that you would express your opinions in front of everyone like flowing water?

But in real life, three people talk freely when talking; they are very uneasy when they are in a job interview.

This is a public speaking anxiety.

Anxiety can bring benefits to us: moderate anxiety can activate our energy and make our work harder and more motivated.

If you are too anxious and cannot act effectively in important public places, you will avoid various communications as much as possible, and this anxiety needs to be improved.

The essence of anxiety

If you want to improve, you must first understand what anxiety is.

public speech anxiety, which can be very mild or very serious, exists as a continuum.

It can exist as a feature or as a state.

from mild to severe.

Some people are so anxious that they cannot act effectively in any communication occasion, so they will avoid various communications as much as possible.

Some people also have mild anxiety and are not nervous to outsiders. They will actively seek opportunities for communication.

Most people are in the middle of these two extremes.

causes factors

If those factors that cause anxiety can be reduced, will it greatly alleviate the anxiety feeling?

After research on "Self-Confidence Expression", the following aspects can alleviate anxiety in communication:

reduces strangeness. That is to communicate more with people, communicate when there are many people, and reduce the sense of strangeness of "communication".

reduces self-attention. Focus on "communication". No matter how many people there are, they should chat as a friend.

reduces the sense of difference. Pay more attention to everyone’s similarities and don’t position yourself as “outlier”.

reduces fear of failure. Don’t force every communication to be appropriate in all aspects. You should know that it is difficult to adjust everyone and it cannot be as everyone wishes. There is no need to force everyone to agree.

reduces negative thoughts. Put your worries about failure aside and focus on the positives—you are training a lifelong skill, and practice makes perfect.

reduces perception of importance. Ask yourself: What does it mean after 10 minutes, what does it mean after 10 months, and what does it mean after 10 years?

reduces the tendency of perfectionism.

reduces the excess energy to create anxiety. For example, appropriate physical movements.

Reconstructed Cognitive

This is a proven way to effectively reduce various fears and stress. The idea behind the

method is that your idea of ​​a certain occasion will determine your performance in this occasion.

If you can change your way of thinking about an occasion, you can also change your reaction to this occasion.