Have you ever had such an experience: When a child sees a little bug crawling over the ground, the child immediately says, "Dad, mom, I'm afraid." As parents, we often answer the child like this: "You are already a little warrior standing tall, why are you still afraid of little

Have you ever had such an experience: when a child sees a little bug crawling over the ground, the child immediately says, "Dad, mom, I'm afraid", and as parents, we often answer the child like this: "You are already a little warrior standing tall, why are you still afraid of little bugs? Are you not afraid of embarrassing?"

In fact, every child will experience some fear at every stage. As long as they are allowed to show it boldly, as time goes by, the child's fear will be gradually overcome. Otherwise, it will increase the fear and cause psychological illness.

So how should we understand children's fears?

Authors Evi Crotty and Alberto Magni tell us in the book "Children's Fear Psychology" that we should pay attention to observations on children's paintings and graffiti, so as to understand the fears expressed by children and provide practical advice to parents and educators.

This book has fear and emotions, 9 types of psychology and fear emotions, the development of fear emotions in children from 0 to 12 years old and the 34 common manifestations of children's fear emotions in graffiti and painting, etc.

Let’s take a look at the manifestation of graffiti and painting in children’s fear.

1. Language without speech - non-verbal information

What is non-verbal information? In other words, when children are painting and graffiti, we need to observe children from the perspective of the child’s pen posture, where to start drawing, what lines and strength are left on the paper, how much space is drawn on the paper, and the shape of the graffiti and painting, so as to understand the fear expressed by children.

Like grip position: From the child’s pen holding posture, you can see whether it is nervous or relaxed. The relaxed pen holding posture is a free and relaxed movement. The tense pen holding posture is a muscle stiffness.

Line: Can the line show whether the painter is full of self-confidence or hesitation? If it is full of self-confidence, it means that they have strong self-discipline. If they are hesitant and cannot make up their minds about anything, then parents need to give their children more comfort and encouragement.

Strength: The strength of painting can show the child's temperament and psychological structure. Very powerful graffiti and painting indicate that the child is energetic and enthusiastic. As parents, it is best not to restrain this type of children, because it will encourage their strong personality. If you just press the pen tip gently on the paper, it means that this type of child has a very sensitive personality and is easily injured when encountering setbacks.

Painting and graffiti are not simply passing the time and smearing, but opening the door to the inner world of children and paying attention to children's graffiti and painting. From it, we will find a lot of useful information to interpret children's fears.

2. Understand children's fears from graffiti and painting

Before we understand the non-verbal information of children's paintings and graffiti. Let's understand the fears in children's fears in paintings: that is, irritable, sentimental, timid, dramatic, irritable, suppressed anxiety, messy anxiety, impulsive anxiety, no interest, etc.

For example, in life, we always meet such children, who are very unstable, like to lose their temper, and cannot concentrate on doing something, and are always tiger-headed and tiger-headed. We classify this type of children as irritable.

. Children like to use the brightest and most colorful colors, such as red and green, and prefer to draw characters in comics, giving people a feeling of being wild and imaginative, mainly funny. The characters drawn are generally larger, but they will be very thin, their facial features are vivid, they have a lot of hair, but they don’t have a neck. Simply draw the limbs without any special details. If you are drawing trees and like to hang fruits on long branches, there will be many small branches on the trunk of the tree.

The most common emotion for children is to be afraid of witch and monsters, fear of growing too fast or too slow, and fear of seeing all kinds of blood.

The author’s advice for this type of children: It cannot be too simple and crude, but it cannot be too gentle and obedient. It must be generous and give them a sense of security enough to let the children understand that the love passed on by parents to them can eliminate all fears.

Because children's fear is more interpreted rather than solved, we as parents must first learn to express and manage our emotions, and then teach them to our children. Many times, children are forced to coexist with the emotions that parents unintentionally exud.

"Children's Fear Psychology" author believes that children can grow up healthily and happily, and parents and educators should understand the normal fears related to children's growth. They should neither let children's fears nor pay too much attention. They should use love to eliminate their fears.