What is mental internal consumption
I wonder if you have had a similar experience:
At a certain stage of time you will feel particularly tired. This kind of fatigue is whether you reduce your workload, increase your rest time, or even do nothing, and you still cannot release the fatigue on your body.
There is no doubt that you are trapped in mental internal friction in this situation.
Mental internal consumption, also known as psychological internal consumption, refers to the need for people to consume psychological resources in self-control. When resources are insufficient, people are in a so-called internal consumption state. The long-term existence of internal friction in
will make people feel tired. This fatigue is not caused by physical fatigue, but a psychological subjective feeling, and a state caused by the individual's psychological loss. [1]
Mental internal friction is like there are two villains in your spiritual world. These two villains have different opinions and different ideas, so they are quarreling and constantly tugging each other. In this process, people's psychological resources will be consumed.
As a very common example, some students will experience a huge pull in their hearts when they face a teacher’s question in class: one villain needs to raise his hand to answer the question; the other villain refuses to answer the question because he is afraid of answering the wrong answer.
Or, even though you have prepared well before you are ready to do something, you will still feel pain, anxiety, fear, irritability and pressure due to the unknown difficulties of this matter. Under these emotional pressures, you are worried about whether you really want to do this, and therefore hesitate and keep hesitating.
What is the manifestation of mental internal consumption
The most easy-to-understand explanation about mental internal consumption is: there is no outward output, subjective psychological consumption leads to physical and mental exhaustion. If we disassemble our behavioral process, we can divide the generation of behavior into several stages: accepting brain information, understanding information, processing information, taking actions and accepting behavioral feedback. From a person's behavioral process, mental internal friction is stuck in the information understanding and processing links - random thoughts .
People who are trapped in mental internal friction usually lose interest in many things and do not have strong secular desires. Because it takes a lot of energy to "fight" with yourself alone, you can't be interested in many things. There are a lot of messy ideas, but it is hard to put into practice.
If a person's behavior process is compared to cooking a dish in the kitchen, will be like this for ordinary people:
① I want to cook myself —— Receive information
② Well, Braised fish is not bad —— Understand information
③Compare the recipe and buy all the ingredients —— Processing information
④Fry in the pot —— Make action
⑤ Completed, it’s delicious! —— Get feedback
, and those who are mentally consuming will be like this: :
① First, come up with an idea of cooking and eating by yourself.
② Then start to think about:
What dish should I make? , braised fish? White cut chicken? Scrambled eggs? ...No, no, let's do this... Where to buy groceries? , the supermarket downstairs? market? Alas, it’s not new to buy here, hey, isn’t it too expensive? What vegetables to buy? Eggs? Which one? What vegetables should I eat? No, I must choose the best one... How to make it? It's so troublesome, I don't know how to do if it doesn't taste delicious? ...
③My God, I'm so tired, I can't do it, so I'd better give up and take a break first.
game over...
People who are mentally traumatized have the following manifestations:
01 I feel tired for no reason
I did nothing, and I still feel very tired.The more you are idle, the more you are, the more you are, the more you are anxious. People who are mentally consuming internal energy play movies in their minds every day, constantly thinking meaninglessly; many times, it is uncontrollable.
02 The result is greater than the process, and anxiety is ahead of action
Mental internal consumption people often consider the results first when making decisions and setting goals for themselves. For example:
leader assigned him a task. Before he could do it, he thought to himself: "If I can't do it well, will I be criticized?" "If I do it well, will I raise my salary?"
But in fact, he has not taken action yet and the task has not started, so he scared himself. Anxiety often occurs before action.
, indecisive and hesitant, this is the most direct manifestation of the spiritual internal consumption.
The harm caused by mental internal friction is basically the same as the recent new psychology word "languishing" - the symptoms of sluggishness or listlessness.
What is "sluggish/listenous"?
- There is a feeling of being stuck, or life has become stagnant
- 4 The feeling of emptiness
- lack of motivation
- 4 feeling of being depressed (general lack of happiness).
usually has the following characteristics:
- "Listless" describes a low mental health condition in the absence of a diagnosable mental health condition.
