9, love - is an advanced psychological function that only life on earth has when it has evolved to an advanced stage.
Therefore, the emergence of love will definitely help life better fulfill its three destiny.
For humans, the psychological function of love is more advanced than that of other animals.
To love or not to love is the psychological instinct of human beings; to love and to be loved are both basic psychological needs of human beings.
Since the function of "love" has evolved, it is necessary.
Since it is necessary, if it is missing or improperly met, it will inevitably have a negative impact on human life.
Children who have problems with "being loved" when they are growing up will often be unable to love or express love because they have not experienced the feeling of being loved when they become adults.
This will undoubtedly prevent them from forming better interpersonal relationships, and thus hinder them from achieving success and happiness in life; this is undoubtedly a very regrettable life situation.
Love is not only indispensable, but also requires correct expression and timely and appropriate satisfaction.
When a child is respected, paid attention to, understood, tolerated and supported, it is the correct expression and reflection of the caregiver's love for him or her.
However, love is not equal to the sum of the above psychological needs being satisfied - "love" will also appear in other ways, such as "sorrowing for one's misfortune, being angry for not fighting" and "hating that iron cannot become steel", as well as unprincipled doting. , pamper, appreciate, tolerate, indulge, etc.
Without love, it would be difficult for humans to survive and reproduce, and it would be even more difficult for humans to evolve.
But wrong love has also ruined many people's lives - many tragedies in life stem from not understanding love, not being able to love, or being unable to express love correctly.
Therefore, love must know its nature, and love must have principles .
Irrational and unprincipled love is low-level love and confused love.
True love is always aimed at ensuring that the child can survive independently and have the ability to live better and better, rather than just caring about whether the child is comfortable and happy in the present, or whether he can find a good life in the future. Profession.
Only focusing on the future and prospects of children, blindly demanding them regardless of their current feelings is of course also stupid love.
Many "good children" are eventually destroyed in the hands of "critical" parents, but these parents are unaware of it.
Some parents, in order to excuse themselves, put the responsibility on their children, saying that the children themselves are not living up to expectations.
Let me ask you, if you haven’t raised him to be a child who strives for success, how can he strive for success?
You have made a child who originally wanted to be successful lose his temper, how can you let him strive for success?
can be seen, loves and is also very necessary.
