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Self-care has become a hot topic at present, especially in the fields of health care and humanities services. However, despite the long discussion of this topic, many people still struggle to understand what it means and how to get enough self-care.
In this article, we will discuss how to care for ourselves.
# 01
Self-dialogue is an important part of self-care
Many people think they don’t have time to go to yoga, have no money to massage, and have no energy to exercise, so when they hear self-care, they are full of resistance. Although it is a fact that "996" and "007" office workers and students who are busy with their studies cannot be ignored, people often ignore one key point, that is, self-care is ultimately not about what you may do for one or two hours a week. Self-care is a way of life, which involves our relationship with ourselves every day and every moment.
Self-dialogue plays a great role in shaping emotions, stress levels and sense of control. A busy day can cause anxiety and exhaustion, but it can also be seen as a challenge to help us improve and capitalize on many of our own strengths.
We ignore this key component of self-care to such a great impact on ourselves. If we repeatedly put pressure on ourselves in our minds over and over again, any self-care we do is of no benefit. When you are massaged by , you will always think about work. During yoga class, you compare yourself to your classmates in the room.
So be careful that starting to change those useless thinking habits is the most important way of self-care.
# 02
Distraction may be helpful, but it is only temporary
When discussing self-care, people often find ways to get rid of their own stressors. Some common examples might be watching TV, reading novels, or playing games all the time. When emotions are high or exhausted, it can take too much effort to pursue more positively or try to deal with what you are experiencing emotionally. In this case, distracting yourself to care may help.
If you care for yourself for a long time through numbness, escape, distraction, or neglect of stressors, then the problem will arise. If this lasts too long, you may find that you have a bunch of untreated thoughts and feelings that may cause your stress or fatigue to worsen rather than improve.
# 03
Find a way to deal with negative events and emotions
We can change the way of dealing with stress by finding activities that help deal with life experiences. Self-care requires taking time to think about stressors and feel the emotions that come with them.
For example, if you are present at several ddls at the same time, no amount of distraction will help you in the long run. Instead, it is best to participate in an activity that directly solves high stress, such as guiding relaxation exercises or communicating with colleagues/friends.
Self-care means paying attention to emotions and giving yourself care and attention. Everyone regulates their emotions differently, including but not limited to writing a diary, painting, talking to a friend or counselor about stress, meditation, dancing, exercising, listening to music or crying.
We may escape stressors by reading or even watching TV, but we can also find ways to solve the current challenges rather than distracting them. For example, you can read an article that may involve making us feel empathetic to , or watch some up-hosts and speakers' solutions instead of distracting TV series or games.
The most important question to ask yourself when considering self-care activities that are suitable for this category is: “After doing this activity, do I gain my thoughts and feelings, and do I have a better perspective to get relief or emotional release? ” If the answer is yes, then we have found some great ways to care for ourselves.
# 04
Focus on physical health
In the pursuit of self-care, people often think that they need to add something new and dramatic in their lives. We can easily waste time and money on massages, sign up for meditation classes, try new hobbies, and hope to find something that excites us. While all of these things can be part of self-care, don’t ignore the simple daily life that helps maintain good health.
Eat on time, have enough sleep, take a bath, organize your home, etc. These are all important components of self-care. What if it is paired with a reasonable and balanced diet? What if we stabilize our sleep and wake up time, or finally buy a new sleep-enhancing pillow to help us sleep better? All these little things can be used as an opportunity to care for yourself in your daily life.
The author has something to say
Entertainment of self-care is a way to signal ourselves, indicating that we are very important in our lives. It does not take a lot of time and money to make big changes, but starts with self-talk, take good care of your physical health, and achieve a better balance between distraction and emotional processing. Perhaps some small changes can help us pay better attention to ourselves.
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Source: The First Teacher Xinyu
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