- It may be difficult to recognize. But experts say listlessness may be a risk factor for psychological health conditions such as severe depression in the future.
- is a dominant emotion that spreads among people in 2021
Medical psychology research shows that if mental internal friction exists for a long time, it will cause a variety of common physical and mental diseases. Some insomnia, headaches, appetitelessness, and frequent nightmares are also closely related to internal mental distractions.
who is prone to falling into the vicious circle of mental internal friction
Maybe everyone is going to ask, what are the characteristics or symptoms of people who have mental friction? You can compare the following items to see how many items you have won.
- No decision-making ability, hesitation in doing things
- weak self-subjective consciousness
- not confident
- people who are randomly thinking
- easily affected by other people's words
- High standards require oneself
- procrastination
- perfectionist
Although people with the above qualities are more likely to fall into mental internal friction, in fact, mental internal friction is essentially the result of their own expectations not receiving positive feedback from the outside world for a long time, which has little to do with their personality and has a certain connection with their own expectations.
The mentally internal consumption usually has high expectations for themselves and the outside world, hoping to be strict with themselves, be a perfect person, and hope that the outside world will also give their ideal feedback. Treating ideals is a perfectionist, but acting is full of flaws. While blaming himself, he said, "No small matter has been done well, and no small goal has been accomplished." On the other hand, we keep setting new and high goals for ourselves.
Wang Xiaobo said: The reason why a person suffers is essentially anger at his own incompetence.
When setting goals and unfinished states, people will only become more and more anxious. Changing yourself is a gradual process, you cannot deviate from your actual situation, nor should you take it for granted.
How to solve mental internal consumption
Some bystanders will say, you just think too much, and don’t think so much, isn’t it over?
Although that is the case, "think" cannot stop just by wanting it. The real problem of many mentally internally consumed people is that they cannot control themselves to think too much. The more they don't think about it, the more they keep thinking, and it's still messy.
Then how should we stop mental internal friction?
The main problem of mental internal consumption is to consume our motivation and hinder our actions. Then we turn this sentence in reverse. The most effective way to overcome mental internal friction is to cultivate the habit of "action".
When we have an idea in our mind, as long as there is no particularly strong reason to convince you why not do it, then do it. Only through action can you turn the unknown into known, turn the uncertainty into certainty, and let the problem be processed, and it will no longer interfere with your thinking. After taking action, you will know how redundant your initial guesses, worries and anxiety were. [2]
So how should we do it?
01 Improve the sense of gain
People who are trapped in internal friction are often prone to the illusion that "this day was wasted" .
In fact, today's self is not the self who was yesterday, nor the self in the future. When you realize that every day is different, you will gain a unique joy. It has nothing to do with any substantial forced joy, it is to feel that there is another day, and it is the joy of a different day.
Really experience this joy of "get a day" will make you unconsciously desire to establish a positive connection and be willing to take the initiative to contribute in interpersonal relationships. This will form a virtuous cycle and produce more sources of action.
02 Active actions
Thinking too much and doing too little means you are trapped in mental internal friction.
Most of the time, many difficulties are paper tigers, which look scary and think about scary, but as long as you do it seriously, everything will be solved. Try to constantly externalize your inner thoughts and act as long as it is correct when you think of something.
Don't hint yourself "Think of a perfect solution and act again" , otherwise you may fall into a vicious circle of delay and continue to consume internally.
Active action is the most effective way to reduce losses. The more we face our own conflicts and seek solutions, the more we can gain more inner freedom.
When you encounter something, face it bravely. When you really do it, there may be many challenges and confusions. These challenges and confusions may consume a lot of energy and make you feel tired. But when you look back suddenly, you will find that the ship has sailed so far...[3]
Reference
[1] "Mental inversion" is no wonder that you live so tiring. The Perspective of the Rule of Law
[2] Link: https://www.zhihu.com/question/515910388/answer/2368888643
[3] Link: https://www.zhihu.com/question/515910388/answer/2350689304
Written by | Nothing is
Editing by | Chloe
