"Nine times out of ten, life will be unsatisfactory, with only a little joy."
Not long ago, another popular actress Reyza revealed herself to be severely depressed:
Many people were shocked. Comments on Weibo : How could an angel with such a lively smile in his impression be depressed?
" Depression is no longer something that happens outside our circle."
I think of the Qiao Yingzi in "Little Joy" who was once positive and sunny, but was tortured into depression; they are all good children and good girls, but no one knows how miserable they are...
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Why can't they be happy?
Yingzi chose her dream Nanjing University despite her parents' objections.
Temporarily out of her mother's control, Yingzi saw the stars and the sea, but found that she was not happy at all, and there was no more sparkling light in her eyes.
This is the thirty-fourth day of insomnia for Yingzi, the thirty-fourth day of being emotionless.
Yingzi in the drama was originally the most sensible and cheerful child . Although she was born in a single-parent family with a controlling mother, she was still positive and sunny. Whenever
has a conflict with his mother, he always lowers his head first and turns to give her a big smile. In the small group, he is also a lively and interesting soul, and he is simply an angel.
But as the plot develops day by day, this lovable child has become the biggest problem among several families.
She went from being first in grade to a plummeting grade;
From wanting to relax, lying and skipping classes, to not loving studying;
From being obedient to her mother and mediating her parents' relationship, to being rebellious and noisy;
In fact, her real bigger problem was the pain in her heart; she had continuous insomnia, and could only record and chat with her mobile phone every day, and later even had hallucinations.
When her mother refused to let her go to the Nanda Winter Camp, she finally collapsed, ran to the bridge, climbed the railing and tried to commit suicide by jumping into the sea.
When Song Qian saw her daughter about to jump into the sea, she was still stubborn: "Mom just can't understand, why do you have to go to Nanda?"
Yingzi shouted, "I don't have to go to Nanda, I just want to escape from you."
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Good child, why should you die?
Why are good children easily driven into depression? Driven to collapse? Song Qian's catchphrase in the
drama is "I'm all for your own good", but she never considers whether Yingzi needs this kind of kindness.
In life, she gave her children the best life, cooking three meals a day by herself, and serving various tonic soups in turn; while Yingzi enjoyed the delicious hot pot and skewers;
Yingzi liked astronomy and aspired to go to the best Nanjing University in astronomy ; while Song Qian objected because she felt that the child could not take care of herself after leaving her;
Yingzi was more like an accessory, following her mother's instructions step by step.
Many Chinese parents are like this. They decide their children's life based on their own ideas, but if they take away their children's thoughts, they can only get a depressed soul.
Psychologist Li Xue once said: A body can only bear one soul. If the parents' control is airtight, the child will actually be mentally dead.
In many clips, we can feel Yingzi's depression and unhappiness. She also tried to communicate with her mother, hoping that the relationship between mother and daughter could be improved. Unfortunately, Song Qian only saw her own hard work, grievances and needs, and did not see the real Yingzi who was already suffering.
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Only when you stop pretending to be "well" can you truly get better.
After Ding Yi jumped from the building and Liu Jing fell ill, Yingzi began to have hallucinations and suffered from insomnia every night.
Even the wish he made was no longer related to his own dreams, but "I don't need to lose sleep tonight."
She cried and asked: "Dad, am I sick?"
Later, Qiao Weidong took Song Qian and Yingzi to see a psychiatrist. After questioning by the psychiatrist, Yingzi was finally diagnosed with moderate depression and moderate anxiety.Doctor
also admitted that the cause of Yingzi's illness was not the pressure brought by the college entrance examination, but the family of origin.
After receiving the diagnosis, Song Qian began to reflect on her own education methods. She no longer controlled Yingzi according to her own ideas, but began to understand Yingzi's true thoughts and respect her choices.
Yingzi no longer has to be that obedient "good boy" and can do what she really wants to do. In addition, the relationship between Qiao Weidong and Song Qian has also become closer and closer, and her depression is slowly being cured.
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Depression is actually not far away from us
Data in 2018 shows that there are about 350 million patients with depression in the world , and about 54 million people in China have been diagnosed with depression.
From the World Health Organization published in the highest diagnostic medical journal, the incidence rate of depression in our country has reached 13%, which means at least out of every 100 Chinese people, 13 people are depressed.
However, the actual probability of seeing a doctor for patients with depression does not exceed 1/3.
Until today, there are still many people who do not understand their own emotions. You may think it is just a short-term depression, but you don't know that anxiety is turning into depression little by little.
The influence of the original family, the pressure of life and study, and the invisible loneliness are all objective reasons that easily lead to depression; The lack of awareness of mental health and inner closedness are the subjective reasons for the worsening of depression.
Hemingway said: "Life always leaves us bruised and bruised, but in the end those injured places will definitely become our strongest places."
Whether it is family, study, or various difficulties in life, they will bring us invisible harm and torture; if you feel sad, if you find it difficult to feel happy for a long time, be careful that depression is invading...
