German psychotherapist Bert Hellinger said: It is easier to suffer than to solve problems, and it is easier to endure misfortune than to enjoy happiness.
This sentence sounds incredible, but it conforms to the nature of human beings who are unwilling to use their brains. Solving problems requires thinking, and enjoying happiness requires balancing all aspects of wonderful relationships, while enduring pain requires falling in the present.
1, what is your hard work model
Everyone hopes that they can become a top student, or their children can become a top student.
What is the secret of a top student? It's their wrong question book. Speaking of which, this secret is not a secret, it can be said that it is well-known, but most students cannot do it, or it is just a formality.
Are ordinary students not diligent? It must not be said to be not diligent. In fact, ordinary children do not have fewer questions than those of top students. But they work differently.
In dealing with important exams, ordinary children strive to ensure that they do not lose points or make mistakes in general questions, so they usually practice more by repeating the parts they have mastered and almost giving up the difficult questions.
And the top student not only needs to get scores for ordinary questions, but also have to get high scores on difficult questions, so they are more willing to spend time to eliminate difficult questions.
Most people are willing to do anything to escape real thinking. Human nature is to take refuge and seek ease. To overcome difficulties is a high energy consumption and a more painful thing. However, repeated questions to ensure basic scores and not do major and difficult questions is relatively low-cost.
Therefore, it is not easy to build a real wrong question book, and it is much harder than repeating the question.
After all, the real secret of to become a top student is: build your own wrong question book, concentrate on overcoming difficulties, eliminate blur, and create clear
2, top learning method : learn
If we follow our nature, we will spin on the simplest questions and cannot become top students; we will be trapped in the lowest consumption of short videos and other things, and when we come back to our senses, we will regret wasting time and aggravate our anxiety.
So how to fight against nature? There is a top method: based on your feelings!
Use sensory ability to help yourself make choices, and then use rational ability to help yourself think.
In Zhouling 's "Cognitive Awakening", it talks about how to become a master of learning:
For questions that can see the answer at a glance, you don't need to pay attention to them; you can get a headache at a glance, and you don't need to pay attention to questions that you don't know what you are talking about.
The kind of topic that can roughly see some ideas but also have to think about it, you must do more. This is the middle ground, and it is the place where you can make the fastest progress.
The reason why feeling is called the top method is because it can help us perceive what is truly suitable for us and need, and put ourselves in the stretching area of learning.
For ordinary children, they don’t have to follow the top students and don’t have to focus on the most difficult questions. Instead, you need to find out the stretching area where you can learn, the places that can make you progress the fastest, and do more questions. But you cannot obey your nature and just do the simplest questions, which will only prevent you from making progress or even regressing.
Reading also depends on your feelings. A better way to read is to ask yourself after reading the complete book: What is the touching point that impresses you the most. By grasping this touch point to relate and practice, you will gain the greatest gain, and other content can be put aside. This way of reading not only brings more benefits, but also makes you not anxious.
Zhou Ling said that if you always feel pain and boredom about studying or reading, then most of them are not right, either suffering in difficult areas or wandering around in your comfort zone.
Questions in the difficult zone will make you anxious and frustrated, while questions in the comfort zone will make you unable to make progress.
The core of deliberate practice is learning at the edge of the stretching area, that is, the comfort zone. Learning in the stretching area is the least difficult, meets your needs, and the fastest results. It is easy to produce flow .
Learning is just the tip of the iceberg in our lives. The sensual power of "feeling" can be used in every aspect of life.
3, avoiding pain will not make pain disappear
Human beings are born to dislike learning and thinking. In genetic self-design, things that consume energy are regarded as threats to survival. There is no thinking in the subconscious mind, only instinct. The subconscious mind will try to induce the body as entertainment, so instincts usually hinder learning, but if people do not learn, they will be even less able to overcome their instincts.
The pain of avoiding the problem will not make the pain disappear, but will instead turn it into the subconscious mind and become a vague feeling. Once specific things become blurred, the boundaries will be infinitely magnified, and small things that are not difficult will become difficult to solve in the vague subconscious mind.
The real difficulty is actually much smaller than imagined. The fundamental reason why people procrastinate, entangled, feared, and fear is often not how difficult the matter itself is, but that their inner thoughts become blurred.
Eliminate blur and create clarity. This is a very important step in "cognitive awakening".
Learn to find the stretching area "based on your feelings", be brave to think, and overcome difficulties, so that your knowledge can be integrated, your blind spots are smaller, and your cognition will be clearer, and your life will be extremely comfortable.
