Some parents asked us, what should we do if our daughter in the third grade of junior high school reaches the rebellious stage? When children enter the third grade of junior high school, the pressure to take exams suddenly increases, and all kinds of bad emotions accumulate in their hearts. If the emotions are not properly released, it is likely to affect physical and mental health, and then lead to mental or physical diseases. Therefore, when a child enters the rebellious period, parents should make adequate preparations and help the child successfully pass the rebellious period through reasonable guidance.
1. Be a qualified listener
When children enter the rebellious period, their psychology and physiology undergo significant changes, and their self-awareness gradually increases. They neither listen to their parents’ preaching nor are willing to communicate with their parents, and will subconsciously form a confrontational camp with their parents. At this time, parents should change direction and transform from a "verbose" output party to a "patient" listener.
listen to the child's inner voice, sense the child's emotional changes, and provide timely verbal and physical feedback to let the child know: you value every conversation, you are always interested in what the child says, and you are curious about why she always has so many wonderful ideas.
When you take the initiative to give your child emotional support, she will take the initiative to approach you and tell you more.
2. Be a sincere praiser
Parents should not be stingy with their praises. When they discover the shining points of their children, they must praise and encourage them promptly. Appropriate praise and encouragement will make children more confident and mentally stronger. When children are confident and mentally strong, they will be able to withstand greater pressure and risks.
The underlying logic of praising children comes from parents' trust and recognition of their children. However, we cannot encourage children without thinking, "too much is not enough". Excessive praise is like boiling a frog in warm water, which will gradually make children dependent. Once parents criticize, children will become confused and even deny themselves. At the same time, if you receive compliments that are inconsistent with your behavior, you will fall into deep thought and cause psychological pressure.
3. Be a trustworthy guardian
Girls in the rebellious stage are particularly sensitive and can easily suppress their emotions and are unwilling to communicate with their parents. In the final analysis, this is because of the children's resistance to their parents. These emotions come from repeated blaming and beatings. For children in the rebellious period, you need to establish a belief in the child that parents are her trustworthy guardians, a comfort zone for the child, a safe haven where you can relieve stress and don't have to be nervous because you have done something wrong.
