Psychological status is what a person thinks of himself. There are usually four types.
The first type: I'm good, you are not good. When a person is not treated well since childhood, such as being ignored, neglected, or abandoned, this person will be traumatized, have a very low sense of security, and easily form a bad psychological status. When he grows up, he will easily be strong and control others. He is usually an overly narcissistic person. Strong outside and hard on the inside. Usually, I think you must listen to me, and you are not allowed to refute it, and you are the only one who says it.
The second type: I'm not good, you're good-looking. This kind of person has an emotionally unstable environment in his childhood, and he must live according to the expressions of adults, otherwise it will be difficult to sustain and will easily form a pleasing personality. If you think you are not good, you can be good if others are good, and you can feel safe if you please others.
The third type: I'm not good, you are not good at model. This kind of person has been denied, abused, bullied, and even bullied since childhood. When I grow up, I think I am not good, dissatisfied with myself, and feel inferior, so I like to blame others and find out the shortcomings of others, so I am a little happy and produce dopamine . Driven by such creatures, I become a picky person and a irritable person. Because he thinks he is not good and projecting on the other person, you are also a bad person, so I want to blame you and pull the other person down so that I can feel more comfortable.
The fourth type: I am good and you are good-looking. This kind of person has lived in a harmonious family since childhood. His parents have studied psychology and know how to love. Unconditional love. Children grow up in love. Therefore, knowing how to love others, first of all, love yourself. I feel that I am good and worthy of being loved, and I am willing to love others from this to that. Others in turn give themselves more love. Love is mutual. A person who has been loved since childhood will never lack love when he grows up. He will naturally fall in love, get married and have children. Because in his world there are more good people than bad people, and life is full of hope. I'm fine, you're fine. Everyone is well. He will praise others. Attract others to help yourself and fulfill yourself. Such people are also the healthiest and happiest people.
The above four types of psychological status will appear in everyone. Different psychological status may be different at different times, but it is usually dominated by one psychological status. Due to the different living environments since childhood, and some congenital factors, such as some people with allergic constitutions, are more sensitive to trauma and are prone to trauma. Some people are born with optimism and quickly repair trauma to combat trauma, so they will form different psychological status. Everyone has trauma, no people without trauma. Learning to repair trauma and learning to interact with people can all be learned. At the same time, if we can recognize ourselves and others, we can deal with different people well. In interpersonal relationships, we can not only avoid being hurt, but also repair others. Therefore, if a person has a child, it is also a process of reshaping his own personality while accompanying his child's growth, which can heal his own trauma. The premise is that we must be aware.
A good psychological counselor can help a person improve his or her psychological status from a professional perspective. This is also the value of a psychological counselor.
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