The so-called inferiority complex is derived from a strong sense of inferiority complex, because I am unwilling to suffer failure or injury to find reasons to avoid the three major life issues that I should have faced
The cognition of inferiority complex leads to behavioral results: because of a, I cannot put the superficial causal theory of B.
Because my parents are not good at socializing, I cannot handle interpersonal relationships; because I am mentally ill, I cannot work normally; because I have failed, I will definitely fail this time, etc. These are all typical symptoms of inferiority complex and also superficial causal theory.
How to detect the precursors of inferiority complex?
When accepting a new thing and task, it will say, "Yes...but...". First, I agreed to do another one, but it was a turning point. People with inferiority complex will use this to avoid the subject of life. For example, "Okay, I will try it, but I may not be able to do it because I have no experience"; "Then I know, but because I am short of time, I may not be able to do it well"; "I will challenge it, but because I lack perseverance, I may not be able to persist", etc., to avoid the challenges of life issues. In fact, the truth is that I don’t want to suffer setbacks in my career, marriage, or independence, so I’m ruling out various reasons such as birth, lack of time, no talent, and lack of experience. It is not because of a, so I cannot b, but I do not want to suffer setbacks when challenging b, so I found a to fabricate the "surface theory of causality".
Adler ’s three major issues of life proposed by love, friendship and work. It is essentially a subject of interpersonal relationships. For example, some men and women will sigh and say, "I want to get married, but I haven't gotten married." It may just want to taste the sweetness of marriage, but are unwilling to assume the obligations that come with it. The reason why some people don’t want to get married seems to be unfavorable, they are unwilling to encounter failure in marriage, they are afraid of misfortune after marriage, they do not want to lose the freedom and ease of life of being single, and they are unwilling to give up the life of being favored by their whole family. These are all reasons to escape marriage. Some people will fall in love with married people, fall in love with people with huge age differences, and have criminals who have respected their brains in society. It is precisely because they don’t want to get married and don’t want to encounter marriage failure that they will choose a partner who cannot get married to fall in love. I created the "surface cause and effect theory" that a cannot b is directed and acted by myself, and I didn't even realize it myself, and eventually I deceived myself. Getting married means two people living together, so you must tolerate each other, sacrifice each other, and make concessions. It is precisely because of this that we avoid getting married or treat it with caution, for fear of failure. "I want to get married but can't find the right person to get married" maybe this is a lie. "There is no way, business," "too busy" and other workaholics are busy all day long, and work is just to avoid troublesome couple relationships, parent-child relationships and friends relationships.
People with inferiority complex are good at creating countless combinations of a and b. For example, people with insomnia will say, "If you can sleep at night, it is no problem to do anything." In most cases, insomnia is psychogenic. Patients suffering from insomnia may have made a judgment unconsciously, believing that instead of suffering from failure, it is better to endure the torture of insomnia. There are also migraines with unknown causes, depression , square phobia, obsessive-compulsive disorder, anxiety disorder and other skins, and no one noticed the mechanism of these symptoms, and continued to suffer.
This kind of psychogenic disease may be caused by inferiority complex, and behind them is the "surface theory of causality".
Of course, if you always talk about it...but... but he is not trying to avoid the challenges of life issues. He is all healthy behavior, and such people will have a happy life. What is more important than knowing yourself is to check yourself and use: Yes...but... to distinguish your inferiority complex.
