investment group responded to the topic of anxiety, "Anxiety is too obsessed with certainty." Psychology explains that anxiety is the fear of the future that is inconsistent with reality, which is similar in approach but in effect.
Why are you afraid? Why anxious? Why is it out of control? Pointing to the perfectionism deep inside, pointing to the stubborn deterministic thinking deep inside.
is neither broken nor established, big break is big, is opposite to unify , and reduces the demand for perfection and certainty. This is a way to relieve anxiety.
Give a life example.
My children graduate this year and are looking for jobs. As we all know, college entrance examination, employment, and marriage are the three major events in life, which even determine the quality of life throughout a lifetime.
Looking back on this incident, I once again experienced what it is to worry about things in vain, and how to worry about nothing in the world. Of course, I also experienced ways to relieve anxiety.
The experience of anxiety is like the sword of Damocles, which is hanging in the balance and might as well fall. But the result will not be achieved overnight, and the process will always exist. This is the reality of anxiety.
The advantage of market economy is fair competition. People with different levels will get their positions without complaining. This is the natural structure and stable root of the social pyramid. Of course, those with special backgrounds and abnormal situations are not included in this.
Undergraduate schools are generally, graduate school is a stepping stone to obtain employment competitiveness. It is very important to understand this. Don't deceive yourself and others, and don't care about "one-year master's degree". There is no contradiction between how much knowledge you learn and getting a stepping stone. Ultimately, the key to employment competitiveness depends on the individual.
saw that the young man was not in a hurry to find a job, while the parents were anxious and were busy checking some recruitment information, but that was all.
Later, I was informed in detail about the final interview of an accountant in Imperial Capital. The online interview took half a day. The process was smooth and calm. In the end, I said, "I will either pass it very easily, or I will have no chance at all, but I tend to have a higher chance of passing." I was very confident after hearing about the interview process, but when I finally heard this uncertain conclusion, I started to feel anxious considering the fierce competition. After
, I was constantly reminded, "We must consider more difficulties." In other words, hurry up and fill in those recruitment units with minimum guarantees, and don't delay the written test and interview.
After that, I was waiting for the process. Seeing that I was anxious, I made a bet on how much I would be rewarded if I passed. If I failed, it would be entirely up to my parents.
One night after the National Day holiday, I happened to be home late from a social event. I kept getting phone calls to remind me to come back early. I didn't realize it. I was "teased" when I got home and told them to discuss what to do if I failed the interview. Finally, I saw the admission notice and was very surprised.
Later, I learned that I had been offered the management training program by a foreign company in Shanghai. I went to the interview all day long and got the acceptance call the next day. It seemed that I didn’t have any special preparations. Of course, only I know how to prepare fully.
In order to weigh which one is better between the four major foreign companies in the imperial capital and the foreign companies in the magical capital, I also asked others to obtain information. After a lot of research, I found out that people already had their own opinions on how to choose.
is like a mountain, and everyone knows their own level, and the same is true for parents and children. Don't think that as a parent, you should have a high level of vision. Perhaps the most ignorant, anxious and stubborn ones are parents, because everyone is best suited to his or her own era.
Conclusion: Everyone can clean up the dust, rain and snow in front of their own door. When they are mentally calm, first of all, they should not add chaos, and then they may be able to give some pertinent suggestions. Otherwise, they will just be looking for things to do. Anxiety comes from uncertainty, uncertainty comes from perfectionism, and more often than not, there is a lack of patience, self-confidence and trust.
