My family will soon change jobs and move to another city. Next, they will have to face changes such as buying a house, changing children's schooling, etc. If this happened to wealthy families, this would not be a problem at all; if it happened to ordinary people, simply buying a

My family will soon have to change jobs and move to another city. Next, they will have to face changes in buying a house, having children go to school, etc.

If this happened to wealthy families, this would not be a problem at all; if it were applied to ordinary people, simply buying a house would be difficult for most people. The pressure is generated by constant changes.

It is estimated that everyone faces different pressures in life, including pressure for further education, pressure for employment, pressure for marriage, pressure for buying a house, pressure for children’s education, pressure for retirement and medical care, etc.

When stress continues to increase, we become more anxious, because stress increases the risk of illness and cardiovascular disease, and some people even choose to commit suicide because they cannot bear the pressure.

There are countless examples like this. In the summer, young men and women choose to jump into the river because they can’t get over their feelings; their parents choose to jump off the building because they can’t bear the financial difficulties; and their children choose to commit suicide because they can’t bear their parents’ strict academic requirements. ; And many people died suddenly at work due to high work pressure, staying up late and injuring themselves, etc.

1. Stress = anxiety, stress = enemy. Is stress necessarily bad?

We frown when we talk about stress, linking stress to anxiety, and linking stress to the enemy.

KELLY, a professor of psychology at Stanford University in the United States, mentioned in a speech "What to do if you are too stressed" that an American research institution conducted an 8-year study on 30,000 people and found that is stress really harmful to health?

In this study, unhealthy stress became one of the fifteen leading causes of death.

The bad news is that the risk of death increases by 43% in the current year when there is a lot of stress, and this only applies to people who believe that stress is bad for their health.

The good news is that those who do not take stress seriously have the lowest risk of death.

It can be seen that stress is not necessarily a bad thing, and the results caused by stress can be transformed to a certain extent.

So, stress is not necessarily a bad thing.

2. Changing the way you view stress will change the physiological response to stress

We often say that there is a lot of pressure, which shows how powerful stress is in destroying people.

1. Don’t try to get rid of pressure

Many times, when we face pressure, our first choice is to escape and not face it. And many times, we can escape this pressure.

For example: when faced with pressure at work, some people either give up their job or pass it on to others through connections; those so-called powerful people who are good at evading use various means to transfer all kinds of pressure to others. Others; and many of us have developed the habit of escaping from pressure.

However, some pressures at work are unavoidable, and pressures in life are even more unavoidable. Our blind avoidance will only increase the pressure on those around us and lead to the breakdown of various interpersonal relationships.

When we face stress, stress is no longer evil. We no longer hate stress, but are good at handling stress. The body will trust your judgment, and the stress response will make you healthier.

As the saying goes, the harder you work, the more progress you make, the happier and more confident you are; the lazier, more confused, more anxious, and more inferior. The increase or decrease of stress is closely related to the degree of effort we exert after viewing the pressure.

2. Changing the way we treat stress is crucial to health

When we change the way we treat stress, the physical stress will also change.

Stress can cause physiological changes that can lead to anxiety. Learning to view the stress response as a boost, a faster heartbeat as getting ready, and shortness of breath as getting more oxygen, when we see it When we become more supportive, our anxiety will decrease and our self-confidence will naturally increase.

When we regard stress as harmful to health, our cardiovascular systems will contract, blood vessels will become thicker, and blood vessel pressure will increase, which will lead to an increase in disease;

When we view stress as a boost , our cardiovascular vessels will relax, the blood vessel walls will become thinner, and the blood vessel pressure will decrease, thus extending our lifespan.

With different attitudes towards stress, we will see that people at the age of 50 will have health problems, while some people will live to the age of 90 in good health.

3. The stress reduction mechanism is interpersonal relationships.

One of the functions of stress that is not valued by us is to promote people's social skills. The stress response itself has a stress reduction mechanism, and this mechanism is interpersonal relationships.

When it comes to interpersonal relationships, we have to mention the social hormone---- oxytocin; as a social hormone, oxytocin can enhance trust between people.

Oxytocin is a stress hormone and a natural anti-inflammatory component; it affects the human brain, makes the heart beat faster, and prompts us to seek support for the physiological stress response. It makes us want to find others to talk to about the difficulties and pressures in life, hoping to get care and help from the people around us.

Oxytocin is also a neurohormone . It can mobilize the social ability of the brain to enhance people's relationships. It can also strengthen empathy through physical contact in friendship, making us more willing to help others.

When we use pressure as a boost, our thoughts and actions will be transformed into motivation, allowing pressure to communicate better with our own hearts; when we face pressure, we will actively choose interpersonal interaction, Believe that you can handle the challenges in life.

When we spend more time caring for others, our body's fatal risks will not be affected by stress at all. Instead, we build stronger resilience by caring for others, and the impact of stress on our health can be avoided.

Extensive social contact and social support will be beneficial to our physical health.

Essential reading:

The origin of the world lies in yin and yang. Master the thinking of yin and yang to open up the underlying logic, and your life will benefit from it.

The four core thinking of human cognition: global thinking, local thinking, extreme thinking, change thinking

The three major thinking of solving problems: logic Thinking, horizontal thinking, critical thinking

The three major individual thinking that achieve the glory of life: systematic thinking, brand thinking, super individual thinking

Goal, value, review, correction, iteration, leverage, compound interest. The seven major thinkings that make great masters

Finally , Pressure is both a crisis and an opportunity

Pressure is both a crisis and an opportunity for us; if we cannot view it correctly, we will be crushed by it; if we can view it as an opportunity Through dialogue and challenges, we will be greeted with greater improvement and growth.

When facing pressure, don’t try to escape. Only by courageously pursuing the meaning behind overcoming pressure can our body be healthier and our career be more successful.