Tutu’s mother was in great pain and even lost hope in her son. Because every time Tutu is brought to a new environment, he is like an "unscheduled little bomb" that may "explode" anytime, anywhere. He may suddenly cry, lose his temper, or even hit someone. What's worse is that no matter what he does, There was no way to make him stop.
Many autistic parents have mentioned that because of their children's often abnormal behavior, they may collapse, lose their temper, and scream at any time in public places, making them not only "unable to take them out", but also need long-term companionship, but in order to To avoid embarrassment or, as netizens say, lock up your children and isolate them from the world?
This is obviously wrong. For children with autism, only by having more contact with society can they get more opportunities to learn and adapt to society, so that children can integrate into society in a more decent and appropriate manner. .
When children lose control of their emotions in public places, here are some suggestions, I hope parents can refer to them!
1. Parents should analyze the reasons why their children cry and collapse, record the scene, and practice this scene when they get home. Combining social stories and game intervention strategies, we conduct scene simulations to allow children with autism to practice the required behaviors and language performance with familiar people in simulated situations, so as to improve children's coping skills in social interaction.
2. Parents should also observe carefully, understand or record the situations in which children are prone to emotional agitation or aggressive behavior, and provide corresponding targeted training in this regard. For example, if a child is sensitive to noisy environments or music, then slowly train his ability to adapt to the environment. For environments that cannot be changed or cannot be adapted, take him as far away as possible.
3. Faced with their children’s sudden emotions in public, many parents will often straighten their faces and scold their children very harshly. When children feel their parents’ harsh accusations, their emotions are not calmed down, but become increasingly out of control. .
Parents should calm down first, and should not lose their temper or reprimand loudly, so as not to irritate their children. Then you can take the child to a relatively safe place and calm him down slowly. You can also use your child’s favorite toys, books, videos, etc. But it should be noted that we cannot give toys directly to the child when he collapses, as this will not stabilize the child's mood. We can play next to it first, and then describe aloud how interesting the toy is. When the child calms down, we can immediately give the toy to the child and say to him: You are quiet now! Let's play with toys!
4. When the child’s emotions calm down, parents can try to guide the child to explain why he or she is out of control. Try to guide the child to express his or her emotional feelings. This is actually a good opportunity for parent-child communication. In addition to the fact that the child can clearly feel I feel that my parents are empathizing with my feelings, and they can better understand their children's inner thoughts.
Although it is important to solve the child's current emotional out-of-control, what is more important is whether parents can teach their children to identify emotions. After learning to identify emotions, whether they can teach their children the appropriate way to express emotions, because the correct way to convey emotions can avoid sudden emotions. lost control.
When raising an autistic child, families often have to bear a heavy burden and psychological pressure. What we can do is give people with autism more understanding and acceptance.
